This content is an introductory session for the "Unbeatable Leader Challenge," focusing on the foundational principle of "body first" as the key to achieving integration, freedom, and an unbeatable mind. It emphasizes that true transformation comes not from theory, but from understanding and applying principles through consistent practice, starting with the physical self.
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We'll just we'll go ahead and get
started. So, I'm going to go ahead and
flip the camera around. Everybody go
>> Hya. Good to see everybody. I got all
your faces on screen. Well, not all of
them, but uh a lot of familiar faces.
Really nice to see you back here. Um
welcome to unbeatable leader challenge
number three.
four. Wow,
I missed one. Who led that one?
>> I'm here with Christian and Stephanie.
We're in our studio in um Myiramar, uh
San Diego, and it's about 40 degrees in here,
here,
so they're keeping me on my toes. Uh but
like Christian said, there are Navy
Seals sitting in the surf right now, so
I got nothing to complain about. Um,
Um,
yeah. Wow. January 2026. What a what a
year it's already been, huh? Holy cow.
Uh, well, we're going to make uh this uh
time you're going to spend with me in
the next couple days valuable uh to help
make this year a real uh transformative
year. Like
my dream for y'all is that, you know,
like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly,
this is the year that you break through,
break out of whatever limitations or
constrictions are holding you back. Um
because it's all mind generated. Like
the only the only thing holding you back
is you
regardless of what you might perceive to
be your barriers or limitation is simply
you. Your perception of your reality. So
alls I can do here is to help you see
that and it's going to be different for
every one of you, right? We're going to
talk about things that actually for you
know for most of you here you already
have heard me talk about this stuff ad
nauseium right um but as you probably
know especially those of you who join me
on the performance coaching every month
which is a number of you uh it's not so
much the theory right because there's
only so much theory you can cram into
your small brain and theory is
meaningless it's just a heap of words uh
so I throw a bunch of a bunch of words
out, but it really is how you understand
those words, what meaning you give to
those words, and then what are you going
to do with your understanding of the
meaning of those words? And every one of
you will have a different take on it.
Right? If I were to take five of you out
of the, you know, out of that room, the
Zoom room, and put you right around me,
and ask you for your interpretation of
what I just said or or the theory, and
I'm going to give five different answers
because your world is your world. And
your world is based upon your
perception, your beliefs, which create
your reality, which then also dictates
what you look for in the world, which
reinforces your belief and reinforces
your perceptual reality. So what we can
do here is uh create some sort of like
commonality of understanding or cons a
new consensus reality around uh maybe
something that's a little bit more
powerful than what you've been taught or
spoonfed right your entire lives.
So it's uh it's not so much the theory
but it's how you interpret the theory.
And then um in between the theory
because of the nature of the way I teach
is where all the good stuff comes.
Right? So I don't have any idea what I'm
going to say. Uh and I don't mean that
like I'm not prepared because I am
prepared. Uh what I mean is the good
stuff comes through spontaneous um
um spontaneous
spontaneous
knowledge come or or wisdom I guess you
could call it uh coming at the right
moment for maybe just one of you right
or maybe all of you. Um it's a way I say
something. It's a new vector, right? So
if you think about just like this world
is a fractal there's a there's an
infinite number of vectors to be able to
perceive reality. And so alls I'm doing
is like I'm like a magnifying glass
who's going to open up the aperture so
you see things from a new angle. And it
might be just one thing you hear over
the next two days that changes
everything. It's like it's like a
cascading creates a cascading failure in
maybe one uh one kind of uh sub routine
of your mental programming which then
allows for an entirely new set of uh
programming or information to come in.
That's what we're looking for. We're
looking for those moments, those ahas,
those crystallizations, those moments
where like suddenly you have a
completely new understanding of either
something which that something will lead
to a new understanding of yourself which
is ultimately all you really have is
this idea of who I am um understanding
the self.
So really that's what we're doing here
now is unbeatable leader the unbeatable
mind system um like
like
is it unique in a sense um not really I
mean there's there's a lot of training
methodologies out there um but it is
different in the sense that it's it's um
it's probably the first and truly fully
integrated uh program right that that
that covers is the full dimensionality
of the human being. Uh so that's why
we're going to start today with at the
beginning uh which is this the beginning
is basically your body. So we start by
really paying attention to your body
because obviously that's something that
we identify with and we're super
attached to and so we need to take care
of it but we also need to develop a
little sense of non-attachment to the
body. At any rate so you're in a good
place and I appreciate you being here.
Um that's my welcome. What are we doing
here and why? Well, what we're doing is
uh understanding and um a powerful way
to train
uh to train your body, mind, the
totality of who you are to become
essentially a fully integrated human being.
being.
Now, in a fully integrated human
society, this stuff would be taught uh
probably starting in maybe third or
fourth grade and uh by the end of high
school, we would all be fully integrated
human beings or darn close, right? We'd
be we'd be young, mature human beings.
But the problem is uh there's no
incentive to do that in our culture
because a fully human a fully integrated
human being has total agency has zero
fear has complete compassion and
understanding understands this this the
fact that the the story of separation is false
false
is content
contentedness equals peace of mind. uh
isn't susceptible to manipulation,
right? Isn't susceptible to um indoctrination.
indoctrination.
A fully integrated human being is free.
In other words, and as I say all that,
you can sense that very very very very
very very
few human beings are fully integrated
because we're completely captured
and the depth of the capture is is
absolutely hidden from everyone's view
including our own. Like I I will even
admit that the depth of the capture of
my mind is still partly hidden from me.
And in be mind I call that your
background of obviousness. And it starts
with language.
Like the language that you're taught is
absolutely part of your conditioning.
And it traps you in a limited narrow
range of operating.
And that's not even the worst of it
because it's not just the the language,
it's your interpretation of language of
the words. Everyone's got different
interpretation of the words that they're
that they're fed or taught. And so I
could say the word spirituality or
meditation or even integration and
everyone's going to have a different
idea what that means. And so we're all
trapped in this limited construct based
upon starting with language and then all
the different every single every single
thing that occurs in your life. Every
interaction, every piece of information
you take in, every news feed you read,
every interaction with your parents and
you know schoolard friends or peers or
bullies, your church, everything then
becomes part of your your matrix, your
understanding, your belief systems. And
then you try to prop that up as if it's
true and it's not. It's all just it's
all just training. So you've been
trained and conditioned to be a certain
way. And what I'm trying to do here is
to decondition to give you the tools,
the information to begin to decondition
and deconstruct all of that stuff which
is just
so that you can then reconstruct a life
that's based upon freedom. That's what
we're doing here.
That's cool. Um I find that very
motivating at least. So that's what
we're doing. And of course the why
that's for you to decide.
For me, there's nothing more motivating
than freedom.
Does anybody else share that?
Yeah, I think most most people do. I
think the drive toward freedom is a
fundamental aspect of our humanity,
right? The the true humanity within us,
right? Our true self like our you know
not the conditioned back on obvious ego
self but the true self
is free and so you you have a sense that
that's where you need to head
need to go. So that's that's my why. um
you have to kind of determine your own
why because ultimately the why is going
to drive what happens after this
training right
and after this training all you got is practice
practice
right so every day I want to develop in
you or have you develop the capacity to
see your life as a practice and you've
heard me say this before and in your
life you only have today. And so today
is a practice and how you start your
day, how you proceed through your day,
how you end your day, and how you
prepare for the next day is all a
practice. And the practices that we're
going to talk about will all lead you
toward freedom.
And that's what I mean by unbeal mind.
An unbeal mind is a free mind, right?
Free from all the negative conditioning
and and things that are holding you
back. And it's a never- ending process.
There's no there there. Uh there's just
more and more freedom. I love that. All
right. Um
here's the plan.
Check. Welcome everybody.
Uh we're going to do a spot drill. So
you all stand up now. We're going to do
a quick spot drill. We're going to go
into our first content session which is
talking about the body and the
importance of the body and why that must
come first. Right? This is something you
know those of you who know me this is
inc. This is my like box breathing and
body first are kind of like Mark Divine
signatures. You can't leave your body
behind. You must bring your body with
you on your journey. Otherwise you're
leaving most of your mind behind because
your mind and your body are not two
things. It's not two. Then we're going
to talk about identity and pressure and
what happens to identity under pressure.
And then we're going to talk about self- command.
command.
And then we're going to talk about
communities of practice. And and then
we'll be done unless you're staying with
me uh for the second session uh we're
calling uh premium or VIP where we're
going to do like Q&A and coaching. So in
this first hour and a half, it's not
coaching. It's me kind of teaching uh
conveying ideas and whatnot. Um if we
have time toward the end for some
questions, we'll take it. But the
questions are reserved for the second
hour and a half. So if you're not
joining me there, consider jumping to
that. Excuse me. All right. So quick
spot drill.
Since our focus today is body first,
we're going to do um and Dave Dave Weber
is going to lead. I'm just kidding,
Dave. You do enough of that. We're going
to do a real quick uh five rounds of 20
air squats, 10 push-ups,
20 second plank. Okay. And I'm going to
do it with my my jacket on because I've
got this, you know, headset and can't
take it off. All right. But I will
button it so it doesn't go flying. All
right. If um if you have a physical
limitation, then modify, right? If you
don't feel like doing it, then um I I
challenge you to question that feeling
because body first. When you move your
body, guess what? You're going to
stimulate energy. You're going to you
get the blood flowing. You're going to
clear your mind. And oh, by the way,
we're a team. Teams train together. Here
we go. First round. 20 squats. Down.
Two. And three. And four. And five. And
six. Seven. And eight. Nine. Modify as necessary.
Three. And four. And five. Six. 7. 8. 9.
20. Hooya. Push-up position. 10 reps.
Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. 6. 7. 8.
Hya.
It's six weeks
today from my latest shoulder surgery
and I'm doing push-ups. All right, on
your feet. Second set.
That's the power of the the healing
power of the body. Down. Down. Down.
Three. Down. Four. Five. Six. Seven.
Eight. Nine. 10. One. Two. Three. Four.
Five. 6. 7. 8. 9. And 20. Watch your
form. Straight spine. Push-ups.
Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. Six.
Seven. Eight. Nine. And 10.
Go at your own pace and plank. Hooya.
Hooya.
Straight as a board. Strengthen that core.
core.
Moving the energy.
Five, four, three, two. On your feet.
Good job. Round three. Here we go. Down.
Down. Two. Three.
Five. 6 7
9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
9
20 push-ups
down. Two, three, four, five, six,
seven, eight, nine, 10. Plant.
Plant. Huya.
Huya.
You thought you were going to just sit
there all cozy and just listen to Mark
Brattle on? No.
No.
Got to take care of that body and on
your feet.
Okay, the last two rounds are challenges
to breathe only through our nose.
Okay, the only one who should breathe
breathing through your mouth is me
because I'm talking. Breathe through
your nose. Ready? Down. Two, three,
four. Keep that mouth closed. Five 6 7 8
9 10. Good job. 1. 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
20. Good. Plank position. Easy day.
Almost there. Down. Two. Three. Four.
Five. Six. Seven. Eight. Nine. 10. And
plank. Breathe through the nose.
Easy day.
Piece of cake. Hyahe.
Hyahe.
We got this
all the way.
Five 4 3 two one. On your feet. Last set.
set.
Last set. Best set. Hooya. Let me see
you smile. Here we go. Down.
2 3 4 5 6
8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 and 20.
Last set of push-ups.
Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. Six.
Seven. Eight. Nine. 20. I mean 10. Plank.
Plank.
Five. Four. Three. Two. one. Good. All right,
All right,
go ahead. Either remain standing or sit
down. We're just do a few rounds.
Tactical breathing. Mouth closed. Inhale
through the nose
Exhale. We're going to add some holds.
We'll do like a three count. Inhale.
Three count. Hold. Inhale. Hold.
Hold. Exhale.
Hold. Inhale.
Hold.
Hold. Exhale.
Awesome. Hooya. Keep your eyes closed
and just get a sense for
And so you can start by feeling the
If you're standing, you feel the weight
of the gravity is experienced as if the
earth is pushing up against you. You
actually don't feel the downward
pressure. You just feel the the
opposite. You feel the as if the earth
is pushing up. So feel that. If you're
sitting down, you feel it as the chair
is pushing up against you.
So that's the weight, like the mass, the
perceived mass of your body.
So it gives you the sense that your body
is a thing.
It's got a mass to it.
But now take a moment to just reflect
upon the energy of the body.
You can feel the energy
Body is energy. Energy is flowing
through the body. It's enlivening all
the cells,
And and that energy is also life force.
So get a sense of the the aliveness of
your body.
What would it be like if it wasn't
alive? Well, you wouldn't be able to
perceive it, right?
So, life and perception go handinand glove.
glove.
They're not separate.
Conscious awareness and life
are not separate. They're the same thing.
Now just get a you know this is more of
a intellectual thing but just take a
moment to appreciate just the incredible complexity
complexity
how your respiratory function by
inhaling naturally. Unless you're doing
box breathing, you don't have to think
about it.
It's automatic and the body has the
capacity through the lungs to extract oxygen
oxygen
and have that oxygen then enter the
bloodstream and circulate throughout
your body.
And you have the ability to consume
water and food
food
which as soon as you consume it and
swallow it, you don't have to think
about anymore. But then the body does
this miracle of taking the nutrients out
to nourish the body,
keep it strong, hydrated,
hydrated,
and eliminate whatever doesn't belong,
toxins, the waste. Eliminated through
the breath, through the skin, through
sweat, and through other means that
you're well aware of.
Extraordinary, isn't it?
Now get a sense of your self-perception,
your self-concept of the body.
Now this is where it gets a little
philosophical because most people
identify as the body.
So you can ask yourself that, do I
And if that's true, even if it's not
true that you identify with the body,
you you have some self-concept of your
body. Now ask yourself, is it a good
Many people aren't in our culture
because we don't have a a physical culture.
culture.
We have a distraction culture which
likes to keep you distracted from health
and fill you with garbage foods and then
when you get out of balance fill you
with pharmacological interventions which
make things worse and disconnect you
from your body ultimately even your
mind. So if if if you've gone through
period of your life or
or you feel like you you're not
satisfied your body just note that don't judge.
judge.
This is a nonjudgment zone. We're not
talking about judgment.
We're talking about satisfaction or
dissatisfaction. And dissatisfaction is
one of the greatest motivators.
So, if you're carrying extra weight or
you've got some injuries or you feel
maybe you're too old to train or or too
weak or or whatever, those are all stories.
And just consider for a moment this idea
that if the body and mind are not two,
not separate things, the body and the
mind are all intertwined, interweven,
interleed, they are not two, then
wouldn't a healthy body equate to a
healthy mind?
I mean, that's just logic 101.
101.
Okay, open your eyes.
Throw up slide three just for a second.
I've got a few slides. Christian's going
to be able to put them on the board, but
I think you also have these, right?
Did they get sent these?
All right, we're going to send a slide
deck for today. It's simple stuff. Um,
so I'll be referencing it though. That's
not it. Um, that's not it. That's tomorrow.
Okay.
So the first thing I want to talk about
which I've already referenced earlier is
the idea of going from theory to
practice which leads toward
uh what a lot of people call mastery.
Uh, and I can use that term too, but
mastery is one of those words, like I
said, that everyone's going to have a
different orientation to. And it seems
unobtainable to most people because, you
know, we put um masters in a special
category, right? Like masters of a
martial art who do miraculous things or
masters of yoga who, you know, do
miraculous. And so, let's just call it integration,
integration, right?
right?
uh to to spend a lifetime training your
body in a certain way so you can run up
walls. Yay. Right? What what is that
going to give you except the ability to
run up walls? It's it doesn't mean
anything, right? It's a it's a trick of
the ego. So when we think when we talk
about mastery, we're talking about
integration to be a fully fully
embodied, fully integrated adult which
is free who is free. free from fear,
free from anxiety, free from shame, free
from guilt, free from any of those
negative energies,
free to pursue
your meaning in your life based upon
your understanding of your purpose,
passion, and principles and um and and a
a a self-concept of why you're here in
your own developmental journey. So, let
me just state this. Why do we start with
the body? Because when when we go from theory
theory
into practice, you can't leave the body
behind. I'll say it again. You can't
leave the body behind.
And um this is probably one of the great
benefits of
body centric practices such as Tai Chi
or Kiang or or yoga. uh but here in the
west that a lot of that uh those have
been conflated to exercise or just
health benefits and what I'm trying to
suggest is that all integrated training
when you want to head toward freedom
you've got to bring the body along and
what I mean by that is you've got to get healthy
healthy
as healthy as possible you've got to
eradicate disease ultimately eradicate
the potential for disease and live free
because if you're not free in your body,
then you're not free in your mind. And
here's the fact, the the test for that,
right? The the um the litmus test for
that is
every day, right, you wake up and you
you you seems like you've got
10 different problems or challenges,
right, that occupy your attention.
And you go about your day, you know,
navigating those challenges and those obstacles.
obstacles.
But when you get sick,
like the kind of sickness that pins you
to your bed and you're puking or you you
can't move because you got a major
injury like a snowmobile accident where
you hit a tree at 40 miles an hour and
your body is shattered or something like
that in case that ever happens to you,
then you only have one problem. Am I
right? You only have one problem
and that's your health.
And so the reality is you always only
have one problem and that's to maintain
a healthy body and mind, clarity and
physical health and vitality.
And with that then all the other
seemingly problems you have
are pretty easy.
>> You're able to navigate them.
Ultimately you see them as uh not as
problems but as opportunities.
But it's very hard to do that when your
body is constantly sick because it's
constantly or or broken or injured or un
or you just have this general feeling of
not being
physically strong because it's bleeding
off a big chunk of your willpower, your
And so you want your body to be as
inconspicuous to your attention and your
life as digestion is.
It should be the way you move should be
spontaneous and effortless.
Right? If you need to to go, you know,
run after uh a child, you know, who's
running on the road, it should be
spontaneous and effortless. You
shouldn't be like, "Oh, I can't do that
because I've got a hurt knee or
something like that." No. If you need
to, you know, do anything like, again,
I'm I'm taking crises for an example,
but if you need to crawl out of a
burning building through the a window
that's above you, like a pull-up, it
should be effortless and spontaneous.
Your body should never be the limiting
factor in your life. And I just want to
keep hammering that home. And never,
never, never. And it doesn't matter your age.
age.
Your body without your mind is simply an
inanimate object.
The mind and life force animate the body
and then the body follows the
instructions of the mind.
And it can go the other way when your
mind is out of control. If your mind
isn't in your control, then what we say
like the seal candidates is where your
body leads your mind will follow. So if
your body's feeling fatigued, your mind
is going to say, "Oh, I am fatigued."
Because you identify with a body.
And guess what? That statement, I am
fatigued, tells the body that it's
fatigued. And guess what? It gets more fatigued.
fatigued.
But if your mind is in control because
you've learned to control your body,
what you'll say is,
"I am strong.
The body is experiencing temporary
fatigue. Let's get through that. Let's
do something to change that." and the
body will comply because you're giving
So to go from the theory that I'm trying
to suggest that body comes first, you
can't leave your body behind. The body
is the experience machine of your mind.
It's not separate. They're the two of
the same thing. No mind, no body. No
body, no mind. Right? You you can't have
the experience on this plane of a
It's possible that you could have the
experience of a disembodied mind in
another dimension. I don't know. That's
beyond the scope of my understanding.
But it's not possible to have the
disembodied mind on this plane in this
human experience. So the body and the
mind go together. They're not two.
They're not separate.
That's theory. Okay. In practice, what
does that mean? It means that we train
the two together,
right? The most powerful meditation is
walking meditation or or fitness
meditation, right? Or Tai Chi or
movement meditation.
Because when all if all you do is sit
and you're not and you're disemboding,
you're you're basically acting from here
up, then you're missing
most of what you need to perceive,
which is your emotional life,
the sensations and emotions,
and those are affected by the health of
the body. Okay, that's practice. So, I
want you to understand that every time
you move your body, you're training your
mind. You're not just training your
body. And where do you not move your
body? You should you move it. You move
it to work. You move it around work. You
move it during the day. You move it to
through exercise. You should move it
through your squat drills and sematic
drills. And learn to get off your butt
and standing up more, walking around
more. Don't let your body
You know, like the whole transhuman
movement that we don't need your body.
We're just going to plug you into the
machine and artificial intelligence and
guess what? You're toast. Bye-bye. H
human 1.0.
The body is this unbelievably powerful,
miraculous experience machine. We've got
to give it the respect that it deserves.
Okay, enough said on that. I'm sorry to
sound a little preachy, but it's really
important. And it's through that
practice that'll get you to mastery. And
mastery for us is integration.
And we're going to talk uh about the
five mountains tomorrow, which um most
of you are familiar with. And the
process of integration and what that is like
like
and how do you affect that? Like how do
you how do you make that a certainty in
your life? Because integration is your birthright.
birthright.
When you're born, you're not integrated.
That's a falsehood. Like when you're
born, you're just a raw material.
And then we have the we're not
integrated as youth, but we have the
capacity as we develop into wholeness,
young adulthood, to be integrated. But
like I said earlier, we are not taught
this. And so we end up getting fractured
and separated into these separate little
silos. We got the body over here. No one
really no one gives the body enough um
you know energy or or attention or
training and not anymore. And so we got
to got to really double click on that
all the health factors which we're going
to talk about the six pillars in a
second. You know how do we like really
re-engage that? And then the mind right
how do we train the mind beyond just
consuming content which is actually
leading us further and further away from
freedom. And then how do we train our
emotions? How do we become aware of our
emotions and then intuition and then uh
this fuzzy word spirit which we'll dis
define a little bit more tomorrow. Um
so integration is all of that coming
together to be experienced as one
wholeness as opposed to distinct
separate things that get ignored.
And when mo most people think of
integration, they think of you like
individual, family, finances, church,
right, relationships. And th those are
just roles, right, that we play or those
are things we do in this dreamlike world
of ours to get by with a current story.
That's not integration. Integration is
taking all the broken off parts of
yourself, the physical part, your mental
parts, your emotional parts, your
intuitive parts, and your spiritual
parts, which are not parts, but you're
you're hidden. You're hiding it from
yourself and bringing it all together
into one experience of wholeness,
fully human adult wholeness.
And that experience of wholeness, like I
said earlier, is one of freedom and contentment.
contentment.
No lack, no limitation,
no fear.
I think those are the most worthy
pursuits, right? The other pursuits that
uh you know peak performance or other
you know programs talk about such as
manifestation and you know financial
abundance and
um and even relationship health. Those
are all those will come as a byproduct
of wholeness.
