0:09 hello and welcome back to dream girl if
0:11 you're new here I'm Sheen I'm your host
0:14 and today we have a very special guest
0:15 I'm sure you've seen her unless you live
0:18 under a rock please join me in welcoming
0:21 Liz hello Liz Hi how are you I'm good
0:23 how are you good you know every time I
0:25 want to say wizard Liz because just
0:27 that's just how I know you I feel like
0:30 people they also say like lizard Liz oh
0:33 lizard the Wizards that's very cool is
0:34 that where the name came from how did
0:37 you come up with that no the wizard Liz
0:39 was actually like I used to work in a
0:42 restaurant as a student and I remember
0:44 like I was put behind the bar cuz my
0:47 boss was like let's put the pretty girl
0:48 behind it at first I was really not good
0:52 at my job but um so I was like I was
0:55 working there and then we had a client
0:58 that came and he he asked like for a
1:00 drink and I said oh you should try this
1:03 one and he said like well I would get
1:05 anything that you sell me cuz you're so
1:08 magical like your R magical and then I
1:10 told him like well then I must be a
1:12 wizard you know and I was like joking
1:14 about that and that never left my mind
1:15 so I was like you know when I was doing
1:18 social media the wizard Li okay well I'm
1:20 glad we found out this story behind the
1:23 name but okay listen for me I've been
1:25 following you since you started I
1:27 remember the first time I watched your
1:29 video and it went viral and as I was
1:31 tell telling you beforehand because I
1:32 have so many friends who are in the
1:35 YouTube world and I remember them saying
1:36 you know we spend so much time making
1:39 sure the audio quality is great the
1:41 visuals are great the thumbnail is great
1:43 and this girl came in and blew everyone
1:46 out with the algorithm and everybody
1:47 just loved you and I think it's also
1:51 because of how um raw it is it almost
1:53 feels like you're telling me off when
1:55 I'm watching the video I think everyone needs
1:56 needs
1:58 therapy but I think they need therapy
2:02 after my videos no no no no no no you're
2:04 helping but but I put up on my story
2:06 asking people what would they want to
2:08 hear from you right and today we're
2:09 going to cover a few things from you
2:11 know the relationship with yourself your
2:13 relationship with your friends um with
2:16 men or women in in a romantic way but to
2:19 start with tell me what was for you a
2:21 pivotal moment in your life that pushed
2:23 you to start this whole
2:27 career so a pivotal moment so basically
2:29 my childhood was very bad okay like I I
2:31 think everyone already knows this that I
2:35 was uh physically abused by my father um
2:37 and I saw my mother get abused so it was
2:40 like a very very traumatic childhood and
2:43 it's funny like when my father decided
2:45 to cheat on my mother that was like the
2:47 happiest day of me and my siblings we
2:49 were like that monster is leaving our
2:53 house we were so happy but it's ironic
2:56 that when your abuser leaves the house
2:58 and you finally have that freedom that
3:00 you always craved that you start abusing
3:03 yourself cuz that's when I developed uh
3:06 bulimia anorexia and these these are all
3:09 like forms of self abuse you know and
3:12 when I looked at my siblings and at
3:15 myself I saw how we all handled
3:18 everything differently cu the issue is
3:21 not the abuse it's the aftermath right
3:23 it's how we feel afterwards because now
3:26 we have to realize that we allowed
3:28 ourselves to get treated like that and
3:32 that this went on for so many years and
3:35 it's very uh hurtful to realize that and
3:37 then you go from all of that which
3:40 you've ever known the abuse to okay what
3:43 do we do now so who are we now actually
3:44 cuz we don't know who we are without it
3:47 you know we weren't allowed to explore
3:51 ourselves so I feel like my life started
3:54 when my father cheated on my mother it
3:56 finally started and then that was the
3:58 first moment in my life that I could
4:00 look at myself and be like okay Liz what
4:04 do we do now and for me my biggest thing
4:06 in life was always let me just make
4:10 money let me get rich because I can like
4:12 at least I cannot heal my family but I
4:14 would be able to like afford a Band-Aid
4:16 to put on top of like the wounds that my father
4:17 father
4:20 created and I kind of felt responsible
4:22 for the hurt that my family had been
4:23 through I don't know why but I felt
4:26 responsible so my whole life I was like
4:28 okay how do I make money how do I make
4:30 money and the more like
4:33 I was struggling also with my Ed ulmia
4:35 and when you're struggling with all
4:37 these things all your energy is going
4:40 towards that and that's why I tell
4:42 people that are for example trying to
4:45 lose weight let's say yeah I had this
4:46 conversation today actually with like a
4:50 woman in a store it was like she's like
4:51 uh I love your body like are you on a
4:53 diet like what's happening and I was
4:55 like you know the moment that I stopped
4:