We don't chase them as individual
pursuits in and of themsel because that
just takes you further away from
integration. We first find integration
and then all of those other things are
attracted to us. Right? That's that's
the theory and that's the reality. Okay.
So, uh Christian pull up the next slide. So
right? The way we have this one is
stress management. That's a really big
one. We're going to talk about that a
little bit um
tomorrow or or today actually
and tomorrow.
Burnout, it's a big deal. So stress
management And and let me uh again
foundation I'm using this as like to
reinforce the need to take care of your
body but these six pillars include the
mind and so when I say take care of your
body I'm saying take care of the the
first layer of your mind which is the
perceptual capacity of your brain
right your brain and your heart brain
and your gut brain right so those are
part of your body but they affect the
perceptual capacity
which you experience as mind.
Mind and brain system, heart, gut, it's
all like
right. It's the physical, it's the
physical component of the mind.
So if the brain is not healthy, then
your mind is not going to be operating
effectively. And if the body is not
healthy, then the brain is not healthy.
Again, so simple. And again, the fact
check on this to validate my truth
statement is if you have a brain injury,
effectively?
You're going to be perceiving a reality,
but in the consensus reality, it's going
to be distorted.
And and anyone who's been around a brain
injured person knows what I'm talking
about. You have big memory gaps.
Um my my brother-in-law had a major
brain injury. He was hit over the head
with a tire law tire iron and he didn't
get any treatment for it. And um 10
years later like he's operating at about
a fiveyear level, 5-year-old level. He
can't take care of himself, right? He
can barely speak and he's when he does
speak, he speaks at about a five-year level.
level.
very strong body, but he got clanked
over the head and his brain isn't
functioning. So, it it it dramatically
affected his perceptual reality and
there's no coming back from that for
him. It's too far gone. So,
my point is brain, mind
are not two, right? So, we've got to
take care of the mind and the brain.
Stress management is one of the most
important things because stress in the
body leads to anxiety in the mind and
unresolved stress over time builds up in
the body, right? It's just like
constantly layering and layering and
layering and we have compensating
mechanisms for that. Um and
unfortunately those are unhealthy
such as drugs, alcohol, uh even
addiction to exercise, you know, and
getting into a um overtrained state is
is something I'd noticed quite a bit. Um
and pharmacological interventions which
further poison the body. So stress
management is critical.
But part of stress management is um
nutrition like what you put in your
body, right? So that's the second pillar
and all these ultimately relate and they
come together in integration right you
don't have to think about these things
just you because you've trained them so
much that they just become part and
parcel of your everyday life your
practices but looking very closely and
paying attention to the quality and the
quantity and the the timing of your
nutritional your food intake. You don't
need a fancy diet. You just need to
follow your intuition. And then
intuition is saying don't eat sugar
and don't eat things that turn into
sugar right away. Okay, that's principle
number one. Don't eat sugar and don't
eat sugar things that turn into sugar
right away. What turns into sugar right
away? Like simple processed carbohydrates,
carbohydrates,
junk food, you know, barcode food. Stay
away from barcode food if you can,
unless it's high quality.
And hydrate, right? your body 78% water,
then you should be drinking 78% of your
fluid should be water.
Okay? And if you drink some juice,
that's fine, but know that there's sugar
in it usually.
>> Um, and if you drink a glass of wine,
make sure you drink a glass of water.
So, you need to have lots of fresh
water. Drink more water. Eat no sugar.
And those two things right there will be
like principalbased eating will have a
dramatic effect in your life.
And then of course you need a lot of
protein and you need high quality food
protein sources that aren't contaminated,
contaminated,
right? So find the local grown, local
harvested whatever meats, fish
and uh support your local farmers
market. Same thing with the vegetables.
You need high quality uh recently um
harvested vegetables that have the
highest prana, the highest nutritional value
value
and uh you can only get those from
locally grown sources that have the
highest nutritional intake. If you eat
like this uh you wouldn't need any supplementation.
supplementation.
Now the other thing in nutrition is
think about this. Uh because our
corporate interests want you to buy a
lot of food, they tell you you've got to
eat three square meals a day. That's a fantasy.
fantasy.
That's a fantasy. Who says?
I don't. Um you eat when you're hungry,
sleep when you're tired,
right? That's natural rhythm. So
consider eating less.
Consider eating less food. You can do
that by reducing your portions. Uh
reducing the number of meals, two meals
instead of three. Doesn't mean you can
have can't have a small snack. You can
do that through intermittent fasting or
fast mimicking.
Studies prove that if you reduce the
quantity, the caloric intake, you
increase health and longevity.
It's a no-brainer. But if you're
addicted to eating a lot of food, then
that's a mental issue. You have to pay
attention to that and break free of that addiction.
addiction.
So nutrition is a huge thing because you
are what you eat both in terms of
content that you feed yourself and the
food and liquid that you put in your
body. It's going to have a massive
effect on your health and along with
stress, getting stress out of your life.
So that's the second pillar. The third
pillar we we say um
what does it say? I can't even read
this. Exercise and movement.
This is a big one. So, we did a spot
drill today. Uh that was super simple,
right? If you felt like that was hard,
then just keep doing that every day
until it's easy because um that was a
simple little drill. Five rounds, 20
squats, 10 push-ups, 20 second or 30
second plank. You could do that every
day when you wake up or some variation
of that. And if that's all you do and
you do it with attention and with
quality and with awareness, which is
mindful movement, then your body will
start to take that and be like, "Yes,
this is really good, right? I'm I'm
doing a lot of really powerful motion."
Just think about that. Your squats are
exercising your entire lower range and
your lower lumbar and your your posture,
right? So, you're strengthening your
ankles, your knees, your hips, your
lower lumbar, and even your core. And
then the push-ups, same thing. They're
strengthening your shoulders, your arms,
your back, your chest, your lower
lumbar. And when you finally learn how
to do them well, you've got your glutes
and your legs engaged. It's a full body exercise.
exercise.
And the plank is just icing on the cake
there. And you're learning to breathe
through your nose, calm yourself down,
and to really enjoy that movement. And
there's infinite variety you can come up
like we learned this through seal fit.
Um and some of you have trained in seal
fit. It's infinite variety. You could
probably go your entire life and never
do the same workout twice. Just change
up. And if you never do anything but
body weight, that's awesome. But
ideally, we're going to end up putting
some weights into the routine like
kettle bells or dumbbells. uh if you
want to get fancy barbells, but learning
how to move effectively and exercise
your body. Now, what this does, which is
different than nutrition and stress
management, is it introduces ustress
into your life. So, you have distress,
stress, and ustress. So, you know what
we really should have said in the first
pillar is distress management,
right? Because what you need to do is
manage distress and what you need to do
is introduce ustress. So ustress, eust
stress is exercise and movement.
And so what we do is we take our body to
a place that's uncomfortable
and we get comfortable with that
discomfort so that the next time we do
it, we can go a little bit further
and induce a little bit more discomfort.
And it's that it's riding that edge of
discomfort where we develop capacity.
That capacity shows up in the human body
as strength,
as the ability to do work without
getting injured.
And we call that durability, the ability
to go for a lifetime without getting
injured and even fatigued. It shows up
as stamina.
Stamina is the ability to do a lot of
work over time. It shows up as
endurance, which is cardiovascular
capacity, the ability to go for long
walks, long hikes, runs, swims, and it
shows up as functional capacity, the
ability to do things that you normally
would need to do in life that you might
be avoiding or you might be saying, "I
can't do that because I it's not me."
Uh, or you might say, "I need help." And
and when you train yourself, you don't
need help, right? You don't suddenly you
can do these things and it feels good.
And all of that leads to confidence
and all of it leads to um that what we
talked about earlier this body which
then becomes uh in unconscious
confidence where you don't have to think
about it anymore. It doesn't distract
you. You can turn all of that attention
to greater pursuits instead of stressing
stressing about your body. And just do a
thought experiment for me now. Right
now, how much time
and energy do you put into your body
every day? Think about it. You wake up
and you use the restroom and and maybe
you brush your teeth and you drink some
water. Oh, got to have your coffee,
right? Or your tea. That's all body,
right? Uh and then you're going to move
your body. You're going to go to the
gym. You're exercise. That's all body.
Now, it's body mind. We know here our
training, but right um
you might then do something later to get
the body out of a state of fatigue,
right? Think about all that. Then you
feed your body. You feed, you know, most
people feed at breakfast and then they
feed at lunch and then they feel like
they're getting fatigued so they have
another cup of coffee and then they feed
at dinner and if you were if you and
then you sleep for eight hours
or by the way because you're bored and
distracted you put on Netflix and eat a
bowl of popcorn. So that's all your
body. Like if you add it all up out of
the eight hours or or 16 hours of your
waking day, you know, probably a good
four or five hours are spent just on the body.
body.
It's wild, huh? So what we want to do is
is train the body so it a lot of what
you do is completely effortless
effortless
and you don't have to think about it.
you do it for because it's joyful.
Okay, the next pillar um is really
important. I read it sleep and recovery.
Have to have really good sleep,
effective sleep,
right? And then during the day, you want
to take time to recover. So, my primary
make sure that for the two hours or so
before you go to bed, you're you're
eliminating all stimulation as as much
as possible. It's very hard for people
to do that. Even if you could just uh do
it an hour, if you shut off the TV, shut
off your phone, um
um
don't eat anything, don't drink
anything, and just use that time to
reflect, to journal, or to read or to
communicate with your significant other
and and uh process anything that's
negative, anything that is is bugging
you from the day. That's the part of the
evening ritual. Get it out of your head,
get it onto paper.
and you will find the quality of your
sleep will dramatically improve.
Okay? Stress management will help with
this. Exercise will help. Nutrition will
help. But beyond those things, the
biggest thing you can do is eliminate
the stimulants an hour or more before
bedtime. That's huge.
Um, there's a lot of other strategies
for sleep that you can easily gro. Uh, I
don't need to go into it right now, but
it's really important. Now, when it
comes to recovery, I don't just mean
physical recovery. So, with your
physical training, you're going to want
to build in active recovery and rest
days. We know that. So, build that into
your training plan. Uh, and also like
times where you just kind of like back
off and train lightly if you've been
training really hard. That's all
important for recovery. What I'm really
most interested in is daytoday recovery
from just exertion. not necessarily
exercise. So exertion can be like uh um
a really intense meeting or any kind of
meeting any anywhere where you're
putting thought you know energy in uh so
like work setting um
um
you we we need to take time after every
deep work session or every meeting or
everything that's like you consider to
be an important thing in your day. take
time afterwards to recover.
This is like the the the balancing of of
um what I uh call effort and surrender,
right? Effort and surrender. You put in
effort, but then you need to back off
and surrender. And what happens? So, one
example of this is this is what I do is
schedule my meetings for 45 or 50 minutes
minutes
and and I might have another meeting at
the top of the hour, but from the 50
minute mark until the hour, I've got 10
minutes. And in that 10 minutes, I got
time to recover. I've got time to let my
mind kind of distill everything that
happened in the meeting or that, you
know, whatever was happening beforehand.
I got time to do some breathing. Uh I've
got time to walk around, uh maybe check
in with uh somebody else. Those are spot
drills. And spot drills are about recovery.
recovery.
And the research is is out in this too, right?
right?
When you do this, you give your brain a
chance to assimilate and relax, which
then gives you tremendous much more
energy for your next thing that's on
your docket. Because if you just go uh
hour to hour to hour to hour, you don't
have that that break to pause, digest,
recover, and you drag a lot of energy
from each, you know, each meeting into
the next meeting. And it builds up and
it creates this drag effect on you,
right? until by the end of the day or
midday uh you're completely depleted.
Right? This is why willpower declines as
you go through your day. Motivation
declines, energy declines. But if you if
you take this one piece of advice and
just block your schedule for 50 minutes
or even 45 and do that recovery in
between, then your actual energy will
increase throughout the day. Your
motivation will increase throughout the
day because you're taking that time to
recover. And recovery simply means
bringing more energy in and getting rid
of any toxins or anything that doesn't
belong and including uh most importantly
like when things are like not ideal, not
optimal in whatever you just did. So you
process it and you let it go.
All right, I'm going to move a little
faster here through this section. So
after this um
social connection, right? So
probably the most miserable people in
the world are those lone rangers, right?
Who say they don't need anybody,
they can go it alone and they might be
able to go alone, but there's um
generally this feeling of me against the
world and they play a victim role. So we
don't want to um be a victim because
we're not. uh we create our own reality
and we're always better with others
because it's others who reflect our
minds back to us. It's others that we
learn about ourselves from. We learn it
through their behavior and we learn it
how they react to us and how we react to them.
them.
And so the best way to grow in
integration is in community with others.
whether that's a community of
practitioners like we all are or your
family members or a significant other or
even your team.
And so we want to find we all have teams
and family, but do we practice with them?
them?
If you can get your significant other to
be a in community with you in practice,
that's the holy grail.
And my example of that is my wife and I.
My wife and I do our morning ritual
together. We do our yoga together every
day. We do our workouts together every
day. We walk the dog together every day.
We do our evening meditation together
every day. We cook together every day.
And all through that time, we're having
dialogue. We're we're challenging each
other. We're asking each other
questions. We're talking about a aspects
of things that we're talking about here.
Integration. We listen to great books
together. We talk about them. That's a
community of practice. one other human
being that you can share your passion
for growth and development puts you two
into a community of practice and then
like a a larger group like this or like
in our inner when we um come together
with our inner circle. We're a smaller
team and we're a community of practice
and it's an incredible way to grow together because you can't grow in
together because you can't grow in isolation,
isolation, right? Do you think a forest would be a
right? Do you think a forest would be a forest if all those trees thought they
forest if all those trees thought they could grow alone in isolation? No. We
could grow alone in isolation? No. We wouldn't have any forests or flower
wouldn't have any forests or flower gardens. So, humanity is the same way.
gardens. So, humanity is the same way. So, it's really important. And community
So, it's really important. And community of practice requires that you bring your
of practice requires that you bring your body along and and you know, be present,
body along and and you know, be present, be embodied.
be embodied. Okay. And and the last one is so
Okay. And and the last one is so important is this idea that we are not
important is this idea that we are not separated from nature. We're not
separated from nature. We're not separated from ourselves and we're part
separated from ourselves and we're part of nature. So therefore, we're not
of nature. So therefore, we're not separate from nature. That's a
separate from nature. That's a solicitism.
solicitism. If we're not separated and we're part of
If we're not separated and we're part of nature, then we're also and and and
nature, then we're also and and and nature is part of what we are, then
nature is part of what we are, then we're not separate from nature. So we've
we're not separate from nature. So we've got to spend time in nature,
whatever that looks like for you. If you live in a city, then it might be just
live in a city, then it might be just going to the park, you know, um or just
going to the park, you know, um or just getting outside, which is fine.
getting outside, which is fine. Try to find some time every single day,
Try to find some time every single day, ideally in the morning to get the
ideally in the morning to get the morning sunlight to get outside and you
morning sunlight to get outside and you can do all of these things probably
can do all of these things probably except for the eating you can do
except for the eating you can do outside, right? Stress management. Go
outside, right? Stress management. Go outside, do some deep breathing, box
outside, do some deep breathing, box breathing, do some mindful movement,
breathing, do some mindful movement, some sematic movement, tai chi or
some sematic movement, tai chi or chiong. Doesn't have to be fancy, right?
chiong. Doesn't have to be fancy, right? That's that's mindful movement. You're
getting stress management. You're getting time in nature. If you could do
getting time in nature. If you could do it with your spouse or significant other
it with your spouse or significant other or yoga class, that's even better. So,
or yoga class, that's even better. So, you can combine all of these six pillars
you can combine all of these six pillars into a daily practice.
into a daily practice. And that right there is the key
And that right there is the key to body first lifestyle, right? Um it's
to body first lifestyle, right? Um it's super important. Now, your homework
super important. Now, your homework assignment here is to do what I call a
assignment here is to do what I call a sixpillar assessment.
sixpillar assessment. Take those six categories, right? Stress
Take those six categories, right? Stress management,
management, exercise and fitness or movement,
exercise and fitness or movement, nutrition, sleep and recovery, time in
nutrition, sleep and recovery, time in nature, and community of practice. And
nature, and community of practice. And assess yourself like how am I doing?
assess yourself like how am I doing? What do I do in each one of these? And
What do I do in each one of these? And what can I do better? Okay, what can you
what can I do better? Okay, what can you add or what can you take away? And I
add or what can you take away? And I recommend you start with a takeaway
recommend you start with a takeaway because sometimes in fact most of the
because sometimes in fact most of the time it's harder to remove something
time it's harder to remove something than it is to add something. And adding
than it is to add something. And adding something could add stress or is
something could add stress or is removing something can remove stress. So
removing something can remove stress. So start with the what can I remove? What
start with the what can I remove? What can I stop doing? And maybe that is
can I stop doing? And maybe that is something that you need to stop thinking
something that you need to stop thinking like changing a belief. Okay. So look at
like changing a belief. Okay. So look at the six pillars and step one is what am
the six pillars and step one is what am I doing now? And if it's nothing, be
I doing now? And if it's nothing, be honest about it. Or if it's once in a
honest about it. Or if it's once in a while, be honest about it. Like if you
while, be honest about it. Like if you get in nature once in a while, that's
get in nature once in a while, that's fine. What can can you do something
fine. What can can you do something every day? And what's blocking you from
every day? And what's blocking you from doing that every day? So what are you
doing that every day? So what are you doing? What can you stop doing maybe
doing? What can you stop doing maybe that's preventing things like um
that's preventing things like um sleeping, right? Are you watching
sleeping, right? Are you watching Netflix and then turning the TV off and
Netflix and then turning the TV off and trying to go to sleep? Maybe stop doing
trying to go to sleep? Maybe stop doing that, right? What can you stop doing?
that, right? What can you stop doing? And then is there anything that you can
And then is there anything that you can add? That's your homework assignment,
add? That's your homework assignment, right? This is a challenge, unbeer
right? This is a challenge, unbeer challenge. So I challenge you to do
challenge. So I challenge you to do that. And if you can come up with one
that. And if you can come up with one thing in each one of those six pillars
thing in each one of those six pillars and you can actually activate that in
and you can actually activate that in your life and habituate it and make it
your life and habituate it and make it part of your life, that alone will head
part of your life, that alone will head you toward integration. There's so many
you toward integration. There's so many ways to get there. And this is the body
ways to get there. And this is the body path. The body path to integration is
path. The body path to integration is probably the most profound and quickest
probably the most profound and quickest path.
path. Does that make sense? the body. That's
Does that make sense? the body. That's why yoga is so profound and why uh most
why yoga is so profound and why uh most really powerful paths to integration
really powerful paths to integration include some body
include some body movement.
movement. So this is the fastest path. All right,
So this is the fastest path. All right, we take a little uh
we take a little uh transition break. Let's stand up.
All right, quick spot drill and then we're going to
quick spot drill and then we're going to go uh finish up the next two sections
go uh finish up the next two sections real quick. All right, so inhale,
real quick. All right, so inhale, exhale, inhale through the nose.
All right, good. Go ahead and take a seat. Um, we're going to talk about
seat. Um, we're going to talk about identity real quick
identity real quick and then what happens to identity under
and then what happens to identity under pressure. So, you put up the next slide,
pressure. So, you put up the next slide, the identity slide.
That's not next one. So, what is identity? Next slide. Um
identity? Next slide. Um the your identity is based upon your
the your identity is based upon your perception of who you are and why you do
perception of who you are and why you do things. And so um last time we talked
things. And so um last time we talked last Unreal leader challenge we talked
last Unreal leader challenge we talked about the three Ps. Your purpose,
about the three Ps. Your purpose, passion and principles. And these when
passion and principles. And these when you reflect upon them uh form the basis
you reflect upon them uh form the basis of your identity, your new identity.
of your identity, your new identity. When you don't reflect upon them, then
When you don't reflect upon them, then you have subconscious uh patterns and
you have subconscious uh patterns and belief systems which form the basis for
belief systems which form the basis for your identity. And sometimes those are
your identity. And sometimes those are are so hidden from view that you have
are so hidden from view that you have many people have no clue who they really
many people have no clue who they really are. And this this leads to
are. And this this leads to psychological um dissonance, right?
psychological um dissonance, right? Psychological dissonance causes anxiety.
Psychological dissonance causes anxiety. Anxiety then uh left un um
Anxiety then uh left un um I say untreated. People treat anxiety
I say untreated. People treat anxiety with drugs, but the real treatment for
with drugs, but the real treatment for anxiety is to reduce the cognitive
anxiety is to reduce the cognitive dissonance and then the anxiety goes
dissonance and then the anxiety goes away. Cognitive dissonance comes from
away. Cognitive dissonance comes from lack of self-awareness of who you really
lack of self-awareness of who you really are. I.e. your identity is weak and you
are. I.e. your identity is weak and you have a weak self-concept.
have a weak self-concept. So, um we need to strengthen our
So, um we need to strengthen our self-concept. But our self-concept is
self-concept. But our self-concept is sabotaged. is sabotaged by all this
sabotaged. is sabotaged by all this programming that leads to um fear,
programming that leads to um fear, anxiety, um uh perfectionism, you know,
anxiety, um uh perfectionism, you know, uh righteousness, judgment, right? These
uh righteousness, judgment, right? These things are are defense mechanisms. So
things are are defense mechanisms. So all your defense mechanisms which are
all your defense mechanisms which are which are trained from a very young age
which are trained from a very young age uh then they they sabotage your identity
uh then they they sabotage your identity and create a fractured sense of self
and create a fractured sense of self which creates anxiety because you know
which creates anxiety because you know you're trying to like prop up you know
you're trying to like prop up you know these all these different uh mess. So
these all these different uh mess. So you have too many things going on. You
you have too many things going on. You don't have a clear sense of who you are.
don't have a clear sense of who you are. You're not living from the center out.
You're not living from the center out. Um and so that's a problem. Now,
Um and so that's a problem. Now, identity. If you're living from a
identity. If you're living from a fractured, incomplete, not whole human
fractured, incomplete, not whole human sense like I'm talking about because you
sense like I'm talking about because you don't know who you are and why you're
don't know who you are and why you're here, then that's going to affect your
here, then that's going to affect your behaviors. It's going to affect your
behaviors. It's going to affect your habits, your rituals, and your
habits, your rituals, and your standards. And chances are, you're not
standards. And chances are, you're not going to have any standards, right? And
going to have any standards, right? And you're not going to have any rituals,
you're not going to have any rituals, but you're going to have a lot of
but you're going to have a lot of habits. And those habits will be weak
habits. And those habits will be weak and ineffective. Um, and those habits
and ineffective. Um, and those habits point right toward the six pillars we
point right toward the six pillars we talked about. habits of eating, habits
talked about. habits of eating, habits of sleeping, habits of, you know,
of sleeping, habits of, you know, addictive patterns, drinking, smoking,
addictive patterns, drinking, smoking, whatever. Um, habits of judging, habits
whatever. Um, habits of judging, habits of obsession,
of obsession, right? Compulsion, all these behaviors
right? Compulsion, all these behaviors that people spend years in therapy
that people spend years in therapy obsessing about, they're just habits.
obsessing about, they're just habits. And so, we need to um understand that
And so, we need to um understand that those habits stem from our identity. So,
those habits stem from our identity. So, you take care of the identity, the
you take care of the identity, the habits will change.
habits will change. Doesn't that make a lot of sense? And
Doesn't that make a lot of sense? And then you have outcomes that you desire
then you have outcomes that you desire or vision. Well, guess what? Most people
or vision. Well, guess what? Most people have no vision. They don't they don't
have no vision. They don't they don't have a vision for their future. So, they
have a vision for their future. So, they can't vision envision the outcomes they
can't vision envision the outcomes they desire. So, they're just literally going
desire. So, they're just literally going through life like a ping-pong ball
through life like a ping-pong ball bouncing all over the place. keep on
bouncing all over the place. keep on recreating the same conditions that they
recreating the same conditions that they found in their past because they're
found in their past because they're obsessing about them in the present and
obsessing about them in the present and making sure that those conditions also
making sure that those conditions also exist in the future. That's the
exist in the future. That's the separated uh not whole human you know
separated uh not whole human you know story and that is the bulk of humanity.
story and that is the bulk of humanity. You guys are not that because you're
You guys are not that because you're here. You're taking charge. You're
here. You're taking charge. You're taking control. So what we want to
taking control. So what we want to understand is
understand is if you can get the identity part right
if you can get the identity part right then the habits and behaviors will take
then the habits and behaviors will take care of themselves. Now can you
care of themselves. Now can you accelerate the process by taking a
accelerate the process by taking a specific look at the habits and
specific look at the habits and behaviors? Yes, you can. But first you
behaviors? Yes, you can. But first you got to understand your vision and the
got to understand your vision and the outcomes you desire.
outcomes you desire. Right? And so it actually works with
Right? And so it actually works with first comes identity, then comes vision,
first comes identity, then comes vision, and then comes the everything that
and then comes the everything that connects you from identity to get to
connects you from identity to get to that vision. And those are your
that vision. And those are your behaviors,
behaviors, your habits, your rituals, and your
your habits, your rituals, and your standards. Um, we used to have a saying
standards. Um, we used to have a saying in the SEALs, everybody wants to be a
in the SEALs, everybody wants to be a SEAL on a on a sunny day. Uh, but it's
SEAL on a on a sunny day. Uh, but it's never a sunny day when you're operating,
never a sunny day when you're operating, right? It's never a sunny day. Even if
right? It's never a sunny day. Even if it's a sunny day, if the bullets are
it's a sunny day, if the bullets are flying, it doesn't feel very sunny. Uh
flying, it doesn't feel very sunny. Uh so what happens to a dendy under
so what happens to a dendy under pressure?
pressure? Well, if you're trained,
Well, if you're trained, nothing.
nothing. But if you're not trained, then it falls
But if you're not trained, then it falls apart because stress is uh as soon as
apart because stress is uh as soon as you activate your fight orflight
you activate your fight orflight mechanism,
mechanism, your IQ it gets cut in half. when and
your IQ it gets cut in half. when and I'm talking about acute stress. So if
I'm talking about acute stress. So if you get hit with a you know the
you get hit with a you know the equivalent of a bomb in your life,
equivalent of a bomb in your life, right? COVID would be a great example
right? COVID would be a great example when COVID hit and people who didn't
when COVID hit and people who didn't really have the discernment to see
really have the discernment to see what's really going on or to to look at
what's really going on or to to look at CO and say, you know what, this doesn't
CO and say, you know what, this doesn't this is my dialogue. Okay, you don't
this is my dialogue. Okay, you don't have to agree with me. Uh and I don't
have to agree with me. Uh and I don't ask you to, but my dialogue was, wow,
ask you to, but my dialogue was, wow, let's look at the research. Oh,
let's look at the research. Oh, interesting. This is this is a uh
interesting. This is this is a uh similar to the flu. It's got a little
similar to the flu. It's got a little bit different qualities. Uh it's
bit different qualities. Uh it's dangerous for uh for elderly, right? And
dangerous for uh for elderly, right? And those need to be protected, but it's
those need to be protected, but it's really not dangerous for a healthy
really not dangerous for a healthy person like me. And um I don't need a
person like me. And um I don't need a vaccine. Um and this is no big deal.
vaccine. Um and this is no big deal. Move on. Next.
And I was right in my world. I was right.
right. So,
So, but for the for the vast majority of
but for the for the vast majority of people who have been untrained to be
people who have been untrained to be able to see truth for what it is, that
able to see truth for what it is, that was like a bomb going off. And it
was like a bomb going off. And it catalyze it crystal. It it shocked them
catalyze it crystal. It it shocked them and communities and the world into a
and communities and the world into a state of fight or flight. And guess
state of fight or flight. And guess what? IQ just went.
what? IQ just went. There is research on this. I'm not
There is research on this. I'm not making it up. If you go into a acute
making it up. If you go into a acute state of fight or flight and you have a
state of fight or flight and you have a IQ of 130, you now have an IQ of 75,
IQ of 130, you now have an IQ of 75, that doesn't make for good decision-m,
that doesn't make for good decision-m, does it? No. So, identity goes to
does it? No. So, identity goes to when stress hits. Now, when it comes to
when stress hits. Now, when it comes to chronic stress over time, you can look
chronic stress over time, you can look at it similarly, but it's like death by
at it similarly, but it's like death by a thousand cuts, right? Because that
a thousand cuts, right? Because that stress just keeps building up and
stress just keeps building up and building up and building up. And what
building up and building up. And what happens is your your um your
happens is your your um your parasympathetic nervous system pathway
parasympathetic nervous system pathway atrophies and it goes offline. And so
atrophies and it goes offline. And so you end you enter a state of
you end you enter a state of hyperarousal. And hyperarousal will lead
hyperarousal. And hyperarousal will lead to burnout. What is burnout but a fancy
to burnout. What is burnout but a fancy word for saying uh excess anxiety that
word for saying uh excess anxiety that you haven't built up or you haven't been
you haven't built up or you haven't been able to release. You have never
able to release. You have never developed the ustress uh tools to be
developed the ustress uh tools to be able to counterbalance the stress. And
able to counterbalance the stress. And so it just builds up and builds up and
so it just builds up and builds up and builds up and then you experience all
builds up and then you experience all the the negative effects of that which
the the negative effects of that which includes a decrease in your cognitive
includes a decrease in your cognitive capacity aka IQ includes the decrease in
capacity aka IQ includes the decrease in your emotional awareness and your range
your emotional awareness and your range of emotional capacity and control,
of emotional capacity and control, right? It it includes a physiological
right? It it includes a physiological breakdowns and um and health problems,
breakdowns and um and health problems, right? Which then all compound
right? Which then all compound everything.
everything. So, that's a problem, right? Identity
So, that's a problem, right? Identity under pressure. Now, um we're not going
under pressure. Now, um we're not going to get into you can go and put the fear
to get into you can go and put the fear loop up. We're not going to get into how
loop up. We're not going to get into how do you build a new identity. Maybe we'll
do you build a new identity. Maybe we'll do that next time. We did the last
do that next time. We did the last leader challenge three Ps. You guys can
leader challenge three Ps. You guys can work on that. I want to talk about how
work on that. I want to talk about how to interrupt the pressure or this this
to interrupt the pressure or this this fear loop, right? When a crisis hits or
fear loop, right? When a crisis hits or or a negative trigger. And this is
or a negative trigger. And this is daily, right? So, take a look at this.
daily, right? So, take a look at this. Um,
I can't see it. It's crazy. Sorry, I have to get my glasses.
have to get my glasses. I I should have this memorized, but I
I I should have this memorized, but I haven't looked at it in a while. So,
haven't looked at it in a while. So, a trigger comes in.
a trigger comes in. A trigger can be anything, right? It's
A trigger can be anything, right? It's anything that triggers you into
anything that triggers you into reactionary mode, right? If you're not
reactionary mode, right? If you're not triggered, then don't worry about it.
triggered, then don't worry about it. But let's say co co triggered everybody.
But let's say co co triggered everybody. Or uh your boss dropping a big nasty
Or uh your boss dropping a big nasty bomb on your desk is a triggering
bomb on your desk is a triggering moment. Or your spouse is saying that
moment. Or your spouse is saying that you know saying something contemptuous
you know saying something contemptuous is a triggering moment. Or your kid,
is a triggering moment. Or your kid, right? You everyone's got their own
right? You everyone's got their own triggers. And so um
triggers. And so um that's a whatever is happening is
that's a whatever is happening is happening. The trigger is your reaction
happening. The trigger is your reaction to it, which means you have a you have a
to it, which means you have a you have a belief around this. And what I'm going
belief around this. And what I'm going to say is that's a false belief. So, so
to say is that's a false belief. So, so right at the beginning, you have a a
right at the beginning, you have a a limiting or false belief which is
limiting or false belief which is triggering you, right? Um, and that
triggering you, right? Um, and that false belief stems from a weak
false belief stems from a weak self-concept,
self-concept, right? It means you haven't done the
right? It means you haven't done the work yet to be able to see that as just
work yet to be able to see that as just a belief or a judgment or a projection
a belief or a judgment or a projection and to be like, "Oh, that's interesting.
and to be like, "Oh, that's interesting. Curious. Oh. Oh, Sally's having a
Curious. Oh. Oh, Sally's having a moment. This isn't about me, right?
moment. This isn't about me, right? Or oh, this is just uh whatever this
Or oh, this is just uh whatever this thing is, co uh I don't perceive this to
thing is, co uh I don't perceive this to be a threat, at least not to me. So,
be a threat, at least not to me. So, move on. Not an issue. Right now, of
move on. Not an issue. Right now, of course, it had issues in my business and
course, it had issues in my business and whatnot. But, um that so you have these
whatnot. But, um that so you have these these belief, everything is based upon
these belief, everything is based upon belief. And every I'm going to make a
belief. And every I'm going to make a bold statement. Every belief that you
bold statement. Every belief that you have is false in the way I determine the
have is false in the way I determine the word false and truth. It's not true.
word false and truth. It's not true. It's basically a belief. And every false
It's basically a belief. And every false belief stems from a weak self-concept,
belief stems from a weak self-concept, meaning you haven't fully integrated as
meaning you haven't fully integrated as a human being um to be able to see
a human being um to be able to see what's really going on. And what that
what's really going on. And what that does is um that triggering thing
does is um that triggering thing activates
activates even further negative reinforcing um
even further negative reinforcing um self-t talk and emotions,
self-t talk and emotions, right? And so trigger based upon a false
right? And so trigger based upon a false belief based upon a weak self-concept
belief based upon a weak self-concept activates negative self-t talk.
activates negative self-t talk. What does negative selft talk do? It
What does negative selft talk do? It weakens you further. Right? Because
weakens you further. Right? Because negativity is an energy and negative
negativity is an energy and negative energy weakens the body. We know that
energy weakens the body. We know that from the um the science of kinesiology.
from the um the science of kinesiology. You talk to yourself negatively, you get
You talk to yourself negatively, you get weaker.
weaker. And so negative self-concept, negative
And so negative self-concept, negative selft talk weakens your body. And um and
selft talk weakens your body. And um and then you have and this this is all
then you have and this this is all happening in a split second. These are
happening in a split second. These are all like conditions that leads to a
all like conditions that leads to a negative reaction,
negative reaction, right? We call that reactionary
right? We call that reactionary reactionary behavior is by its nature
reactionary behavior is by its nature negative.
negative. You know, it's in the way we use the
You know, it's in the way we use the terminology
terminology because otherwise we'd call it a
because otherwise we'd call it a positive response, right? So, we don't
positive response, right? So, we don't want to be nitpicky because you could
want to be nitpicky because you could also claim or push back and say, "Mark,
also claim or push back and say, "Mark, couldn't you have a positive reaction?"
couldn't you have a positive reaction?" Yeah, we'll call that a positive
Yeah, we'll call that a positive response. But most reactionary behavior
response. But most reactionary behavior which is unaware because it just happens
which is unaware because it just happens spontaneously based upon the negative
spontaneously based upon the negative trigger based upon the negative you know
trigger based upon the negative you know weak self-con concept and negative
weak self-con concept and negative belief is a negative reaction because
belief is a negative reaction because you're telling yourself something bad.
you're telling yourself something bad. Your amydala has sniffed out fear or or
Your amydala has sniffed out fear or or bad and now your self-t talk is bad.
bad and now your self-t talk is bad. Your emotions start to go negative and
Your emotions start to go negative and you react negatively. You might lash
you react negatively. You might lash out. You might start judging, right? You
out. You might start judging, right? You might do something really reckless or
might do something really reckless or stupid, always regretful, right? And
stupid, always regretful, right? And then what that does is it reinforces
then what that does is it reinforces the negative weak self-concept.
the negative weak self-concept. And guess what? It just you just keep on
And guess what? It just you just keep on ruting this deeper and deeper and
ruting this deeper and deeper and deeper. And these patterns then show up
deeper. And these patterns then show up more and more and more often and often
more and more and more often and often um with more intensity.
um with more intensity. Right now I think this is great because
Right now I think this is great because it's this loop this fear loop which if
it's this loop this fear loop which if when you start to practice box breathing
when you start to practice box breathing and what we're talking about in unal
and what we're talking about in unal mind it's it suddenly lights up like a
mind it's it suddenly lights up like a freaking you know halon bulb like it
freaking you know halon bulb like it becomes very obvious to you and so we
becomes very obvious to you and so we can use this as a practice because these
can use this as a practice because these fear loops these these negative triggers
fear loops these these negative triggers that that are stemming from a weak
that that are stemming from a weak self-concept that lead to negative
self-concept that lead to negative self-t talk that lead to reaction or
self-t talk that lead to reaction or behavior. That's the juice. That's where
behavior. That's the juice. That's where we've got to do our work in the
we've got to do our work in the emotional realm. In the emotional realm,
emotional realm. In the emotional realm, the emotional mountain, once you begin
the emotional mountain, once you begin to work the physical and mental, that
to work the physical and mental, that that's the real sticking point for
that's the real sticking point for people. That's the crucial place. That's
people. That's the crucial place. That's the that's where a lot of people stop
the that's where a lot of people stop about a quarter of the way up emotional
about a quarter of the way up emotional mountain. and then they stay there in
mountain. and then they stay there in their comfort zone and they never go
their comfort zone and they never go further and they then lock themselves
further and they then lock themselves into
into right maybe a little bit new reality
right maybe a little bit new reality maybe it's a little bit healthier right
maybe it's a little bit healthier right most people who are peak performers and
most people who are peak performers and CEOs are exactly what I'm talking about
CEOs are exactly what I'm talking about they got a healthy body they're training
they got a healthy body they're training their mind but they're stuck on the
their mind but they're stuck on the emotional mountain because it's
emotional mountain because it's uncomfortable as hell they don't want to
uncomfortable as hell they don't want to do the work and they lock themselves in
do the work and they lock themselves in limitation once more and they know it
limitation once more and they know it and they can't figure out what to do but
and they can't figure out what to do but um because they were not willing to do
um because they were not willing to do the work at the emotional level. This
the work at the emotional level. This fear loop and understanding that is your
fear loop and understanding that is your answer. So uh next slide. What we learn
answer. So uh next slide. What we learn to do is cultivate the capacity to
to do is cultivate the capacity to witness to observe to be the observer to
witness to observe to be the observer to separate ourselves from our thoughts and
separate ourselves from our thoughts and reactions.
reactions. The primary tool that I use for that is
The primary tool that I use for that is box breathing.
box breathing. So before we get to that which we'll
So before we get to that which we'll close on
close on um is this cou this this courage loop
um is this cou this this courage loop now. So follow this through. You can see
now. So follow this through. You can see it on the screen there. You have the
it on the screen there. You have the false belief which is limiting you. You
false belief which is limiting you. You get triggered with that false belief
get triggered with that false belief which re you know which is coming from
which re you know which is coming from your weak self-concept.
your weak self-concept. And then what happens is because you're
And then what happens is because you're practicing box breathing. You notice
practicing box breathing. You notice that you notice the trigger. you notice
that you notice the trigger. you notice that it's triggering um a weak
that it's triggering um a weak self-concept and you because you feel
self-concept and you because you feel shame or anger or guilt and and the old
shame or anger or guilt and and the old you would be basically immediately into
you would be basically immediately into the negative selft talk immediately into
the negative selft talk immediately into that reactionary mode but you say stop
that reactionary mode but you say stop and you activate what I call the worm
and you activate what I call the worm wir process you witness this happening
wir process you witness this happening in real time and you actively tell your
in real time and you actively tell your mind to stop it and your mind will obey
mind to stop it and your mind will obey temporarily until it's trained. But
temporarily until it's trained. But that's good enough because that
that's good enough because that intercept, you witness it, then you
intercept, you witness it, then you intercept it. You say, "Stop. Intercept
intercept it. You say, "Stop. Intercept that negative reaction, that negative
that negative reaction, that negative thought, and you redirect it because you
thought, and you redirect it because you recognize what's going on and you
recognize what's going on and you redirect it to positive thinking, which
redirect it to positive thinking, which requires that you actually have
requires that you actually have something else to focus on, too, which
something else to focus on, too, which probably is what you were focusing on,
probably is what you were focusing on, or maybe it's something new." and you
or maybe it's something new." and you activate your internal positive
activate your internal positive dialogue, whether that's a mantra or
dialogue, whether that's a mantra or just talking to yourself positively.
just talking to yourself positively. I'm better than that. I'm not going to
I'm better than that. I'm not going to succumb to that. I'm not going to I'm
succumb to that. I'm not going to I'm not going to let my boss derail me. I'm
not going to let my boss derail me. I'm not going to let my spouse or kids
not going to let my spouse or kids derail me. Um,
derail me. Um, right? You get into your sage, your
right? You get into your sage, your higher self, your higher mind, and you
higher self, your higher mind, and you talk to yourself positively. Positive
talk to yourself positively. Positive selft talk is so important. And that
selft talk is so important. And that gives your body mind strength. It gives
gives your body mind strength. It gives you courage, right? It changes your
you courage, right? It changes your self-concept. It begins to reinforce and
self-concept. It begins to reinforce and then you have a positive response
then you have a positive response and you so you redirect to something
and you so you redirect to something positive and you maintain that positive
positive and you maintain that positive with internal dialogue and then you have
with internal dialogue and then you have a positive response instead of a
a positive response instead of a negative reaction. And that courage loop
negative reaction. And that courage loop then reinforces a new positive more
then reinforces a new positive more positive self-concept.
positive self-concept. That is credible. That right there can
That is credible. That right there can change your life. That one model will
change your life. That one model will change your life. So it's not So that's
change your life. So it's not So that's it can be physical, it can be mental,
it can be physical, it can be mental, and it can be emotional or it can be all
and it can be emotional or it can be all three,
three, right? Think about it like a workout.
right? Think about it like a workout. You're in a physical workout and
You're in a physical workout and suddenly like the next thing you have to
suddenly like the next thing you have to do, you're like, "Oh, I can't stand
do, you're like, "Oh, I can't stand deadlifts." Right? there. You've gone
deadlifts." Right? there. You've gone into a trigger and a weak self-concept
into a trigger and a weak self-concept and now negative selft talk cuz I can't
and now negative selft talk cuz I can't do deadlift so deadlifts aren't for me
do deadlift so deadlifts aren't for me or whatever. And then you have a
or whatever. And then you have a negative reaction and you notice that
negative reaction and you notice that now and you interdict it. You intercept
now and you interdict it. You intercept that. You say, "No, I got this. I'm
that. You say, "No, I got this. I'm going to learn how to do it. I'm going
going to learn how to do it. I'm going to do it safely. Deadlifts are good for
to do it safely. Deadlifts are good for me." And just do the deadlifts. Right?
me." And just do the deadlifts. Right? You've had a new positive response. You
You've had a new positive response. You reinforce your self-concept as a
reinforce your self-concept as a stronger human being. same thing whether
stronger human being. same thing whether it's just a cognitive thing or an
it's just a cognitive thing or an emotional thing. This is powerful. This
emotional thing. This is powerful. This is how you change your identity and how
is how you change your identity and how you maintain a positive and growth
you maintain a positive and growth mindset identity when under pressure.
mindset identity when under pressure. The last thing I'll talk about you put
The last thing I'll talk about you put the box breathing up is now how do you
the box breathing up is now how do you develop that witnessing capacity? You're
develop that witnessing capacity? You're like all that's fine and good but how do
like all that's fine and good but how do I separate myself from my thoughts?
I separate myself from my thoughts? That takes practice. Remember theory is
That takes practice. Remember theory is just the candy, brain candy. It's all
just the candy, brain candy. It's all about practice.
about practice. If you just focused on practice, you
If you just focused on practice, you don't have to worry about integration
don't have to worry about integration because it'll happen automatically.
because it'll happen automatically. So even integration is theory. So you
So even integration is theory. So you have the theory of the theory. You have
have the theory of the theory. You have integration, which is the theory of what
integration, which is the theory of what it's like to be fully integrated. That's
it's like to be fully integrated. That's more of an experience. But ultimately,
more of an experience. But ultimately, it's all about practice. If you're not
it's all about practice. If you're not practicing every every day, then you're
practicing every every day, then you're not practicing. And the core to your
not practicing. And the core to your practice beyond those six pillars I
practice beyond those six pillars I talked about, the core of your mental
talked about, the core of your mental and emotional practice is box breathing.
and emotional practice is box breathing. Because box breathing will lead you to
Because box breathing will lead you to the capacity to witness and observe your
the capacity to witness and observe your thoughts and emotions and to be able to
thoughts and emotions and to be able to intercept negative fear loops and
intercept negative fear loops and replace it with a courage loop which
replace it with a courage loop which will improve dramatically your
will improve dramatically your self-concept
self-concept which will then help you develop a new
which will then help you develop a new identity which will be bulletproof
identity which will be bulletproof under stress.
under stress. So box breathing as you all know is
So box breathing as you all know is super simple but it's done as a
super simple but it's done as a contemplative meditative witnessing
contemplative meditative witnessing practice.
practice. So you're going to inhale five count,
So you're going to inhale five count, hold your breath five count, exhale five
hold your breath five count, exhale five count, hold your breath five count.
count, hold your breath five count. You're getting arousal control in that
You're getting arousal control in that capacity or in that practice. You're
capacity or in that practice. You're developing attention control and
developing attention control and concentration.
concentration. You're developing this capacity to
You're developing this capacity to witness or slashobserve your thoughts
witness or slashobserve your thoughts and emotions so that you can so you can
and emotions so that you can so you can curate them. You can you can intercept
curate them. You can you can intercept the negative ones, redirect a positive
the negative ones, redirect a positive and maintain a positive mindset. That's
and maintain a positive mindset. That's that's the witness process.
that's the witness process. and you're developing the capacity to be
and you're developing the capacity to be able to see your future to vision to
able to see your future to vision to envision a more positive future. So,
envision a more positive future. So, your homework today
your homework today um for those of you Okay, let me pack
um for those of you Okay, let me pack up. Well, I I'll stick with the
up. Well, I I'll stick with the homework. Homework is your six pillar
homework. Homework is your six pillar assessment. Remember I said that assess
assessment. Remember I said that assess your six pillars. What am I doing now?
your six pillars. What am I doing now? What can I get rid of? And what can I
What can I get rid of? And what can I add? And keep it simple. And then your
add? And keep it simple. And then your second homework assignment is I don't
second homework assignment is I don't what regardless of your time zone is to
what regardless of your time zone is to practice box breathing at least twice
practice box breathing at least twice before our meeting tomorrow. So that
before our meeting tomorrow. So that could be if it's if you're daytime now
could be if it's if you're daytime now it could be tonight
it could be tonight and then tomorrow morning first thing
and then tomorrow morning first thing right if it's morning now then whatever
right if it's morning now then whatever practice after this session or and then
practice after this session or and then tonight or tomorrow morning whatever you
tonight or tomorrow morning whatever you know what I'm saying do it twice ideally
know what I'm saying do it twice ideally for 20 minutes. ideally for 20 minutes.
for 20 minutes. ideally for 20 minutes. If not 20, do a 10. And if you can't for
If not 20, do a 10. And if you can't for 10, do a 5 minutes. Okay? So, that's
10, do a 5 minutes. Okay? So, that's your homework. That's your challenge.
your homework. That's your challenge. And um we're going to move transition in
And um we're going to move transition in a moment to the VIP session, but just
a moment to the VIP session, but just know that um also this we are a
know that um also this we are a community of practice, right? So, we're
community of practice, right? So, we're going to um be using that language like
going to um be using that language like we're all a team. And uh tomorrow we're
we're all a team. And uh tomorrow we're going to talk about our inner circle.
going to talk about our inner circle. and we have a team that actually does
and we have a team that actually does this stuff uh together and holds each
this stuff uh together and holds each other accountable and that's called the
other accountable and that's called the inner circle and so I'm going to um I'm
inner circle and so I'm going to um I'm going to have some time tomorrow to talk
going to have some time tomorrow to talk about that and and also Christian uh
about that and and also Christian uh because for those of you who are ready
because for those of you who are ready they found those who jumped up into that
they found those who jumped up into that program have found it to be
program have found it to be extraordinarily uh valuable because you
extraordinarily uh valuable because you have a team and you have the
have a team and you have the accountability and you get serious
accountability and you get serious momentum with these uh these things
momentum with these uh these things toward integration.
toward integration. All right. Uh it's 9:34. I went a little
All right. Uh it's 9:34. I went a little bit long. Uh those of you who are
bit long. Uh those of you who are staying for the next session, just hang
staying for the next session, just hang out. Uh take a little uh restroom break
out. Uh take a little uh restroom break or spot drill. For everyone else, thank
or spot drill. For everyone else, thank you for being here. Appreciate you all.
you for being here. Appreciate you all. And we'll see you tomorrow, day two.
And we'll see you tomorrow, day two. Hya.
Hya. >> Hya. Hya.
>> Hya. Hya. >> Thank you, coach.
>> Thank you, coach. >> You're welcome.
>> You're welcome. >> All right. Mark's gonna take a quick
>> All right. Mark's gonna take a quick break.
break. How'd you guys feel about the uh the
How'd you guys feel about the uh the first session?
You can take yourselves off of mute. Let me hear it. Let me
Let me hear it. Let me >> It was good. It was insightful on some
>> It was good. It was insightful on some things.
things. >> Awesome. Was that Richard? Is that
>> Awesome. Was that Richard? Is that Vincent?
Vincent? >> Yes.
>> Yes. >> Okay.
>> Okay. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Good to see you again, Vincent. Good to
>> Good to see you again, Vincent. Good to see you.
see you. >> Yeah. I I actually used um some of from
>> Yeah. I I actually used um some of from previous trainings with Mark, especially
previous trainings with Mark, especially the six pillars. I was um director of
the six pillars. I was um director of community health for our local health
community health for our local health department. So that was like right smack
department. So that was like right smack on the top of our web page.
on the top of our web page. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah, definitely.
>> Hi, my name is Joan. >> Hi Joan.
>> Hi Joan. >> And I really love this. I've read all
>> And I really love this. I've read all Marks Unbeatable Mind books, Navy Seals.
Marks Unbeatable Mind books, Navy Seals. I'm exmilitary myself. So this is
I'm exmilitary myself. So this is marvelous. This is reiterating what what
marvelous. This is reiterating what what I learned in my training
I learned in my training uh a while ago, but it's never always uh
uh a while ago, but it's never always uh good to um to rethink, relearn, hear new
good to um to rethink, relearn, hear new things and set your enforcements
things and set your enforcements for successful um way to move forward
for successful um way to move forward and healthy mind mindfulness and
and healthy mind mindfulness and toughness. And so I really appreciate
toughness. And so I really appreciate this as a former military person.
this as a former military person. Thank you. I appreciate your service by
Thank you. I appreciate your service by the way.
the way. >> Thank you. I I uh it's very important.
>> Thank you. I I uh it's very important. Thank you very much for saying that.
Thank you very much for saying that. >> Yes. Yeah. My uh my family comes from a
>> Yes. Yeah. My uh my family comes from a deep military background.
deep military background. Um so definitely appreciate your
Um so definitely appreciate your service.
service. >> Thank you.
>> Thank you. >> All right.
>> All right. >> If you can hear me, this is Cook here.
>> If you can hear me, this is Cook here. >> Yeah. And yeah, no, you know what? Uh
>> Yeah. And yeah, no, you know what? Uh this was incredible because uh I'm I'm
this was incredible because uh I'm I'm uh I I loved everything that that Mark
uh I I loved everything that that Mark was saying and I'm actually in the
was saying and I'm actually in the probably the busiest Starbucks in all of
probably the busiest Starbucks in all of Canada. So when the thing we did with
Canada. So when the thing we did with the spot drills came up, I was a little
the spot drills came up, I was a little bit reluctant to do it, but then I you
bit reluctant to do it, but then I you know what, forget it. Let's just do it.
know what, forget it. Let's just do it. Who cares? And so I'm I'm actually I did
Who cares? And so I'm I'm actually I did it all here. The squats, the the
it all here. The squats, the the push-ups, the planks, everything. It was
push-ups, the planks, everything. It was so cool.
so cool. Yeah. And and you know, here's what's
Yeah. And and you know, here's what's really cool. I'm currently in a
really cool. I'm currently in a situation where unfortunately
situation where unfortunately financially it's it's not feasible for
financially it's it's not feasible for me to become a VIP right now or to
me to become a VIP right now or to become a member of the tribe, but I've
become a member of the tribe, but I've got I've got way of the seal. I've got
got I've got way of the seal. I've got unbeatable mind. I'm going through it
unbeatable mind. I'm going through it again. Yeah.
again. Yeah. >> And so what we got from the last ULC
>> And so what we got from the last ULC that I still have some of the material
that I still have some of the material for, I'm going to go through that. I'm
for, I'm going to go through that. I'm going to continue to convict in my mind
going to continue to convict in my mind to get myself back in so that I can
to get myself back in so that I can become a part of the tribe uh uh and and
become a part of the tribe uh uh and and really just because I I love this
really just because I I love this environment. I really love this
environment. I really love this environment. And by the way, uh Joan,
environment. And by the way, uh Joan, thank you for your service. Uh I you
thank you for your service. Uh I you know, God bless you all of you who are,
know, God bless you all of you who are, you know, former military and um I will
you know, former military and um I will be a part of the tribes. And by the way,
be a part of the tribes. And by the way, Christian, thank you for what you're
Christian, thank you for what you're doing. I mean, the fact you you've been
doing. I mean, the fact you you've been up your
up your 4 a.m. and doing what you're doing. God
4 a.m. and doing what you're doing. God bless you all. Thank you.
bless you all. Thank you. >> Thank you. Thank you.
>> Thank you. Thank you. >> It's all for you guys, man. We we really
>> It's all for you guys, man. We we really do um want to give you guys the the best
do um want to give you guys the the best kind of value um that you can receive
kind of value um that you can receive from Mark, you know, other than being
from Mark, you know, other than being live in person or going into, you know,
live in person or going into, you know, his private coaching and inner circle
his private coaching and inner circle coaching that he does do. Um, and so
coaching that he does do. Um, and so this is kind of a a taste to what that
this is kind of a a taste to what that is, you know, and a really good
is, you know, and a really good experience and and hopefully it's a it's
experience and and hopefully it's a it's an inspiration um but also a discipline
an inspiration um but also a discipline for you guys to continue to, you know,
for you guys to continue to, you know, push the the needle forward um in your
push the the needle forward um in your training. Um because Mark is, you know,
training. Um because Mark is, you know, he's he's 62 now and he just got out of
he's he's 62 now and he just got out of a crazy, you know, snowmobile accident
a crazy, you know, snowmobile accident that ruptured his scapula last February
that ruptured his scapula last February and, you know, he could be rethinking
and, you know, he could be rethinking everything and just put everything on
everything and just put everything on pause because, you know, he's he's he's
pause because, you know, he's he's he's good, right? But he shows up for you
good, right? But he shows up for you guys. Um because
guys. Um because >> one one thing I'd like to ask one thing
>> one one thing I'd like to ask one thing I'd like to add about medical things as
I'd like to add about medical things as a teacher. I've survived cancer and with
a teacher. I've survived cancer and with Mark's injuries. I have a spinal injury
Mark's injuries. I have a spinal injury from military days beating cancer. I use
from military days beating cancer. I use Mark's teachings to help in the cancer
Mark's teachings to help in the cancer center where I go. And every day is a
center where I go. And every day is a new get up good day and valuable
new get up good day and valuable accomplishment. So, I really value this
accomplishment. So, I really value this for the cancer survivors and snowmobile
for the cancer survivors and snowmobile accidents and this is miraculous. Thank
accidents and this is miraculous. Thank you so much.
you so much. >> Definitely. Definitely. Thank you. And
>> Definitely. Definitely. Thank you. And and thank you for sharing that. Um thank
and thank you for sharing that. Um thank you for being vulnerable. You know, it's
you for being vulnerable. You know, it's important that we we're vulnerable,
important that we we're vulnerable, we're authentic, we're raw, and we um we
we're authentic, we're raw, and we um we encourage one another, we empower one
encourage one another, we empower one another, and we rise up together, right?
another, and we rise up together, right? And so, great job, John. Um, I do want
And so, great job, John. Um, I do want to invite you guys all to go ahead and
to invite you guys all to go ahead and stick around. You know, gas, for those
stick around. You know, gas, for those gas that are still here, if you guys
gas that are still here, if you guys have the time, we're going to be
have the time, we're going to be sticking around until 11, but we are
sticking around until 11, but we are going to respect the VIPs that did
going to respect the VIPs that did purchase um to be the only ones that are
purchase um to be the only ones that are going to ask Q&As's and receive um hot
going to ask Q&As's and receive um hot seat coaching. So you guys can see some
seat coaching. So you guys can see some insight on just how Mark coaches um
insight on just how Mark coaches um others in a virtual uh live setting as
others in a virtual uh live setting as he does with um the school group and he
he does with um the school group and he does with his performance coaching and
does with his performance coaching and mental toughness coaching and inner
mental toughness coaching and inner circle coaching and private clients and
circle coaching and private clients and stuff like that. So um go ahead and
stuff like that. So um go ahead and stick around if you guys have the time.
stick around if you guys have the time. Uh otherwise um we'll see you guys
Uh otherwise um we'll see you guys tomorrow at 8 am for the next GA
tomorrow at 8 am for the next GA session. But we are going to hop in in
session. But we are going to hop in in just a few moments here whenever Mark
just a few moments here whenever Mark gives me the green light.
gives me the green light. Whenever you're ready, Mark,
Whenever you're ready, Mark, we can hop back in.
we can hop back in. Oh, he's he's grubbing now. He gota got
Oh, he's he's grubbing now. He gota got to get the nutrition in. Gotta get the
to get the nutrition in. Gotta get the nutrition in.
Thanks guys. Uh I'm not part of the uh the VIP session, so I'll respect the uh
the VIP session, so I'll respect the uh the VIP session and jump off. God bless
the VIP session and jump off. God bless you all. Thank you so much for this uh
you all. Thank you so much for this uh for this session. And Joe and I I
for this session. And Joe and I I connected with you on LinkedIn. Love to
connected with you on LinkedIn. Love to have a conversation. God bless
have a conversation. God bless everybody. Thank you.
everybody. Thank you. >> Thank you. Appreciate it, Kush. See you
>> Thank you. Appreciate it, Kush. See you tomorrow.
>> Ready? >> Ready.
>> Ready. >> Ready.
>> Ready. >> All right. We are going to flip it
>> All right. We are going to flip it around in three, two, one.
around in three, two, one. Hey, you are live.
Hey, you are live. >> Hey,
>> Hey, welcome back.
welcome back. All right,
All right, I get to flip a switch from uh teacher
I get to flip a switch from uh teacher to coach, which is really cool.
to coach, which is really cool. It's a real difference, right? So, as a
It's a real difference, right? So, as a coach, um, I'm really here to, uh, hold
coach, um, I'm really here to, uh, hold up a mirror and to help, um, reflect
up a mirror and to help, um, reflect back to you kind of what I see or hear.
back to you kind of what I see or hear. Um, so the way we'll go about this is
Um, so the way we'll go about this is we're going to do a practice first.
we're going to do a practice first. Box breathing. Yay.
Box breathing. Yay. Should hear some claps. Yay. Right. If
Should hear some claps. Yay. Right. If you like box breathing as much as I do,
you like box breathing as much as I do, you'd be absolutely excited about this
you'd be absolutely excited about this because it is it is a master practice
because it is it is a master practice when done well effectively. So, we'll
when done well effectively. So, we'll talk through that and then we'll just
talk through that and then we'll just open it up for Q&A.
open it up for Q&A. Um, anything that's on your mind and
Um, anything that's on your mind and then um maybe uh a little after the hour
then um maybe uh a little after the hour we will um I'm going to talk about um
we will um I'm going to talk about um ethos, developing your stand, right? So
ethos, developing your stand, right? So we'll continue and that can be a
we'll continue and that can be a conversation. All right. So practice
set up your seat, set up your posture, straight spine, relaxed shoulders. Um
straight spine, relaxed shoulders. Um most of you are familiar with the setup
most of you are familiar with the setup process.
process. It's you know very similar for whatever
It's you know very similar for whatever meditative or contemplative tradition.
meditative or contemplative tradition. And the point is the salient points is
And the point is the salient points is you want a straight spine. That's the
you want a straight spine. That's the main one. So you you don't have the
main one. So you you don't have the distraction and the energy can flow. Um
distraction and the energy can flow. Um and you want to turn your attention
and you want to turn your attention inward. This is something that's not
inward. This is something that's not often talked about. The one of the ways
often talked about. The one of the ways the primary ways we turn our attention
the primary ways we turn our attention inward is intention. Uh secondly is
inward is intention. Uh secondly is through soften softening the gaze of
through soften softening the gaze of your eyes. So often open up the the
your eyes. So often open up the the aperture peripheral vision and then you
aperture peripheral vision and then you close your eyelids with that peripheral
close your eyelids with that peripheral vision. And what that does is it takes
vision. And what that does is it takes your attention and it shifts it subtly
your attention and it shifts it subtly inward.
inward. And then through active attention
And then through active attention control, you are with that soft gaze
control, you are with that soft gaze and with the intention of looking
and with the intention of looking inward, you actually
inward, you actually imagine yourself looking inward as
imagine yourself looking inward as opposed to outward.
And of course, at first you don't see anything. It's just black.
anything. It's just black. But eventually you begin to see
But eventually you begin to see uh a light
uh a light Not like a single light but as if the
Not like a single light but as if the blackness inky blackness is is lighting
blackness inky blackness is is lighting up. And that is the light that you
up. And that is the light that you generate
generate which actually lights up the world that
which actually lights up the world that you see. Without that light, inner
you see. Without that light, inner light, you wouldn't see anything.
It's a misperception to think that light comes in through their eyes and that's
comes in through their eyes and that's what allows us to see the outer world.
what allows us to see the outer world. It's it's actually not accurate.
It's it's actually not accurate. Light is generated from within.
And then we bring our attention to our breathing. We close our mouth and we
breathing. We close our mouth and we start to notice the breath coming in
start to notice the breath coming in through the nostrils.
through the nostrils. And we notice the lungs being filled up.
And we notice the lungs being filled up. We notice our diaphragm operating,
We notice our diaphragm operating, pulling and pushing. We notice our belly
pulling and pushing. We notice our belly relaxing on the inhale and compressing
relaxing on the inhale and compressing or comp pressing back toward the spine
or comp pressing back toward the spine on the exhale.
As we notice more, we can notice on the inhale energy, prana, life force, chi,
inhale energy, prana, life force, chi, more oxygen coming in and it's
more oxygen coming in and it's stimulating the body and it actually can
stimulating the body and it actually can you can feel like the light increasing
you can feel like the light increasing because you're actually drawing in life
because you're actually drawing in life force.
And as you exhale, you notice a grounding, centering effect.
grounding, centering effect. and as if you're letting go,
and as if you're letting go, surrendering,
surrendering, which is exactly what you're doing.
which is exactly what you're doing. So those are things all to notice as
So those are things all to notice as part of the setup.
part of the setup. your body posture, your mental posture,
your body posture, your mental posture, your mental orientation,
the relaxed inward focus, the inky blackness opening up to light, the
blackness opening up to light, the energy on the inhale, and the centering
energy on the inhale, and the centering and groundedness on the exhale.
This practice alone in just setting up and doing like 10 rounds like that of
and doing like 10 rounds like that of inhale and exhale is a profound spot
inhale and exhale is a profound spot drill. Profound way to rebalance and
drill. Profound way to rebalance and develop awareness.
develop awareness. But with box breathing, we add a control
But with box breathing, we add a control to it. So we slow down the inhale. We're
to it. So we slow down the inhale. We're striving for five count, but beginners
striving for five count, but beginners can do four. And we do a a five count
can do four. And we do a a five count inhale, a five count hold the breath,
inhale, a five count hold the breath, and a fivecount exhale. On a five count,
and a fivecount exhale. On a five count, hold the breath. This equals three
hold the breath. This equals three breaths per minute.
breaths per minute. Without the hold, six breaths per
Without the hold, six breaths per minute, which is optimal for health and
minute, which is optimal for health and longevity.
The holds bring a different quality to pay attention to. The inhale hold has a
pay attention to. The inhale hold has a spacious expansive quality as if you're
spacious expansive quality as if you're expanding in all directions. And the
expanding in all directions. And the exhale hold has a single point focus
exhale hold has a single point focus quality, a stillness like a black hole
quality, a stillness like a black hole almost. So you pay attention to the
almost. So you pay attention to the qualities of the hold and the quality of
qualities of the hold and the quality of the inhale and the exhale and you follow
the inhale and the exhale and you follow that pattern with your mind really
that pattern with your mind really closely
closely which is attention control.
which is attention control. So you're getting the arousal control
So you're getting the arousal control benefits of massaging your vagus nerve,
benefits of massaging your vagus nerve, activating the parasympathetic nervous
activating the parasympathetic nervous system. That's just through the
system. That's just through the breathing practice itself. Nostril deep
breathing practice itself. Nostril deep diaphragmatic breathing. And you're
diaphragmatic breathing. And you're getting attention control and
getting attention control and concentration training by concentrating
concentration training by concentrating deeply on all four phases of the box
deeply on all four phases of the box pattern. The inhale hold, the exhale,
pattern. The inhale hold, the exhale, and the hold. Each one has a different
and the hold. Each one has a different quality.
quality. And you hold that attention there. And
And you hold that attention there. And if your attention wanders, you notice it
if your attention wanders, you notice it and bring it back. Just like classic
and bring it back. Just like classic meditation, you notice it, bring it
meditation, you notice it, bring it back. Notice it, bring it back. Over
back. Notice it, bring it back. Over time, you're able to hold your attention
time, you're able to hold your attention for longer and longer periods of time,
for longer and longer periods of time, increasing your powers of concentration
increasing your powers of concentration and the ability to control your
and the ability to control your attention. Hugely valuable.
As you develop this capacity for attention control and concentration, you
attention control and concentration, you become aware that the noticer is
become aware that the noticer is separate from the thinker.
separate from the thinker. The aspect of you that is noticing that
The aspect of you that is noticing that your mind is wandering, that is noticing
your mind is wandering, that is noticing that you're holding your attention on
that you're holding your attention on this box pattern, that is noticing your
this box pattern, that is noticing your body, that is noticing the sensations.
body, that is noticing the sensations. That noticer is also called the observer
That noticer is also called the observer or the witness. It's the same thing. And
or the witness. It's the same thing. And your center of sense of self begins to
your center of sense of self begins to shift to the noticer away from thoughts
shift to the noticer away from thoughts and you stop identifying with your
and you stop identifying with your thoughts. This is this is the witness I
thoughts. This is this is the witness I was talking about earlier in that
was talking about earlier in that witness process.
witness process. And this is the one of the primary
And this is the one of the primary benefits of this practice is it
benefits of this practice is it naturally will open up to your ability
naturally will open up to your ability to witness and become non-reactionary.
Okay. So let's practice together. We'll exhale. 3 2 1 exhale.
exhale. 3 2 1 exhale. Good. Slow and controlled. Inhale to a
Good. Slow and controlled. Inhale to a count of five. Inhale.
count of five. Inhale. counting to yourself.
counting to yourself. Hold your breath and you hold it with
Hold your breath and you hold it with your belly relaxed and with a lifting
your belly relaxed and with a lifting feeling as if you're continuing to
feeling as if you're continuing to inhale, but you're not.
inhale, but you're not. Mind expanding. Now exhaling, bellies
Mind expanding. Now exhaling, bellies contracting. Slow five count
contracting. Slow five count and hold.
and hold. Single point focus.
Single point focus. Good. Release your belly. Inhale.
Hold. Keep your mind pinned to each phase of the box pattern. Paying
phase of the box pattern. Paying attention to this hold, all the
attention to this hold, all the sensations, what's happening with your
sensations, what's happening with your mind. Now exhaling. Follow the breath
mind. Now exhaling. Follow the breath out. Follow every nook and cranny.
out. Follow every nook and cranny. Investigate it like with a magnifying
Investigate it like with a magnifying glass. And now hold.
glass. And now hold. And just sit with and be with and notice
And just sit with and be with and notice this. Exhale. Hold.
this. Exhale. Hold. Good. Release. And inhale. Follow the
Good. Release. And inhale. Follow the inhale. Feel the energy. Feel the life
inhale. Feel the energy. Feel the life force.
force. Hold.
Hold. Pay attention.
Pay attention. If your mind wanders, bring it back.
If your mind wanders, bring it back. Notice it. Bring it back. Now exhaling.
Notice it. Bring it back. Now exhaling. Follow the breath out. Belly's tucking
Follow the breath out. Belly's tucking in. And hold.
in. And hold. Vacuum of space.
Vacuum of space. Single point focus. Good. Release the
Single point focus. Good. Release the belly. And inhale.
belly. And inhale. >> Slow, deep, controlled.
>> Slow, deep, controlled. Hold.
If your mind wanders, bring it back. Witness it. Bring it back. You are not
Witness it. Bring it back. You are not your thoughts.
your thoughts. Exhaling.
Exhaling. Let it go. Surrender
Let it go. Surrender and hold.
and hold. I am witness. I am not these thoughts or
I am witness. I am not these thoughts or emotions.
emotions. Release the belly. Inhale.
I am witness beyond thoughts and emotions.
emotions. Exhale.
We'll do three more rounds. Release the belly. Inhale.
I am the observer. I am beyond the thoughts and emotions. I notice thoughts
thoughts and emotions. I notice thoughts and emotions. I'm in control. Exhale.
and emotions. I'm in control. Exhale. I am in command.
I am in command. Hold.
Hold. Ultimately, we begin to im implement or enact your visioning
implement or enact your visioning process to see your future self and your
process to see your future self and your wholeness. Exhaling.
Do that from the witnessing perspective. Hold not from ego.
Hold not from ego. You can say thoughts and emotions equal
You can say thoughts and emotions equal ego. That's the old personality. Inhale.
Hold. The witnessing perspective is beyond ego. And that's where your new
beyond ego. And that's where your new personality will root itself and take
personality will root itself and take hold
hold and exhale.
Release the holds. When you go back to tactical breathing, five count in, five
tactical breathing, five count in, five count out. This is your new natural
count out. This is your new natural breath state. Inhale
and exhale. You want to retrain your automatic
You want to retrain your automatic breathing pattern to go five count in,
breathing pattern to go five count in, five count out, nostril breathing
five count out, nostril breathing throughout the day,
throughout the day, which will keep your mind in a state of
which will keep your mind in a state of calm equinimity and will bleed off all
calm equinimity and will bleed off all excess stress in the body, bring your
excess stress in the body, bring your body back into homeostatic balance. Box
body back into homeostatic balance. Box breathing will lead to perfect health.
breathing will lead to perfect health. Of course, you can accelerate that with
Of course, you can accelerate that with the other six pillars. And box breathing
the other six pillars. And box breathing is your main tool, your master tool for
is your main tool, your master tool for stress management. All right, open the
stress management. All right, open the eyes. Come back in the room.
I could spend the whole hour and a half talking about um the power of breath and
talking about um the power of breath and box breathing as a practice. Uh there's
box breathing as a practice. Uh there's a lot of nuance to it. Uh so tomorrow
a lot of nuance to it. Uh so tomorrow we'll get into a little bit more and of
we'll get into a little bit more and of course we have time right now for any
course we have time right now for any questions on that. But um we'll open it
questions on that. But um we'll open it up now until about quarter after the
up now until about quarter after the hour um for coaching on anything
hour um for coaching on anything anything you want to talk about.
anything you want to talk about. Um but the one kind of guideline is that
Um but the one kind of guideline is that as you formulate your questions that um
as you formulate your questions that um uh there a couple things because
uh there a couple things because learning how to ask good questions is a
learning how to ask good questions is a practice in and of itself. So to make
practice in and of itself. So to make sure that number one, it's going to be
sure that number one, it's going to be useful for everybody else, right? So you
useful for everybody else, right? So you want to make sure that you're not um
want to make sure that you're not um asking a question that isn't relevant to
asking a question that isn't relevant to other people. And it's hard for me to
other people. And it's hard for me to imagine much that won't be relevant to
imagine much that won't be relevant to everybody because everybody is right
everybody because everybody is right engaged in this human experience, but
engaged in this human experience, but really it's like stick stay away from
really it's like stick stay away from the frivolous things. And then um learn
the frivolous things. And then um learn to formulate your question succinctly.
to formulate your question succinctly. Right.
Right. Who was it? Mark Twain who said, "I was
Who was it? Mark Twain who said, "I was going to write you a short letter, but I
going to write you a short letter, but I didn't have any time, so I wrote you a
didn't have any time, so I wrote you a long one instead."
Yeah. It's easier to just go run on the mouth, right?
mouth, right? It's easier to let your mind just go.
It's easier to let your mind just go. Uh it's much harder to say what you want
Uh it's much harder to say what you want to say in a in a short concise question.
to say in a in a short concise question. So use that as a practice and that will
So use that as a practice and that will serve you well in meetings and in
serve you well in meetings and in dialogue. All right. So I'm all yours.
dialogue. All right. So I'm all yours. Um let's have some fun conversation for
Um let's have some fun conversation for the next half hour and or so and uh 20
the next half hour and or so and uh 20 minutes or so and see how we go.
All right, whoever wants to take themselves off of mute VIPs, John and
themselves off of mute VIPs, John and Greita, Dave,
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Dean. >> Oh, hi, Mark. Uh, how you doing?
>> Oh, hi, Mark. Uh, how you doing? >> Awesome.
>> Awesome. >> Good. Good. Uh, I've been a follower of
>> Good. Good. Uh, I've been a follower of yours for for a number of years. I, uh,
yours for for a number of years. I, uh, participate in your morning workouts
participate in your morning workouts with some of your team in terms of the,
with some of your team in terms of the, uh, workout on demand sessions. So, I
uh, workout on demand sessions. So, I appreciate those.
appreciate those. >> Yeah. So my my question is uh you know
>> Yeah. So my my question is uh you know I've been pushing myself for a number of
I've been pushing myself for a number of years. I'm part of Brian Johnson's
years. I'm part of Brian Johnson's heroic community as well and that's how
heroic community as well and that's how I found out about you a number of years
I found out about you a number of years ago and I think often at times I feel um
ago and I think often at times I feel um you know um you know how do my question
you know um you know how do my question is how do I stay grounded and still
is how do I stay grounded and still reach for the stars? I think at times I
reach for the stars? I think at times I I have these aspirations or ambitions
I have these aspirations or ambitions that are maybe not grounded. they're,
that are maybe not grounded. they're, you know, borderlining delusional, but
you know, borderlining delusional, but at the same time, I want to stretch
at the same time, I want to stretch myself. I want to push myself, but, you
myself. I want to push myself, but, you know, in that momentto- moment dialogue
know, in that momentto- moment dialogue with myself. How do I how do I balance
with myself. How do I how do I balance that? And I find oftentimes I have these
that? And I find oftentimes I have these grandiose ideas in the morning, by the
grandiose ideas in the morning, by the afternoon, I find that they're kind of a
afternoon, I find that they're kind of a dumb idea and I don't I don't ship them
dumb idea and I don't I don't ship them or I don't put them out. So, that's kind
or I don't put them out. So, that's kind of the the question is how do I how do I
of the the question is how do I how do I uh reach for the stars and stay
uh reach for the stars and stay grounded, I guess.
grounded, I guess. Yeah. Oh, that's a great question.
Yeah. Oh, that's a great question. That's a practice in and of itself,
That's a practice in and of itself, right? That noticing, right, that you
right? That noticing, right, that you have, right, this this I don't want to
have, right, this this I don't want to use the word grandiosity, but grandio
use the word grandiosity, but grandio idea, and then reality hits you in the
idea, and then reality hits you in the face, right? It's like Mike Tyson said,
face, right? It's like Mike Tyson said, everything's great until you get punched
everything's great until you get punched in the face and then all of a sudden it
in the face and then all of a sudden it doesn't seem so attainable and you start
doesn't seem so attainable and you start to second guess yourself.
to second guess yourself. That's pretty uh common. And so the
That's pretty uh common. And so the question um to ask yourself is where's
question um to ask yourself is where's that
that idea coming from?
idea coming from? Right? That reaching for the stars there
Right? That reaching for the stars there there's a lot of
there's a lot of information out there and even in the
information out there and even in the heroic community about you can
heroic community about you can accomplish anything you want. You can
accomplish anything you want. You can accomplish do whatever you set your
accomplish do whatever you set your dreams to, right? Um and everyone's like
dreams to, right? Um and everyone's like and social media reinforces that. So you
and social media reinforces that. So you think everyone's, you know, if you're an
think everyone's, you know, if you're an entrepreneur, tech entrepreneur, you got
entrepreneur, tech entrepreneur, you got to have a unicorn. If you don't have a
to have a unicorn. If you don't have a unicorn, you're not a good entrepreneur.
unicorn, you're not a good entrepreneur. You don't know what the hell you're
You don't know what the hell you're doing. And so everyone's uh, you know,
doing. And so everyone's uh, you know, there's a shaming around that even if
there's a shaming around that even if it's self-imposed.
it's self-imposed. Uh, so who's asking that question,
Uh, so who's asking that question, right? Who who is it that needs to
right? Who who is it that needs to achieve something great, right? And
achieve something great, right? And 99.999999%
99.999999% of the time it's your ego
because uh from the integrated perspective,
perspective, you know, helping one human being is
you know, helping one human being is just as valuable as creating a unicorn
just as valuable as creating a unicorn that you don't even know if it's going
that you don't even know if it's going to do good or not, right? Um
to do good or not, right? Um so you got to understand that you're
so you got to understand that you're you're living a story within a story and
you're living a story within a story and part of the story. So what I mean by
part of the story. So what I mean by that is your story is couched within the
that is your story is couched within the broader story of culture and society and
broader story of culture and society and everything that you're being fed
everything that you're being fed including in developmental programs like
including in developmental programs like heroic or unbeatable mind. That's why I
heroic or unbeatable mind. That's why I try to feed people truth and uh and not
try to feed people truth and uh and not just
just And so if the broader story is going to
And so if the broader story is going to guilt you or shame you because you're
guilt you or shame you because you're not accomplishing some massively
not accomplishing some massively important target, right, which is Peter
important target, right, which is Peter Dminis's word or some like heroic
Dminis's word or some like heroic accomplishment. Um
accomplishment. Um then that's false story because there
then that's false story because there should be no shame. If you want to just
should be no shame. If you want to just sit and garden, that's the most probably
sit and garden, that's the most probably some of the happiest, most content
some of the happiest, most content people are just sitting and tilling
people are just sitting and tilling their garden.
their garden. And they're not putting all this false
And they're not putting all this false pressure on themselves to create
pressure on themselves to create something, you know, that might saddle
something, you know, that might saddle them for years with other regrets and uh
them for years with other regrets and uh and and distractions and burdens.
and and distractions and burdens. You know, I think of all the burdens
You know, I think of all the burdens that have come from me trying to grow
that have come from me trying to grow Unbe into a business that can scale and
Unbe into a business that can scale and maybe, you know, go public someday. That
maybe, you know, go public someday. That was part of a story that I bought into
was part of a story that I bought into and it actually burdened me with a
and it actually burdened me with a million dollars of debt and a lot of uh
million dollars of debt and a lot of uh you know a lot of past regrets which I
you know a lot of past regrets which I finally just said screw it. I'm not
finally just said screw it. I'm not going to have any regrets. Uh because
going to have any regrets. Uh because that's not healthy. But they were there
that's not healthy. But they were there for a while
for a while and and and there's some cleanup to do
and and and there's some cleanup to do because you know whatever you put into
because you know whatever you put into the world and create right it's got a
the world and create right it's got a long tail of energy that you often just
long tail of energy that you often just have to clean up.
have to clean up. So you got to ask yourself who who
So you got to ask yourself who who really wants this and if it's coming
really wants this and if it's coming from your ego because you want to be
from your ego because you want to be seen as successful or as you know
seen as successful or as you know whatever someone says you should be or
whatever someone says you should be or shoot for the moon right do the
shoot for the moon right do the moonshot. Um
moonshot. Um chances are that's not the right reason.
chances are that's not the right reason. Now, if you're radically clear
Now, if you're radically clear that your heart says this is something
that your heart says this is something you can't not do,
you can't not do, right? That's the difference. It's going
right? That's the difference. It's going to happen whether you're you're involved
to happen whether you're you're involved or not, right? You can't not not do it.
or not, right? You can't not not do it. That doesn't make any sense. You can't
That doesn't make any sense. You can't not do it.
that's the principle of way action without the actor. If your ego is
action without the actor. If your ego is not involved and it's going to happen,
not involved and it's going to happen, then it's going to happen.
then it's going to happen. And if you're clear about the
And if you're clear about the directionality of what that thing is,
directionality of what that thing is, then start in that direction. But don't
then start in that direction. But don't think you're going to know what the
think you're going to know what the outcome is.
outcome is. It's impossible to know the outcome. So,
It's impossible to know the outcome. So, so in this philosophy, you have to have
so in this philosophy, you have to have an acceptable range of outcomes,
an acceptable range of outcomes, right? This is why the whole unicorn
right? This is why the whole unicorn thing or measuring things in size of
thing or measuring things in size of audience or or number of followers on
audience or or number of followers on social media or size of your bank
social media or size of your bank account or whether you go public or not
account or whether you go public or not or this or that, those are all false
or this or that, those are all false measures.
measures. You've got to have uh an acceptable
You've got to have uh an acceptable range of outcomes that you can envision
range of outcomes that you can envision and that's going to generally be around
and that's going to generally be around impact, the impact you make, how you
impact, the impact you make, how you serve and the effect it's going to have
serve and the effect it's going to have on your life. And you should never
on your life. And you should never create anything in your life that
create anything in your life that doesn't serve you 100%.
doesn't serve you 100%. And if and if it means serving other you
And if and if it means serving other you others through you, that's great. If you
others through you, that's great. If you can serve others and serve yourself,
can serve others and serve yourself, that's good. But you got to make sure
that's good. But you got to make sure you're not doing it for other reasons or
you're not doing it for other reasons or for other people or or to look good for,
for other people or or to look good for, you know, in society's terms
you know, in society's terms because that'll lead to regrets and
because that'll lead to regrets and entanglements
entanglements and you'll get trapped in it.
and you'll get trapped in it. Now, I don't think I directly answer
Now, I don't think I directly answer your question. Well, I may I did because
your question. Well, I may I did because by the end of the afternoon, you're
by the end of the afternoon, you're saying, "Well, that was crazy." Well,
saying, "Well, that was crazy." Well, maybe because it was crazy,
>> right? >> Yeah. your ego is getting
>> Yeah. your ego is getting >> and I think it's that is was it crazy or
>> and I think it's that is was it crazy or >> or isn't it and that's where there's
>> or isn't it and that's where there's that
that >> you know dilemma do I but I it was
>> you know dilemma do I but I it was helpful to understand maybe you know
helpful to understand maybe you know awareness is is the ego driving it or is
awareness is is the ego driving it or is it is it my heart driving
it is it my heart driving >> and my recommendation is not to give up
>> and my recommendation is not to give up the dream but to don't take any action
the dream but to don't take any action on it and just keep on sitting and
on it and just keep on sitting and meditating and saying who's this who's
meditating and saying who's this who's driving this is it my ego with some
driving this is it my ego with some neediness neediness. Does it have some
neediness neediness. Does it have some neediness to feel to feel worthy to be
neediness to feel to feel worthy to be seen to be important to be measured up
seen to be important to be measured up to be like that person or this person?
to be like that person or this person? If it's any of those, then it's ego. Or
If it's any of those, then it's ego. Or is this coming from spirit, right? Is
is this coming from spirit, right? Is this coming from your heart? Is this
this coming from your heart? Is this something that's going to happen
something that's going to happen regardless?
regardless? And if it's something and and if you can
And if it's something and and if you can get there where it's something that's
get there where it's something that's going to happen, period, then um
going to happen, period, then um suddenly the obstacles will drop away.
suddenly the obstacles will drop away. You won't feel the confusion that you're
You won't feel the confusion that you're having. You won't feel any energy drain.
having. You won't feel any energy drain. You'll be hair on fire. Go, go, go. So,
You'll be hair on fire. Go, go, go. So, wait for that signal.
>> Great. Thanks, Mark. Appreciate it. >> You bet.
>> Go ahead, Anga. >> Thank you.
>> Thank you. Thanks, Marks. Great to see you again.
Thanks, Marks. Great to see you again. Uh, and thanks for the useful tips. My
Uh, and thanks for the useful tips. My question will be uh regarding uh a a
question will be uh regarding uh a a topic we uh brought up today about
topic we uh brought up today about negative self talk. Uh shortly saying
negative self talk. Uh shortly saying like everything is fine so far. Yeah. Uh
like everything is fine so far. Yeah. Uh as you know me uh that I'm quite
as you know me uh that I'm quite successful uh and everything is going
successful uh and everything is going well. Uh however of course everyone has
well. Uh however of course everyone has cases about something from the past
cases about something from the past which maybe wasn't fully realized. maybe
which maybe wasn't fully realized. maybe some goals that weren't reached and from
some goals that weren't reached and from times to times uh it keeps showing up
times to times uh it keeps showing up this shadow also saying uh dops and
this shadow also saying uh dops and negative selft talk like I start
negative selft talk like I start thinking like despite everything I have
thinking like despite everything I have already achieved uh maybe I could do
already achieved uh maybe I could do better maybe that past me uh who maybe a
better maybe that past me uh who maybe a little bit different personal maybe
little bit different personal maybe professional little bit different
professional little bit different specialist uh in my area uh that
specialist uh in my area uh that something isn't yet reached. Yeah, it is
something isn't yet reached. Yeah, it is not truly fear. Yeah, I would say it
not truly fear. Yeah, I would say it rather than adopted. So what is one
rather than adopted. So what is one effective way how to interrupt that
effective way how to interrupt that pattern when it shows up? Yeah. And uh
pattern when it shows up? Yeah. And uh get rid of those things like and turning
get rid of those things like and turning yourself into the the loser mode. I
yourself into the the loser mode. I would say who you definitely are not.
would say who you definitely are not. Yeah. But let's say those shadows from
Yeah. But let's say those shadows from the past coming up like I could be a
the past coming up like I could be a better myself. Yeah. But for some reason
better myself. Yeah. But for some reason I didn't reach it. However, in reality
I didn't reach it. However, in reality is that all the goals are actually
is that all the goals are actually reached. But maybe from the different
reached. But maybe from the different perspective, not like I imagined it at
perspective, not like I imagined it at first. Thanks.
first. Thanks. >> Yeah.
Well, first of all, know that um
um this is pretty common, right? There's
this is pretty common, right? There's nothing wrong with you to have negative
nothing wrong with you to have negative selft talk and still be very s very
selft talk and still be very s very successful. I find that to be norm norm
successful. I find that to be norm norm um
um regardless of your culture uh negativity
regardless of your culture uh negativity is baked into the human condition
is baked into the human condition uh for now right and it may always be
uh for now right and it may always be that way but uh it doesn't have to be on
that way but uh it doesn't have to be on an individual basis uh you're trained
an individual basis uh you're trained with negative language um whether that's
with negative language um whether that's just pure academia or through your
just pure academia or through your religion or through your family uh if
religion or through your family uh if you have an particular the acute case of
you have an particular the acute case of negative selft talk. It's likely that uh
negative selft talk. It's likely that uh you were brought up in a family that had
you were brought up in a family that had a lot of negative selft talk. Uh that
a lot of negative selft talk. Uh that certainly was my case. Negative selft
certainly was my case. Negative selft talk or negative talk in a family um can
talk or negative talk in a family um can be um couched in even in positive terms
be um couched in even in positive terms right as we like toxic positivity right
right as we like toxic positivity right or uh sarcasm which you don't know when
or uh sarcasm which you don't know when you grow up you you know because you're
you grow up you you know because you're laughing at your dad's sarcastic jokes.
laughing at your dad's sarcastic jokes. And I'm speaking from per personal
And I'm speaking from per personal experience and you don't recognize
experience and you don't recognize that's negative until later in your life
that's negative until later in your life when you realize, wow, that doesn't feel
when you realize, wow, that doesn't feel good, right? And it's not leading other
good, right? And it's not leading other people to feel good because that's
people to feel good because that's sarcastic. That's biting. It's negative.
sarcastic. That's biting. It's negative. >> So negativity shows up in a lot of ways
>> So negativity shows up in a lot of ways and a lot of times it's it's couched as
and a lot of times it's it's couched as positive, right? Um whenever someone
positive, right? Um whenever someone tries to help you and they actually are
tries to help you and they actually are judging you, that's negative. And it's
judging you, that's negative. And it's gonna that that means they're in their
gonna that that means they're in their mind they're doing something they think
mind they're doing something they think they perceive as positive, but they're
they perceive as positive, but they're actually talking to themselves and
actually talking to themselves and perceiving a negative energy and and uh
perceiving a negative energy and and uh talk. So, um my point there is it's very
talk. So, um my point there is it's very very common. There's nothing wrong with
very common. There's nothing wrong with you. Uh in fact, everything's right
you. Uh in fact, everything's right because now you're you're paying
because now you're you're paying attention to it. You're noticing it. And
attention to it. You're noticing it. And uh bringing things like this into
uh bringing things like this into awareness is the first step to being
awareness is the first step to being able to deal with it, to eradicate it.
able to deal with it, to eradicate it. So um
So um at first it's a very active process
at first it's a very active process right it's almost it's almost like you
right it's almost it's almost like you have to do violence against the
have to do violence against the negativity to get its attention right to
negativity to get its attention right to get your attention
get your attention and um and so becoming aware like I said
and um and so becoming aware like I said practice makes you aware of it because
practice makes you aware of it because when you're when you're in practice like
when you're when you're in practice like you're creating you're creating a
you're creating you're creating a contrast because it feels really good to
contrast because it feels really good to sit and box breathe
sit and box breathe And to have a positive mantra, it feels
And to have a positive mantra, it feels really good. And without the practice,
really good. And without the practice, you were always just steeped in kind of
you were always just steeped in kind of this old normal where negative talk,
this old normal where negative talk, negative thinking was it just felt
negative thinking was it just felt normal and it didn't really you didn't
normal and it didn't really you didn't have anything to compare it to. So by
have anything to compare it to. So by being part of this community or others
being part of this community or others and and reading great uh positive books
and and reading great uh positive books and and now practicing and you're
and and now practicing and you're starting to enter different states of of
starting to enter different states of of awareness or consciousness where where
awareness or consciousness where where suddenly it feels better. It feels more
suddenly it feels better. It feels more right. It feels more integrated. It
right. It feels more integrated. It feels more whole. feels peaceful
feels more whole. feels peaceful whatever it's still a state right but
whatever it's still a state right but it's it now can be juxtaposed against
it's it now can be juxtaposed against this other state which is negative and
this other state which is negative and so when you think about selft talk
so when you think about selft talk positive selft talk feels good when you
positive selft talk feels good when you when you even if you have to fake it
when you even if you have to fake it before you make it like I'm I am worthy
before you make it like I'm I am worthy I am kind I am compassionate I'm feeling
I am kind I am compassionate I'm feeling good I'm looking good I ought to be in
good I'm looking good I ought to be in Hollywood day by day in every way I'm
Hollywood day by day in every way I'm getting better and better hey I've got
getting better and better hey I've got this easy day piece of cake who hey
this easy day piece of cake who hey that's my inner dialogue now because I
that's my inner dialogue now because I had to train it in my mind and I had to
had to train it in my mind and I had to feel into it and I had to believe into
feel into it and I had to believe into it until all of a sudden as soon as I
it until all of a sudden as soon as I say those words I'm like that's truth I
say those words I'm like that's truth I believe that and over time this is what
believe that and over time this is what I mean by by uh in order to in order to
I mean by by uh in order to in order to get rid of negative talk you don't focus
get rid of negative talk you don't focus on it you you replace it with positive
on it you you replace it with positive talk feed courage positive talk starve
talk feed courage positive talk starve fear negative talk
fear negative talk um so over time. That's the practice.
um so over time. That's the practice. Always turning away from the negative
Always turning away from the negative and feeding courage until you just bleed
and feeding courage until you just bleed the negative selft talk of all energy
the negative selft talk of all energy and it pops and disappears.
and it pops and disappears. Having said that, in the beginning
Having said that, in the beginning phases where you are right now, you've
phases where you are right now, you've got to be more forceful.
got to be more forceful. And so when you notice the negative talk
And so when you notice the negative talk arising like I don't know, I'm not
arising like I don't know, I'm not worthy. I'm not sure I'm good enough. I
worthy. I'm not sure I'm good enough. I should be able to accomplish more.
should be able to accomplish more. Right? even though I'm successful, I
Right? even though I'm successful, I should be more. Well, that's
should be more. Well, that's That's a negative story. And you've got
That's a negative story. And you've got to then take control of your mind.
to then take control of your mind. And by taking control of the mind
And by taking control of the mind because you've already observed that
because you've already observed that negative thought, now you say, "No,
negative thought, now you say, "No, screw that.
screw that. I'm not going to allow that negative
I'm not going to allow that negative thought. I'm not going to follow it up.
thought. I'm not going to follow it up. I'm not going to feed it. I'm going to
I'm not going to feed it. I'm going to now that I've intercepted it, I've
now that I've intercepted it, I've noticed it and I've intercepted. I'm
noticed it and I've intercepted. I'm going to shift my attention. I call that
going to shift my attention. I call that redirect. This is the worm process I
redirect. This is the worm process I addressed earlier. I'm going to redirect
addressed earlier. I'm going to redirect it and I'm going to force myself
it and I'm going to force myself into a positive dialogue. And this is a
into a positive dialogue. And this is a forceful thing because your mind's going
forceful thing because your mind's going to want to keep going back to that
to want to keep going back to that negative because it's it's attractive.
negative because it's it's attractive. You're kind of addicted to it. Not in a
You're kind of addicted to it. Not in a sense that you got addicted to it as an
sense that you got addicted to it as an adult, but as a child, it was trained
adult, but as a child, it was trained into you. It became a habitual pattern.
into you. It became a habitual pattern. So you've got to say nope not not having
So you've got to say nope not not having any of that right now I'm better than
any of that right now I'm better than that that's the redirect and then you go
that that's the redirect and then you go into your positive selft talk and it can
into your positive selft talk and it can be in the form of those mantras like I
be in the form of those mantras like I said or you just talk to yourself right
said or you just talk to yourself right I am worthy I am successful right
I am worthy I am successful right there's nothing lacking I've got
there's nothing lacking I've got everything I need
everything I need right when I when you love what you have
right when I when you love what you have you have everything you need
you have everything you need and that's and that's the dialogue
and that's and that's the dialogue Right? You come up with your own
Right? You come up with your own internal self positive talk.
internal self positive talk. Like I I gave you examples of mine. I've
Like I I gave you examples of mine. I've got like five go-tos. Feeling good. I'm
got like five go-tos. Feeling good. I'm looking good. Ought to be in Hollywood
looking good. Ought to be in Hollywood day by day in every way and better and
day by day in every way and better and better. Huyah. Hey, I've got this easy
better. Huyah. Hey, I've got this easy day, piece of cake. Huyah. Hey. I use
day, piece of cake. Huyah. Hey. I use the Sanskrit omniva.
the Sanskrit omniva. And I am love. I am light. I forgive
And I am love. I am light. I forgive myself and I love myself.
>> Let's Let's try. Yeah, just need to to work on it and and try. Yeah. Or maybe
work on it and and try. Yeah. Or maybe within a new domain set new goals and
within a new domain set new goals and yeah and focus on
yeah and focus on >> you know what uh
>> you know what uh >> on the future.
>> on the future. >> Yoda from Star Wars says do or do not.
>> Yoda from Star Wars says do or do not. There is no try.
There is no try. >> So don't use the word try because you've
>> So don't use the word try because you've already given yourself an out.
already given yourself an out. >> Do the practice or do not do the
>> Do the practice or do not do the practice. But you've just committed to
practice. But you've just committed to doing the practice. So I would expect if
doing the practice. So I would expect if you do this practice and make it
you do this practice and make it centerpiece every day because you've
centerpiece every day because you've identified this is a major thing in your
identified this is a major thing in your life that you want to eradicate negative
life that you want to eradicate negative selft talk. If you do this practice
selft talk. If you do this practice every single day, every time you notice
every single day, every time you notice your mind going negative, every time you
your mind going negative, every time you just turn away from it, turn your back
just turn away from it, turn your back to it and focus on neg positive
to it and focus on neg positive thinking, positive selft talk, positive
thinking, positive selft talk, positive dialogue, write down your mantras,
dialogue, write down your mantras, practice them every single day. I can
practice them every single day. I can guarantee you if you come back in March,
guarantee you if you come back in March, you will have a very different energy
you will have a very different energy around this. I guarantee you daily
around this. I guarantee you daily practice. All right, you got this.
practice. All right, you got this. >> Yes,
>> Yes, >> I believe in you. Hooya.
>> I believe in you. Hooya. >> Hooya. All right, we'll hop into
>> Hooya. All right, we'll hop into Patrick.
Patrick. >> Carry on, sailor.
>> Carry on, sailor. >> Next. Hooya.
>> Next. Hooya. >> Patrick, you are up. Go ahead and unmute
>> Patrick, you are up. Go ahead and unmute yourself.
>> Now we can. >> Okay. I I tried to change my background.
>> Okay. I I tried to change my background. I couldn't figure it out. Um,
I couldn't figure it out. Um, I guess I'll start off with uh
I guess I'll start off with uh I guess my two mantras have become not
I guess my two mantras have become not by the words of my mouth but by the
by the words of my mouth but by the manifestations of my heart and not
manifestations of my heart and not enough sleep, not enough food to keep my
enough sleep, not enough food to keep my feet because I'm the dude. And I guess
feet because I'm the dude. And I guess my my my question
my my my question is
is how could I convey
how could I convey more joy versus like you hear embrace
more joy versus like you hear embrace the suck and that kind of rubs people
the suck and that kind of rubs people the wrong way, you know. Um, in the
the wrong way, you know. Um, in the Bible it says men are cursed with the
Bible it says men are cursed with the sweat of the brow and, you know, a
sweat of the brow and, you know, a broken back. And, you know, Seephus was
broken back. And, you know, Seephus was cursed to push a boulder up a hill for
cursed to push a boulder up a hill for the rest of his afterlife. And I always
the rest of his afterlife. And I always ponder if if he's happy or not. And um I
ponder if if he's happy or not. And um I I was just wondering how I could convey
I was just wondering how I could convey to to I guess more specifically men
to to I guess more specifically men since we do have to work harder. How
since we do have to work harder. How could I convey to them better to take
could I convey to them better to take joy in the hard work instead of saying
joy in the hard work instead of saying like you know suck it up buttercup or or
like you know suck it up buttercup or or just embrace the suck because they kind
just embrace the suck because they kind of just don't you know I can see they
of just don't you know I can see they get it but they don't really understand
get it but they don't really understand right
right >> and that's really where I'm at. Do you
>> and that's really where I'm at. Do you uh coach others in some capacity?
uh coach others in some capacity? >> I'm trying to get there. Uh that's my
>> I'm trying to get there. Uh that's my end goal.
end goal. >> Got it.
>> Got it. >> Uh so you're bringing up a really good
>> Uh so you're bringing up a really good point. Um,
imagine it like um, you know, metaphorically like a rocket
you know, metaphorically like a rocket leaving a launchpad and then trying to,
leaving a launchpad and then trying to, you know, getting through the suborbital
you know, getting through the suborbital phases and then getting into space,
phases and then getting into space, right? Each one of them requires a
right? Each one of them requires a different activation and energy, doesn't
different activation and energy, doesn't it? Right. So getting the um breaking
it? Right. So getting the um breaking free from the inertia of you know
free from the inertia of you know groundbased
you know uh starship is incredible. It requires an incredible amount of energy
requires an incredible amount of energy and it's it's uh it's shattering one
and it's it's uh it's shattering one paradigm and entering another.
paradigm and entering another. Right?
Right? So terms like embrace the suck, suck it
So terms like embrace the suck, suck it up. Um,
up. Um, you know, and and interventions like,
you know, and and interventions like, you know, take your eyes off yourself
you know, take your eyes off yourself and put them on others. Um, these are
and put them on others. Um, these are all like it's like the it's like the
all like it's like the it's like the engines blasting off and trying to get
engines blasting off and trying to get the the individual to shift out of one
the the individual to shift out of one level of consciousness and and and
level of consciousness and and and radically jerked into another level
radically jerked into another level quickly.
However, that energy gets expended fairly quickly
fairly quickly and as you alluded to, it's not the
and as you alluded to, it's not the right energy to take you up out of the,
right energy to take you up out of the, you know, into the into the stratosphere
you know, into the into the stratosphere because it has a negative quality. It's
because it has a negative quality. It's it's very similar to saying that anger
it's very similar to saying that anger can be a great motivator. The only time
can be a great motivator. The only time and way that anger is a great motivator
and way that anger is a great motivator is to get you off your ass. To get off
is to get you off your ass. To get off the X, so to speak, you know, in SEAL
the X, so to speak, you know, in SEAL language, the X being the ambush or the
language, the X being the ambush or the place that you're freaking stuck in a
place that you're freaking stuck in a ditch and the enem is descending upon
ditch and the enem is descending upon you. So anger can be a great motivator
you. So anger can be a great motivator to get you off your ass or to embrace
to get you off your ass or to embrace the suck. Suck it up. Get through this
the suck. Suck it up. Get through this situation. Let me get to higher ground
situation. Let me get to higher ground so I can see things better. like see
so I can see things better. like see more and then you shift focus and you
more and then you shift focus and you got to move from there into surrender.
got to move from there into surrender. It's like effort surrender and the
It's like effort surrender and the surrender phase is positive and that's
surrender phase is positive and that's when uh you can get to joy and and and
when uh you can get to joy and and and work becomes not work not the you know
work becomes not work not the you know not the brow being beaten and not
not the brow being beaten and not cisphus putting the rock up the hill and
cisphus putting the rock up the hill and having it roll back down on top of them
having it roll back down on top of them but work becomes joy
but work becomes joy and flow.
So in any type of process of transformation,
transformation, the most
the most um the hardest part is the early stages
um the hardest part is the early stages because you got to break free
because you got to break free of all the conditioning that's gotten
of all the conditioning that's gotten you stuck.
you stuck. And that can be painful.
And that can be painful. It can be literally physically painful.
It can be literally physically painful. It's emotionally painful. Um it's
It's emotionally painful. Um it's confusing.
confusing. This is why like the work that we do
This is why like the work that we do here and why I say the body's got to be
here and why I say the body's got to be part of it is because it's not
part of it is because it's not comfortable
comfortable and this is why many many like
and this is why many many like developmental programs especially
developmental programs especially spiritual development new age
spiritual development new age yoga um sitting in you know Buddhist
yoga um sitting in you know Buddhist posture going to a Zen monastery they
posture going to a Zen monastery they don't work
don't work like there's very few people are
like there's very few people are transformed from those because it's too
transformed from those because it's too comfortable.
It's like, oh, everything's great. I feel really good here in this vipasa
feel really good here in this vipasa retreat. You know, maybe there's a
retreat. You know, maybe there's a little bit of kind of boredom in the
little bit of kind of boredom in the first 24 hours, but by the end of it,
first 24 hours, but by the end of it, everyone's going, "This is great.
everyone's going, "This is great. I feel so peaceful."
I feel so peaceful." And then as soon as they get on the
And then as soon as they get on the plane to go home, right, they're back to
plane to go home, right, they're back to their old selves, agitated and anxious
their old selves, agitated and anxious and confused again
and confused again because it's not true transformation.
because it's not true transformation. It's just it's just creating a temporary
It's just it's just creating a temporary state of perceived peace
state of perceived peace and it's not lasting and it's not it's
and it's not lasting and it's not it's not transformation. Transformation is
not transformation. Transformation is changing the very nature of who you are.
changing the very nature of who you are. It's not giving you some mental
It's not giving you some mental perception of peace.
So language like that is like a kick in the
language like that is like a kick in the ass,
ass, right? It's like get off of your get out
right? It's like get off of your get out of your freaking ego. Get out of your
of your freaking ego. Get out of your head. Get off the X. Suck it up,
head. Get off the X. Suck it up, right? Um it's not going to be easy.
right? Um it's not going to be easy. it's going to be uncomfortable
and you stay in that discomfort zone and you suck it up and you embrace that suck
you suck it up and you embrace that suck until you get comfortable with that
until you get comfortable with that level of discomfort
level of discomfort and then suddenly you don't have to suck
and then suddenly you don't have to suck it up anymore.
it up anymore. It's effortless.
It's effortless. And then of course you may now go to
And then of course you may now go to another level of discomfort but you you
another level of discomfort but you you don't need to use the same language
don't need to use the same language anymore because what used to be
anymore because what used to be perceived as a challenge now is an
perceived as a challenge now is an opportunity. It's exciting like yeah I'm
opportunity. It's exciting like yeah I'm going to go do something really hard you
going to go do something really hard you know and it's going to be exciting
know and it's going to be exciting because I know I'm going to gain insight
because I know I'm going to gain insight and awareness and grow from it. So the
and awareness and grow from it. So the language changes. Does that make sense?
language changes. Does that make sense? >> Makes sense. Yes.
>> Makes sense. Yes. >> Yeah. So just look at that stuff, that
>> Yeah. So just look at that stuff, that language and those those kind of like,
language and those those kind of like, you know, those those statements or or
you know, those those statements or or those motivators that have kind of that
those motivators that have kind of that negative quality to it as just like
negative quality to it as just like little sticks of dynamite. They expend
little sticks of dynamite. They expend their energy and then you move on.
>> Oh yeah. Next question, Paul.
>> Me, I guess. Thank you. Uh, coach, uh, uh, I came out to one of your SEALIT
uh, I came out to one of your SEALIT camps, uh, 11 12 years ago now, and it
camps, uh, 11 12 years ago now, and it was life-changing. So, thank you.
was life-changing. So, thank you. >> Nice.
>> Nice. >> Um, and this question is probably more
>> Um, and this question is probably more pedestrian than than the first few
pedestrian than than the first few questions, but you caught my attention
questions, but you caught my attention earlier when you talked about exercise
earlier when you talked about exercise addiction. And so, my question is, how
addiction. And so, my question is, how do you assess that you're getting
do you assess that you're getting sufficient recovery?
Um it really is about body sensitivity uh and capacity.
uh and capacity. So like um maybe this year isn't a great
So like um maybe this year isn't a great example for me, but it's still Germaine
example for me, but it's still Germaine like with my injury and and um I've
like with my injury and and um I've needed a lot more recovery
needed a lot more recovery than I'm used to. Um, but fortunately
than I'm used to. Um, but fortunately I've been training for so long I pay
I've been training for so long I pay attention to that and I I haven't
attention to that and I I haven't overdone it and reinjured myself which I
overdone it and reinjured myself which I might have done when I was 25 or 30. Um,
might have done when I was 25 or 30. Um, paying attention to the body means
paying attention to the body means paying attention to the body and to
paying attention to the body and to include when you're overtraining.
include when you're overtraining. And so symptoms of overtraining or
And so symptoms of overtraining or training uh um of needing a break are
training uh um of needing a break are your your sleep the first and foremost
your your sleep the first and foremost is your sleep gets disrupted because you
is your sleep gets disrupted because you have too much cortisol flowing through
have too much cortisol flowing through your system. So sleep pattern disruption
your system. So sleep pattern disruption is a sign that maybe you're doing too
is a sign that maybe you're doing too much and you need a rest. Um of course
much and you need a rest. Um of course any kind of uh indication of an injury.
any kind of uh indication of an injury. Now, I'm not saying they're all
Now, I'm not saying they're all necessarily uh meaning you need a rest,
necessarily uh meaning you need a rest, but sometimes a movement pattern that
but sometimes a movement pattern that you maybe you're o overindexing on has
you maybe you're o overindexing on has like a dysfunctionality to it.
like a dysfunctionality to it. It's got an imperfection in it and
It's got an imperfection in it and that's going to show up as some sort of
that's going to show up as some sort of glitch in your system. And so, you might
glitch in your system. And so, you might need to like just slow down and take a
need to like just slow down and take a look at the movement pattern. Trace the
look at the movement pattern. Trace the glitch back to its source.
glitch back to its source. And uh that that could look like doing
And uh that that could look like doing some recovery or physical therapy or you
some recovery or physical therapy or you know just backing down and doing some
know just backing down and doing some yoga letting it come back into balance.
yoga letting it come back into balance. Right? So that's another indicator that
Right? So that's another indicator that things might be going off the rails and
things might be going off the rails and you need to take some time to recover.
you need to take some time to recover. Um to me recovery is an active process.
Um to me recovery is an active process. So so I do 20 minutes of yoga every
So so I do 20 minutes of yoga every single day and it's it's as important to
single day and it's it's as important to me as like eating and sleeping. It's
me as like eating and sleeping. It's like daily dental floss for the body,
like daily dental floss for the body, the spine, the joints. And that is an
the spine, the joints. And that is an active recovery.
active recovery. Whereas I can train hard
Whereas I can train hard and if I do yoga, I don't need to take
and if I do yoga, I don't need to take as much time off because that yoga is is
as much time off because that yoga is is um is my recovery time.
um is my recovery time. And I love to move my body. So if if I
And I love to move my body. So if if I can train seven times a week, that's
can train seven times a week, that's great. But I usually don't anyways.
great. But I usually don't anyways. A lot of times, most most weeks, it's
A lot of times, most most weeks, it's either Saturday or Sunday, I'll I'll
either Saturday or Sunday, I'll I'll have the intention to train, but I just
have the intention to train, but I just don't and uh you know, end up going for
don't and uh you know, end up going for a long walk or a ruck, you know, with my
a long walk or a ruck, you know, with my weight vest or something, and I don't
weight vest or something, and I don't even consider that training. That's just
even consider that training. That's just >> that's just movement, right?
>> that's just movement, right? So build into your system or your time u
So build into your system or your time u things that that other people might
things that that other people might think of as training but for you is just
think of as training but for you is just pleasure like a long walk put a weight
pleasure like a long walk put a weight vest on uh go for a swim right um stuff
vest on uh go for a swim right um stuff like that like I I that's more active
like that like I I that's more active recovery
I would say anytime you're beginning to feel excess
anytime you're beginning to feel excess fatigue
fatigue and stress stress. Um, most likely it's
and stress stress. Um, most likely it's from psychological pressure and anxiety.
from psychological pressure and anxiety. But if you've been overtraining that can
But if you've been overtraining that can be exacerbated
be exacerbated because your body is not restoring,
because your body is not restoring, you're not drawing the energy in. You're
you're not drawing the energy in. You're not getting that, you know, that that
not getting that, you know, that that yin to the yang. So, you're just doing
yin to the yang. So, you're just doing too much. And it may not be just it may
too much. And it may not be just it may not be physical exercise. It may be
not be physical exercise. It may be you're just doing too much
you're just doing too much >> and you need to recover from doing too
>> and you need to recover from doing too much. So that's the time to like uh
much. So that's the time to like uh reduce your commitments, clear your
reduce your commitments, clear your schedule and just stop doing so much and
schedule and just stop doing so much and that's another way to recover.
>> Thank you. >> Important topic. Thanks for asking.
>> Important topic. Thanks for asking. >> Perfect. Um G, you can go next.
>> You hear me? >> Yes.
>> Yes. >> Yeah. Okay. Um well I have a question
>> Yeah. Okay. Um well I have a question whether I like Mark's take on it. Uh in
whether I like Mark's take on it. Uh in personal development
personal development uh you have two uh directions uh and
uh you have two uh directions uh and that's whether you uh and that's my
that's whether you uh and that's my question whether you focus on areas
question whether you focus on areas where you where you are already strong
where you where you are already strong or uh whether it's um
or uh whether it's um equally important to improve your weak
equally important to improve your weak your weak sides and your weak skills. Um
your weak sides and your weak skills. Um the the reason I'm asking or the the
the the reason I'm asking or the the practical example is I lead a small team
practical example is I lead a small team and I have a security installation
and I have a security installation company. I've been pouring lots of
company. I've been pouring lots of energy, time, courses and books into
energy, time, courses and books into leading uh my people uh to get them to
leading uh my people uh to get them to work efficiently um but not really
work efficiently um but not really paying off a lot. So, I have the feeling
paying off a lot. So, I have the feeling that I'm I started at a four out of 10
that I'm I started at a four out of 10 uh on uh on ability and I'm moving to a
uh on uh on ability and I'm moving to a five or a six. Uh but it doesn't seem
five or a six. Uh but it doesn't seem worth all the uh all the efforts that
worth all the uh all the efforts that I'm pouring into it. So, I'm wondering
I'm pouring into it. So, I'm wondering wouldn't it be better to focus on the on
wouldn't it be better to focus on the on the strong sides?
the strong sides? >> Okay. Um,
in the realm of horizontal development, which is what you're talking about, uh,
which is what you're talking about, uh, it's important to to acknowledge your
it's important to to acknowledge your strengths and to really focus on your
strengths and to really focus on your strengths and to um if you can um if you
strengths and to um if you can um if you can transfer things that you're weak at
can transfer things that you're weak at to someone who's strong at it,
to someone who's strong at it, then you'll be better off. So delegate
then you'll be better off. So delegate or uh you know transfer the you know um
or uh you know transfer the you know um responsibilities even if you're CEO to
responsibilities even if you're CEO to others for those things you're weak at.
others for those things you're weak at. It's a fool's errand right to
It's a fool's errand right to try to become super strong at the things
try to become super strong at the things you're weak at and to become and to
you're weak at and to become and to improve the things you're already strong
improve the things you're already strong at.
at. Okay. So that doesn't work. Um now now
Okay. So that doesn't work. Um now now having said that
having said that that's what we call horizontal
that's what we call horizontal development which is to become better
development which is to become better and more skilled at doing things
and more skilled at doing things and that's only half the equation of
and that's only half the equation of development and it's not the most
development and it's not the most important and what we talk about here at
important and what we talk about here at unveil mind is vertical development.
unveil mind is vertical development. Vertical development is to become
Vertical development is to become different at how you show up. It works
different at how you show up. It works on the who not the what. It works on the
on the who not the what. It works on the being not the doing.
being not the doing. So in vertical development um you also
So in vertical development um you also have strengths and weaknesses right? So
have strengths and weaknesses right? So if you look at the five mountains
if you look at the five mountains physical, mental, emotional, intuitional
physical, mental, emotional, intuitional and spiritual, you can rate those. We're
and spiritual, you can rate those. We're going to do that tomorrow like what is
going to do that tomorrow like what is what is the um you know where do you
what is the um you know where do you stand physically on a scale of 1 to five
stand physically on a scale of 1 to five or 1 to 10 and mentally and emotionally.
or 1 to 10 and mentally and emotionally. Now we have to define those terms a
Now we have to define those terms a little bit more but you can get a sense
little bit more but you can get a sense for you know it looks like kind of a
for you know it looks like kind of a scatteragramgram but you know and you
scatteragramgram but you know and you can't rise above your lowest score. So
can't rise above your lowest score. So if you're rating three on physical and
if you're rating three on physical and four on everything else then then you're
four on everything else then then you're operating at a three or if you're five
operating at a three or if you're five at physical because you're a stud but
at physical because you're a stud but you're operating at a two emotionally
you're operating at a two emotionally and somewhere like three on the other
and somewhere like three on the other three then you're operating at a two.
three then you're operating at a two. So
So um vertical development is to um train
um vertical development is to um train the
the beingness right. So not necessarily a a
beingness right. So not necessarily a a skill like a professional skill like
skill like a professional skill like leadership but just who you are become
leadership but just who you are become more whole become more uh uh uh
more whole become more uh uh uh competent and and uh effective and
competent and and uh effective and integrate those five mountains. And what
integrate those five mountains. And what happens is as you elevate your stage of
happens is as you elevate your stage of consciousness or your stage of awareness
consciousness or your stage of awareness or your your capacity to see more uh
or your your capacity to see more uh understand more deconstruct limiting uh
understand more deconstruct limiting uh stories and open up to more of your
stories and open up to more of your potential
potential then
then what you bring to the skills of the
what you bring to the skills of the horizontal development suddenly is much
horizontal development suddenly is much more awareness and energy. And so those
more awareness and energy. And so those positive qualities that you would call
positive qualities that you would call strengths, you're actually become much
strengths, you're actually become much stronger at and much more aware and
stronger at and much more aware and capable. And those other areas that you
capable. And those other areas that you thought were weaknesses, suddenly you
thought were weaknesses, suddenly you find that you're actually operating,
find that you're actually operating, they might still be weaker than your
they might still be weaker than your strengths, but like if you were to
strengths, but like if you were to evaluate yourself in the old version of
evaluate yourself in the old version of you, they would now look like strengths.
you, they would now look like strengths. So, if you work on the who you are with
So, if you work on the who you are with more intensity and more um fervor than
more intensity and more um fervor than the what you do, then you're going to
the what you do, then you're going to get better results
get better results in the what you do category than if you
in the what you do category than if you just focused on that alone.
just focused on that alone. I hope that makes sense. That's that's
I hope that makes sense. That's that's why this is so important. We're working
why this is so important. We're working on the who
on the who uh and not just the what. And if you do
uh and not just the what. And if you do that well, then the what the what you do
that well, then the what the what you do gets better and better and better, more
gets better and better and better, more effective, more more u more aware. And
effective, more more u more aware. And also you you learn, you know, what you
also you you learn, you know, what you should be doing and what you shouldn't
should be doing and what you shouldn't be doing. And it gets easier to say no
be doing. And it gets easier to say no or to offload things that you shouldn't
or to offload things that you shouldn't be doing.
be doing. >> Good. Thanks. Makes sense.
>> Good. Thanks. Makes sense. >> You're welcome.
>> You're welcome. >> Thank you, G. Great question. Uh Dave,
>> Thank you, G. Great question. Uh Dave, you're up next.
uh long. There you go. There you go. >> Okay. Can you hear me?
>> Okay. Can you hear me? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Okay, good.
>> Okay, good. Longtime follower, first- time caller is
Longtime follower, first- time caller is how normally put it. But, uh, my
how normally put it. But, uh, my question is, well, right when you went
question is, well, right when you went through the fair loop, I immediately
through the fair loop, I immediately related to a tool I use at work. I'm a
related to a tool I use at work. I'm a lean sensei, which requires lean
lean sensei, which requires lean transformation, changing processes, and
transformation, changing processes, and getting people to buy into new systems.
getting people to buy into new systems. So the model that I use is BTFA.
So the model that I use is BTFA. Believe, think, feel, act. What people
Believe, think, feel, act. What people believe drives how they think, drives
believe drives how they think, drives what they feel about it. Your emotional
what they feel about it. Your emotional connection drives how they act. The
connection drives how they act. The behavior side of it. Uh I quite often
behavior side of it. Uh I quite often have difficulty getting people to buy
have difficulty getting people to buy into the change. So my question to you
into the change. So my question to you is does the person need to come to the
is does the person need to come to the realization and understand the need to
realization and understand the need to change or can you assist them and coach
change or can you assist them and coach them in some way so that they can
them in some way so that they can realize the gaps and be able to change
realize the gaps and be able to change that behavior and change the negative uh
that behavior and change the negative uh thought process.
Um, that's a great question and and you will know that I'm what I'm
and and you will know that I'm what I'm about to say is accurate.
about to say is accurate. Yes, you can you can help someone um
Yes, you can you can help someone um identify and know their negative thought
identify and know their negative thought patterns and to be able to change them.
patterns and to be able to change them. You can't change them, but you can help
You can't change them, but you can help them if if
them if if they want it.
they want it. Right? If they want it. uh you can this
Right? If they want it. uh you can this is why change is so hard in any
is why change is so hard in any organization. So I applaud you for your
organization. So I applaud you for your job. It's ridiculously hard. Uh most
job. It's ridiculously hard. Uh most change you know 80% of change
change you know 80% of change initiatives fail. I have a PhD in global
initiatives fail. I have a PhD in global leadership and change. I understand your
leadership and change. I understand your world and I think it's incredible.
world and I think it's incredible. Sensei
Sensei um you're not going to get change unless
um you're not going to get change unless you have a tipping point majority of
you have a tipping point majority of individuals who truly buy in. They want
individuals who truly buy in. They want it and they're willing to overcome their
it and they're willing to overcome their immunity to change.
immunity to change. #robert Keegan and uh and that requires
#robert Keegan and uh and that requires us to uh or them and everyone
us to uh or them and everyone to be willing to acknowledge their own
to be willing to acknowledge their own part in the resistance.
part in the resistance. And once you So, so part of the probably
And once you So, so part of the probably the most important training for you is
the most important training for you is to get people to understand how they are
to get people to understand how they are the obstacle,
the obstacle, right? And and collective uh negativity,
right? And and collective uh negativity, collective
collective um resistance.
um resistance. Uh you know, name it what you will. Like
Uh you know, name it what you will. Like our way was better. It's the way we've
our way was better. It's the way we've always done things. Oh, here comes
always done things. Oh, here comes another change initiative. This one's
another change initiative. This one's going to fail, too. Right? Alls we got
going to fail, too. Right? Alls we got to do is ride it out and the six sigma
to do is ride it out and the six sigma guy is going to be gone sooner or later
guy is going to be gone sooner or later or we'll have a new boss or you know
or we'll have a new boss or you know we'll get bought up by competitor A, B
we'll get bought up by competitor A, B or C, resistance can come in innumerable
or C, resistance can come in innumerable stories
stories and until someone until you know you as
and until someone until you know you as a change agent can get people to see
a change agent can get people to see those stories and to identify them as
those stories and to identify them as and major obstacles and and
and major obstacles and and even just one person like I said even
even just one person like I said even all it takes is a tipping point but
all it takes is a tipping point but contain, but one person can block the
contain, but one person can block the whole thing,
whole thing, right? Because a team if if it's a real
right? Because a team if if it's a real tight team, the team will stoop and then
tight team, the team will stoop and then level out at the lowest common
level out at the lowest common denominator.
So probably the most important job you have is is psychological
have is is psychological is to get everybody on board to see that
is to get everybody on board to see that they are the obstacles that their their
they are the obstacles that their their thought patterns the way they see things
thought patterns the way they see things the their internal dialogue the way they
the their internal dialogue the way they talk about things everybody's got to
talk about things everybody's got to come together. This is why like in
come together. This is why like in Carter's change model creating a sense
Carter's change model creating a sense of urgency is like the first step right
of urgency is like the first step right it's one of the first steps and so what
it's one of the first steps and so what does that mean? You got to get everybody
does that mean? You got to get everybody to see that they're, you know, they're
to see that they're, you know, they're part of the problem and they may not
part of the problem and they may not have a job or they right their thinking
have a job or they right their thinking is what got us here and it's not their
is what got us here and it's not their fault
fault but in order to you know like Einstein
but in order to you know like Einstein said you know you can't solve the
said you know you can't solve the problem from the same paradigm that
problem from the same paradigm that created it. So everyone needs a new
created it. So everyone needs a new paradigm and that paradigm is in the
paradigm and that paradigm is in the mind first.
mind first. So you got to create the conditions in
So you got to create the conditions in their minds to see the benefit of the
their minds to see the benefit of the new reality to recognize their own uh
new reality to recognize their own uh conditioning and resistance and negative
conditioning and resistance and negative selft talk that's blocking it
selft talk that's blocking it right that's the the the believe
right that's the the the believe thinking right I forgot with believe
thinking right I forgot with believe thinking acting but there was one more
thinking acting but there was one more in there
in there >> yeah feeling think feel
>> yeah feeling think feel >> believe feel act right
>> believe feel act right >> and you could even say believe feel act
>> and you could even say believe feel act because often times times feeling
because often times times feeling preceded thinking and that's the
preceded thinking and that's the subconscious.
subconscious. >> Yes.
>> Yes. >> Anyway, so it's not as it's not a simple
>> Anyway, so it's not as it's not a simple answer. The simple answer which is kind
answer. The simple answer which is kind of cute is you can definitely change
of cute is you can definitely change people's behaviors and thoughts around
people's behaviors and thoughts around something if they are
something if they are like willing participants.
like willing participants. But if they're going to sit there and be
But if they're going to sit there and be a smiling screw, right, and and nod
a smiling screw, right, and and nod their head while inside they're saying,
their head while inside they're saying, "This guy doesn't know what he's talking
"This guy doesn't know what he's talking about, or I'm just going to wait this
about, or I'm just going to wait this out." Then it's not going to work. And
out." Then it's not going to work. And and you got to and those those are the
and you got to and those those are the people who ultimately poison the team.
people who ultimately poison the team. And that's the tricky part, right?
And that's the tricky part, right? Because what do you do? If you're not in
Because what do you do? If you're not in a position to do something about that,
a position to do something about that, then it makes your job really hard.
Did you want to take uh any more, Mark, or did you want to hop into the uh the
or did you want to hop into the uh the next
next >> Let's um let's take one more question.
>> Let's um let's take one more question. >> Okay. Go ahead, Mike. And then we'll
>> Okay. Go ahead, Mike. And then we'll save the others for um for tomorrow's uh
save the others for um for tomorrow's uh VIP section.
VIP section. >> Uh thanks, coach. I've been a member of
>> Uh thanks, coach. I've been a member of Unbeatable Mind and the Seal Fit since
Unbeatable Mind and the Seal Fit since 2015 and I visited you in California in
2015 and I visited you in California in 2015. You were just getting ready for
2015. You were just getting ready for your morning workout. You took time to
your morning workout. You took time to talk to me and we talked about diet and
talk to me and we talked about diet and meant a lot to me and uh I really
meant a lot to me and uh I really appreciate it. Um my question is
appreciate it. Um my question is regarding your recent uh discussions
regarding your recent uh discussions about the tree, the accident. What type
about the tree, the accident. What type of dialogue do you use in these near
of dialogue do you use in these near mississ situations like oh gosh could
mississ situations like oh gosh could have been worse or what if this happened
have been worse or what if this happened and what do you do when that triggers
and what do you do when that triggers sort of memories from the past? I'm just
sort of memories from the past? I'm just using this example but I'm sure in your
using this example but I'm sure in your line your previous line of work you've
line your previous line of work you've had plenty of these instances. So could
had plenty of these instances. So could you give us some insight into those two
you give us some insight into those two aspects please sir?
aspects please sir? >> Sure.
>> Sure. Um,
I guess, um, I've been fortunate to never have a victim mentality
never have a victim mentality where when something bad happened to me,
where when something bad happened to me, I immediately
I immediately started to blame others, right? Or look
started to blame others, right? Or look for reasons or excuses.
for reasons or excuses. Uh, when I was at Seal Team 3, I think I
Uh, when I was at Seal Team 3, I think I tell this story in one of my books. Um,
tell this story in one of my books. Um, I was in a parachute accident. I knew
I was in a parachute accident. I knew exactly who it was because it was the
exactly who it was because it was the first jumper out of the plane who came
first jumper out of the plane who came around and had made a big mistake and
around and had made a big mistake and ran into me and my shoot collapsed and
ran into me and my shoot collapsed and I, you know, I was a half a second away
I, you know, I was a half a second away from death when I was able to open my
from death when I was able to open my chute and have a really hard landing.
chute and have a really hard landing. And had that not happened, you know, and
And had that not happened, you know, and I I talk about why what was going on in
I I talk about why what was going on in my mind. Um, my Zen training at that
my mind. Um, my Zen training at that point had got I'd been training for
point had got I'd been training for about five years had gotten me to where
about five years had gotten me to where I could really really focus radically on
I could really really focus radically on the one thing that I needed to do, which
the one thing that I needed to do, which is get air in my shoot. And I was able
is get air in my shoot. And I was able to slow my breathing down and I went
to slow my breathing down and I went into like this flow state. And so the 10
into like this flow state. And so the 10 seconds I had felt like a minute, which
seconds I had felt like a minute, which is a long time in a parachute situation
is a long time in a parachute situation for anyone who's parachuted. And um and
for anyone who's parachuted. And um and so I wasn't thinking, "Oh I'm
so I wasn't thinking, "Oh I'm gonna die." And I think largely saved my
gonna die." And I think largely saved my life as I was able to focus on the
life as I was able to focus on the problem, solve the problem. I got air in
problem, solve the problem. I got air in enough air in my shoot that when I hit
enough air in my shoot that when I hit the ground, I didn't die. Hit hard, but
the ground, I didn't die. Hit hard, but I didn't. I was relaxed.
I didn't. I was relaxed. And um I knew who did this to me.
And um I knew who did this to me. But I didn't immediately start thinking
But I didn't immediately start thinking what a jerk, right? I'm going to go kill
what a jerk, right? I'm going to go kill that guy or right. I immediately started
that guy or right. I immediately started feeling a sense of gratitude
feeling a sense of gratitude for a for surviving. And um and so my
for a for surviving. And um and so my dialogue was like, "Wow, that was a
dialogue was like, "Wow, that was a close one. Thank God for my training.
close one. Thank God for my training. Uh, what an incredible experience. And I
Uh, what an incredible experience. And I get to I get to live for another day.
get to I get to live for another day. And I had a conversation with Chris, but
And I had a conversation with Chris, but it was almost like humorous.
it was almost like humorous. Like, Chris, you damn near killed me.
Like, Chris, you damn near killed me. But, you know, in Navy Seal training and
But, you know, in Navy Seal training and Navy Seal operations,
Navy Seal operations, like you face that every day. And so, we
like you face that every day. And so, we use, you know, we use humor a lot when
use, you know, we use humor a lot when we're faced with life and death. And um
we're faced with life and death. And um and that's actually a very effective
and that's actually a very effective mechanism for overcoming a fear of
mechanism for overcoming a fear of death, which is nothing to fear. So fast
death, which is nothing to fear. So fast forward when I had the snowmobile
forward when I had the snowmobile accident,
accident, you know, the last thing I remember
you know, the last thing I remember thinking when I was leaving that
thinking when I was leaving that snowmobile, 40 miles an hour heading
snowmobile, 40 miles an hour heading toward the tree was, "Wow, I didn't
toward the tree was, "Wow, I didn't think it was going to end like this."
think it was going to end like this." You know, I've been I made it through 20
You know, I've been I made it through 20 years of the SEAL training. Almost got
years of the SEAL training. Almost got killed like five times.
killed like five times. And um
and now I'm going to die by hitting a tree in a snowmobile accident. Like
tree in a snowmobile accident. Like where's the glory in that? Where's the
where's the glory in that? Where's the heroic, you know,
heroic, you know, ending in that? And then I I kind of
ending in that? And then I I kind of wake up after an unspecified period of
wake up after an unspecified period of time, which I don't think was that long
time, which I don't think was that long because I wasn't concussed. And I wake
because I wasn't concussed. And I wake up in the snow and I acknowledged that
up in the snow and I acknowledged that that another snowmoiler
that another snowmoiler was in in in dualistic thinking, right?
was in in in dualistic thinking, right? In limited contracted, you know, like
In limited contracted, you know, like first plateau or second plateau
first plateau or second plateau thinking, this person was responsible
thinking, this person was responsible for me almost getting killed.
for me almost getting killed. But I didn't see it that way, right?
But I didn't see it that way, right? like an infinite number of things went
like an infinite number of things went into the conditions for that that event
into the conditions for that that event to happen.
to happen. My decision, for instance, my decision
My decision, for instance, my decision to be going so fast, my decision to be
to be going so fast, my decision to be on that snowmobile when I don't really
on that snowmobile when I don't really have I didn't develop the skills. I'm
have I didn't develop the skills. I'm highly talented athlete, but you know,
highly talented athlete, but you know, there's a lot of specific skills and
there's a lot of specific skills and nuance to driving a tracked motor
nuance to driving a tracked motor vehicle at 80 miles an hour
vehicle at 80 miles an hour that I didn't have the experience with.
that I didn't have the experience with. I hadn't been on a snowmobile for 30
I hadn't been on a snowmobile for 30 years.
years. So, that played into it. My decision to
So, that played into it. My decision to even go on the trip played into it. Um,
even go on the trip played into it. Um, there's like an infinite number of
there's like an infinite number of things.
things. And so that perspective
And so that perspective didn't it didn't even occur to me to
didn't it didn't even occur to me to judge this other individual to like
judge this other individual to like think I'm going to find that guy and
think I'm going to find that guy and hold him accountable. I'm going to sue
hold him accountable. I'm going to sue him. In fact, what I thought was the guy
him. In fact, what I thought was the guy probably doesn't even know what
probably doesn't even know what happened. He didn't stop. He just kept
happened. He didn't stop. He just kept on going. There's a really good chance
on going. There's a really good chance that he just thinks I passed right by in
that he just thinks I passed right by in the right even though he was coming
the right even though he was coming right at me in my lane and just went on
right at me in my lane and just went on B. Now, that's probably unrealistic. He
B. Now, that's probably unrealistic. He probably know knew what he was doing,
probably know knew what he was doing, but he was just getting the hell out of
but he was just getting the hell out of dodge, so he didn't have any
dodge, so he didn't have any accountability. Either way, it didn't
accountability. Either way, it didn't matter. He's gone.
matter. He's gone. And so when this is about surrender when
And so when this is about surrender when you can't affect the outcome of
you can't affect the outcome of something to obsess about it in
something to obsess about it in retrospect only bleeds off your energy
retrospect only bleeds off your energy and and creates um more suffering.
and and creates um more suffering. And so as soon as you can let go of
And so as soon as you can let go of these things and move forward with
these things and move forward with gratitude and forgiveness the better
gratitude and forgiveness the better off. That's my attitude and that's
off. That's my attitude and that's exactly what I did. I immediately
exactly what I did. I immediately forgave him. I immediately let it go.
forgave him. I immediately let it go. said, "I'm not going to think about him
said, "I'm not going to think about him or the circumstances." The fact is I'm
or the circumstances." The fact is I'm alive,
alive, right? Second chances.
right? Second chances. I was given whether through happen
I was given whether through happen stance or just pure luck or some
stance or just pure luck or some guardian angel
guardian angel or whatever, I was given an opportunity
or whatever, I was given an opportunity to stay here for a little while longer,
to stay here for a little while longer, continue the mission. And so it ended up
continue the mission. And so it ended up becoming an extremely motivating
becoming an extremely motivating scenario.
scenario. And also of course an opportunity to use
And also of course an opportunity to use all my skills first to get through the
all my skills first to get through the whole week of you know my body being
whole week of you know my body being completely trash and not having any
completely trash and not having any medical support because I was way in the
medical support because I was way in the deep northern Canada and I had to get
deep northern Canada and I had to get back to I got back to Chicago basically
back to I got back to Chicago basically to where I my body said screw it you're
to where I my body said screw it you're going to stay here and get surgery here
going to stay here and get surgery here and I was trying to make it back to San
and I was trying to make it back to San Diego. So all the skills that I had
Diego. So all the skills that I had developed over all these years, I
developed over all these years, I actually had a really fun week, right?
actually had a really fun week, right? My body was shattered, you know, lungs
My body was shattered, you know, lungs punctured, eight broken ribs, my scapula
punctured, eight broken ribs, my scapula shattered, lots of internal damage, and
shattered, lots of internal damage, and I had a really fun week.
I had a really fun week. It was amazing, right? because of just
It was amazing, right? because of just staying aware and being present and and
staying aware and being present and and being positive and using my mantras and
being positive and using my mantras and my wife was there and we you know she
my wife was there and we you know she was like my sherpa dragging my stuff
was like my sherpa dragging my stuff around and and getting me to the you
around and and getting me to the you know places I need to go not to mention
know places I need to go not to mention the final hospital
the final hospital and then the the recovery process it got
and then the the recovery process it got it gave me the opportunity to put all
it gave me the opportunity to put all the healing skills to work that I've
the healing skills to work that I've trained and talked about visualization
trained and talked about visualization breath movement positivity
breath movement positivity uh you know and and other modalities
uh you know and and other modalities that are outside of mainstream medicine
that are outside of mainstream medicine you know like the ARP um you know direct
you know like the ARP um you know direct current high high voltage direct current
current high high voltage direct current that was a game changer for me and
that was a game changer for me and peptides and you know those types of
peptides and you know those types of things.
things. So it all has to do with the orientation
So it all has to do with the orientation that you have around
that you have around what you know what's really going on.
what you know what's really going on. And for me what's really going on is
And for me what's really going on is this body is not who I am.
this body is not who I am. This body is is something that I am
This body is is something that I am temporarily graced with.
temporarily graced with. And I believe that this body has an
And I believe that this body has an incredible healing power. Everyone every
incredible healing power. Everyone every body does. I believe this body can be
body does. I believe this body can be perfectly healthy and maintain uh
perfectly healthy and maintain uh youthful vitality
youthful vitality for as long as I need it.
for as long as I need it. Um and I and I don't worship the body,
Um and I and I don't worship the body, but I respect it enough to take care of
but I respect it enough to take care of it really well so that it's an app
it really well so that it's an app vessel for me to meet my mission, which
vessel for me to meet my mission, which is exactly what I talked about for a
is exactly what I talked about for a good part of the earlier session. Body
good part of the earlier session. Body first. It's not because I'm obsessed
first. It's not because I'm obsessed with the body. It's because I recognize
with the body. It's because I recognize how important it is. And injuries bring
how important it is. And injuries bring that into real clear focus. And if you
that into real clear focus. And if you have a negative energy toward the what
have a negative energy toward the what why it happened or some other perceived
why it happened or some other perceived person who or situation that caused it
person who or situation that caused it to happen, right? Like a car accident,
to happen, right? Like a car accident, it's the other person's fault. No
it's the other person's fault. No happens, right?
happens, right? um the more the quicker you can get away
um the more the quicker you can get away from the negative energies and the could
from the negative energies and the could aa should have wouldas and the
aa should have wouldas and the victimizations and the pointing fingers,
victimizations and the pointing fingers, the quicker you're going to get to real
the quicker you're going to get to real healing. And that healing happens at a
healing. And that healing happens at a physical, emotional, psychological
physical, emotional, psychological level. Um and each crisis like that
level. Um and each crisis like that uh is an opportunity. Crisis means
uh is an opportunity. Crisis means opportunity for transformation. It's an
opportunity for transformation. It's an opportunity for transformation. So you
opportunity for transformation. So you don't want to waste it
don't want to waste it sitting in victimhood and blaming others
sitting in victimhood and blaming others and and having negative thoughts about
and and having negative thoughts about why it happened and it shouldn't have
why it happened and it shouldn't have happened and now you know you're limited
happened and now you know you're limited because of whatever even if you lose a
because of whatever even if you lose a limb. That type of uh thinking is um
limb. That type of uh thinking is um like it's it's extraordinarily
like it's it's extraordinarily debilitating and will actually take you
debilitating and will actually take you away from a lot of the progress you made
away from a lot of the progress you made if you've been making progress in a
if you've been making progress in a spiritual or emotional direction. Um,
spiritual or emotional direction. Um, but the accident on the other side of
but the accident on the other side of the coin or the crisis can be an
the coin or the crisis can be an incredible, it is an incredible
incredible, it is an incredible opportunity for transformation and
opportunity for transformation and letting go and surrendering and opening
letting go and surrendering and opening up to a whole another version of
up to a whole another version of yourself.
yourself. I'm not sure exactly answered your
I'm not sure exactly answered your question, but um, thanks for thanks for
question, but um, thanks for thanks for the question and letting me
the question and letting me >> No, no, no. Amazing. Thank you. Thank
>> No, no, no. Amazing. Thank you. Thank you.
you. >> Yeah. All right. So, we have 10 minutes
>> Yeah. All right. So, we have 10 minutes left. I want to talk a little bit now um
left. I want to talk a little bit now um we don't have a ton of time, but I want
we don't have a ton of time, but I want to give you a homework assignment and
to give you a homework assignment and talk about uh developing your stand or
talk about uh developing your stand or your personal ethos.
your personal ethos. Can you put the seal ethos up?
Can you put the seal ethos up? So, um
So, um you've heard this idea that if you don't
you've heard this idea that if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for
stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
anything. That was actually um one of my SEAL um
That was actually um one of my SEAL um um mentors used to say that. I love that
um mentors used to say that. I love that you don't stand for something, you'll
you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. And I remember I I
fall for anything. And I remember I I never thought about this until the
never thought about this until the seals, right? So like did did you guys
seals, right? So like did did you guys take a class in college about developing
take a class in college about developing your personal ethos? No. And did did
your personal ethos? No. And did did your family sit around and tell you how
your family sit around and tell you how ask you to start thinking about your
ask you to start thinking about your personal ethos? No. But were they
personal ethos? No. But were they training one all the time? Yes. And so
training one all the time? Yes. And so if I had taken on the ethos of my family
if I had taken on the ethos of my family of origin, there's no way I'd be here
of origin, there's no way I'd be here today, right? It I you probably wouldn't
today, right? It I you probably wouldn't even like me.
even like me. That's how that's how much it can imbue
That's how that's how much it can imbue you, right? If you take if you don't
you, right? If you take if you don't question
question um things that are important to you and
um things that are important to you and develop a stand and and know what you
develop a stand and and know what you stand for, then what you are doing is
stand for, then what you are doing is living someone else's stand. And
living someone else's stand. And predominantly your family of origin
predominantly your family of origin influenced by your culture of origin
influenced by your culture of origin which is influenced by uh governmental
which is influenced by uh governmental culture, society, you know, community,
culture, society, you know, community, church, etc. That's all conditioning.
church, etc. That's all conditioning. That's the background of obviousness. So
That's the background of obviousness. So what we want to do is is is start to ask
what we want to do is is is start to ask ourselves what we stand for. The first
ourselves what we stand for. The first time I ever heard this was in my uh
time I ever heard this was in my uh officer candidate school. I had a
officer candidate school. I had a guarantee to go to SEAL training
guarantee to go to SEAL training afterwards. And that required that I get
afterwards. And that required that I get interviewed by a SEAL officer, a senior
interviewed by a SEAL officer, a senior SEAL officer. It's supposed to happen
SEAL officer. It's supposed to happen before you get accepted. For some
before you get accepted. For some reason, you know, uh it didn't happen
reason, you know, uh it didn't happen for me. They they let me in, but they
for me. They they let me in, but they said, "You got to get it done." And so
said, "You got to get it done." And so it happened to me at Officer Cannon
it happened to me at Officer Cannon School while I was already in the Navy.
School while I was already in the Navy. And a guy named Commander Woody
And a guy named Commander Woody Woodruff, who's one of the founders of
Woodruff, who's one of the founders of the Iron Man in Hawaii, uh interviewed
the Iron Man in Hawaii, uh interviewed me. And I I think I wrote about this in
me. And I I think I wrote about this in my book, The Way of the Seal. Uh yeah,
my book, The Way of the Seal. Uh yeah, that's right. And um and Woody Woodruff
that's right. And um and Woody Woodruff was this just intense guy, like you
was this just intense guy, like you know, Navy Seal written all over him,
know, Navy Seal written all over him, like super good-looking, tan, tall, like
like super good-looking, tan, tall, like uber fit triathlete. And he's sitting
uber fit triathlete. And he's sitting there in his pristine white out, you
there in his pristine white out, you know, Navy uniform with his gold trident
know, Navy uniform with his gold trident and about 30 freaking ribbons from all
and about 30 freaking ribbons from all the wars he'd been in and things he'd
the wars he'd been in and things he'd done.
done. And um
And um he just stared at me,
he just stared at me, right? He just stared at he like like
right? He just stared at he like like we're having a blinking contest, you
we're having a blinking contest, you know what I mean? Like you do with kids,
know what I mean? Like you do with kids, like see who can not blink for the
like see who can not blink for the longest time. And so I'm just staring
longest time. And so I'm just staring back at him and I'm like, you know, he's
back at him and I'm like, you know, he's just trying to make me uncomfortable,
just trying to make me uncomfortable, but he's totally calm and relaxed and
but he's totally calm and relaxed and I'm just sitting there like I felt
I'm just sitting there like I felt ridiculous staring at him, but I didn't
ridiculous staring at him, but I didn't want to turn away because I thought that
want to turn away because I thought that might be weakness. And so finally he
might be weakness. And so finally he just starts smiling and he says, "Mark,
just starts smiling and he says, "Mark, have you ever been out of control?" I
have you ever been out of control?" I said, 'N no.' He goes, "Well, you're
said, 'N no.' He goes, "Well, you're going to be out of control."
going to be out of control." He just just know that in SEAL training
He just just know that in SEAL training and in combat, you will be out of
and in combat, you will be out of control.
control. And he says, "When you're out of
And he says, "When you're out of control, you got to know what you stand
control, you got to know what you stand for. What do you stand for, Mark?"
for. What do you stand for, Mark?" And I was like, "Uh."
And I was like, "Uh." And I had to really go deep and think
And I had to really go deep and think quickly. And where I went to is like,
quickly. And where I went to is like, what was it?
what was it? And thank God for my meditation training
And thank God for my meditation training and all that thought, but what was it
and all that thought, but what was it that caused me to turn my back on
that caused me to turn my back on 22 years of 23 years or four years of
22 years of 23 years or four years of conditioning and training. And that
conditioning and training. And that conditioning and training led me to be
conditioning and training led me to be an MBA, CPA, Wall Street guy who was
an MBA, CPA, Wall Street guy who was going to make a lot of money. And when I
going to make a lot of money. And when I started meditating, um, I started to
started meditating, um, I started to poke holes in that story because I
poke holes in that story because I developed that observational witnessing
developed that observational witnessing capacity through my meditation practice
capacity through my meditation practice and I could see that that story wasn't
and I could see that that story wasn't me. It wasn't my story. And so without
me. It wasn't my story. And so without knowing it, I was developing a stand
knowing it, I was developing a stand because I said, okay, that's not me. So
because I said, okay, that's not me. So I need to I need to understand who is
I need to I need to understand who is me. Who is who is the real Mark? Well,
me. Who is who is the real Mark? Well, the real Mark is is someone who's uh not
the real Mark is is someone who's uh not adverse to risk.
adverse to risk. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been at SEAL
Otherwise, I wouldn't have been at SEAL training or at OCS. The real mark is
training or at OCS. The real mark is someone who uh loves adventure.
someone who uh loves adventure. The real Mark is someone who's committed
The real Mark is someone who's committed to elite level fitness for a lifetime.
to elite level fitness for a lifetime. Wow.
Wow. You know, and so I I kind of identified
You know, and so I I kind of identified all those things, but I didn't write
all those things, but I didn't write them down and say that's an ethos or
them down and say that's an ethos or stand. I didn't even know what those
stand. I didn't even know what those words meant. But when Woody Woodruff
words meant. But when Woody Woodruff asked me, "What do you stand for?"
asked me, "What do you stand for?" That's the stuff that came out and
That's the stuff that came out and that's exactly what he wanted to hear
because I had a sense for what was radically important and where where I
radically important and where where I would stand my ground. Because like if
would stand my ground. Because like if you said, "Hey, Mark, here's a job. By
you said, "Hey, Mark, here's a job. By the way, this happened right before I
the way, this happened right before I went to OCS. I got a call from a former
went to OCS. I got a call from a former Arthur Anderson partner who said, "Mark,
Arthur Anderson partner who said, "Mark, I want you to come be part of my new
I want you to come be part of my new startup and I'll pay you a h 100,000."
startup and I'll pay you a h 100,000." This is 1985. No. Yeah. 1988.
This is 1985. No. Yeah. 1988. I'll pay you $100,000 plus bonus. 1988.
I'll pay you $100,000 plus bonus. 1988. And that could that would have been
And that could that would have been millions, you know, after five or 10
millions, you know, after five or 10 years and probably hundreds of millions.
years and probably hundreds of millions. And um I said, "No,
And um I said, "No, no, thank you." He goes, 'Why? I don't
no, thank you." He goes, 'Why? I don't understand.' I said, ' Because I'm I'm
understand.' I said, ' Because I'm I'm going to become a Navy Seal. That's
going to become a Navy Seal. That's that's who I am. That's the direction
that's who I am. That's the direction I'm heading. That's where my values are.
I'm heading. That's where my values are. He said, 'Wow, you know, I haven't heard
He said, 'Wow, you know, I haven't heard anyone talk like that before or turn me
anyone talk like that before or turn me down like that.
down like that. So, it's important to know what you
So, it's important to know what you stand for
stand for because if you don't stand for
because if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
something, you'll fall for anything. Now, when I got into the SEALs, they
Now, when I got into the SEALs, they didn't have a seal code that was written
didn't have a seal code that was written down like this. This came later in 2007,
down like this. This came later in 2007, but there was a code that was similar to
but there was a code that was similar to this. Like we knew because we talked
this. Like we knew because we talked about it that we no teammates left
about it that we no teammates left behind. That was part of the code. So in
behind. That was part of the code. So in this one that says ready to lead, ready
this one that says ready to lead, ready to follow, never quit. But for us, it
to follow, never quit. But for us, it was no teammate left behind. That means
was no teammate left behind. That means we had to be ready ready to lead because
we had to be ready ready to lead because what if the teammate that's, you know,
what if the teammate that's, you know, you could leave behind was the leader.
you could leave behind was the leader. Well, if he's goes down, you lead,
Well, if he's goes down, you lead, right? Um earn your trident every day.
right? Um earn your trident every day. Well, we knew that implicitly
Well, we knew that implicitly that we had to show up every day and
that we had to show up every day and prove ourselves again and again and
prove ourselves again and again and again. And think about this in the
again. And think about this in the corporate environment or especially any
corporate environment or especially any environment where you have uh um the
environment where you have uh um the protected status.
protected status. So like uh um in the academic world
So like uh um in the academic world right having tenure is protected status
right having tenure is protected status and once people get tenure if unless
and once people get tenure if unless you're a growth mindset constantly ever
you're a growth mindset constantly ever constant never- ending improvement type
constant never- ending improvement type of person which a lot of professors are
of person which a lot of professors are but uh to be honest the vast majority
but uh to be honest the vast majority the best professors I ever had in my
the best professors I ever had in my masters or PhD program were adjunct
masters or PhD program were adjunct professors who didn't have tenure
professors who didn't have tenure and most of the worst professors I had
and most of the worst professors I had were the were the tenure professors
were the were the tenure professors because they had protected status.
because they had protected status. government bureaucratic employees and
government bureaucratic employees and and don't take me wrong if you are you
and don't take me wrong if you are you know a GS or a government employee you
know a GS or a government employee you should be a growth p you know mindset
should be a growth p you know mindset one if you're here but as you know most
one if you're here but as you know most aren't and but yet they've got a
aren't and but yet they've got a protected status
protected status um and so protected status people often
um and so protected status people often don't have a very strong ethos because
don't have a very strong ethos because they're just taking cover with the
they're just taking cover with the protection of the organization or the
protection of the organization or the family or the the crime or the the crime
family or the the crime or the the crime crime gang or whatever whatever club
crime gang or whatever whatever club they're in, right?
they're in, right? So, it's very important to know that
So, it's very important to know that earning your trident every day means
earning your trident every day means earning your respect, which also means
earning your respect, which also means doing the work of self-awareness,
doing the work of self-awareness, right? To to always be improving your
right? To to always be improving your perceptual ability and getting rid of
perceptual ability and getting rid of what's false, false beliefs, false
what's false, false beliefs, false ideas, limiting things. So I want you to
ideas, limiting things. So I want you to take a look at that seal code and and
take a look at that seal code and and just res say what resonates with me
just res say what resonates with me and use it as an example
and use it as an example for uh coming up with your own code
for uh coming up with your own code and like with the seal code it doesn't
and like with the seal code it doesn't have to be more than six five six or
have to be more than six five six or seven things.
seven things. Now can you bring up the the final
Now can you bring up the the final slide? The other example of a a stand is
slide? The other example of a a stand is my seven commitments.
my seven commitments. The seven commitments. Go backwards.
The seven commitments. Go backwards. Yeah. That I wrote about in the book
Yeah. That I wrote about in the book Staring Down the Wolf. C. And so these
Staring Down the Wolf. C. And so these are these are also stands. Now, now to
are these are also stands. Now, now to really turn this into a stand,
really turn this into a stand, I would create a descriptor as to what
I would create a descriptor as to what courage meant to me, right? like the
courage meant to me, right? like the courage to do what I say and and to and
courage to do what I say and and to and to only speak truth, right? That would
to only speak truth, right? That would be something like with courage or the
be something like with courage or the courage to stand my ground and never
courage to stand my ground and never back never quit. Um trust, right? What
back never quit. Um trust, right? What does trust mean to you?
does trust mean to you? You know, trust is I will develop the
You know, trust is I will develop the trustworthiness
trustworthiness so that I can also trust others, right?
so that I can also trust others, right? Um
Um stuff like that. Uh respect. So courage,
stuff like that. Uh respect. So courage, trust, respect, growth in terms of
trust, respect, growth in terms of vertical growth, growth mindset,
vertical growth, growth mindset, uh excellence in terms of your habits
uh excellence in terms of your habits and uh the doingness, right? The the
and uh the doingness, right? The the rituals, the habits, um resilience in
rituals, the habits, um resilience in terms of how you handle uh challenges,
terms of how you handle uh challenges, that whole fall down seven times, get up
that whole fall down seven times, get up eight with a smile, stronger, better,
eight with a smile, stronger, better, better equipped, better prepared. Uh
better equipped, better prepared. Uh that's a stand or a commitment. And then
that's a stand or a commitment. And then alignment, the commitment to stand your
alignment, the commitment to stand your ground, to stay aligned with your
ground, to stay aligned with your purpose, aligned with your passion,
purpose, aligned with your passion, aligned with your principles, so that
aligned with your principles, so that you could always know what to do, when
you could always know what to do, when to do, and why you're doing it,
to do, and why you're doing it, including during the storms and the
including during the storms and the crisis.
crisis. So your job, your homework beyond
So your job, your homework beyond besides box breathing and the six
besides box breathing and the six pillars is to work on your stand. And
pillars is to work on your stand. And I'd love to um have you know some of you
I'd love to um have you know some of you share tomorrow like what you came up
share tomorrow like what you came up with. This is really important stuff.
with. This is really important stuff. It's like I said if you got to know
It's like I said if you got to know where you stand. You got to plant your
where you stand. You got to plant your flag, right? And then you know this is
flag, right? And then you know this is how people you get people's attention.
how people you get people's attention. When you're clear about who you are and
When you're clear about who you are and why you're doing what you're doing, you
why you're doing what you're doing, you come up with a mission and an ethos and
come up with a mission and an ethos and a stand. And then you recruit other
a stand. And then you recruit other people or other people are attracted to
people or other people are attracted to that calling, that mission because they
that calling, that mission because they share elements your stand
share elements your stand or they synchronize with that stand
or they synchronize with that stand and then you're become unstoppable or
and then you're become unstoppable or unbeatable.
unbeatable. You get the world's attention that way
You get the world's attention that way because that's unique. It's uncommon.
because that's unique. It's uncommon. This has been a great time today. Um,
This has been a great time today. Um, you all are familiar with the inner
you all are familiar with the inner circle. We'll talk more about that
circle. We'll talk more about that tomorrow. I'd love to see some of you in
tomorrow. I'd love to see some of you in it. It might be your time. Um, that's
it. It might be your time. Um, that's our community of practice where we go
our community of practice where we go deep on all these and hold each other
deep on all these and hold each other accountable. And, uh, 2026 is your year,
accountable. And, uh, 2026 is your year, right? Today is your day and this is
right? Today is your day and this is your year. It's going to be an
your year. It's going to be an incredible year. Um, going to be all
incredible year. Um, going to be all sorts of crazy things happening. We got
sorts of crazy things happening. We got to navigate around the obstacles and
to navigate around the obstacles and grow and learn and accelerate our
grow and learn and accelerate our growth. Uh by the end of this year, we
growth. Uh by the end of this year, we won't even recognize this world or
won't even recognize this world or ourselves. So, let that be
ourselves. So, let that be extraordinarily positive. Uh but we get
extraordinarily positive. Uh but we get to we get to choose that.
to we get to choose that. If it's not positive, it's because you
If it's not positive, it's because you chose wrong.
>> So, learn to choose wisely every day. >> Appreciate you all. Thanks for being
>> Appreciate you all. Thanks for being here and I'll see you tomorrow.
here and I'll see you tomorrow. Oh yeah.
Oh yeah. >> Oh yeah.
>> Oh yeah. >> Oh yeah.
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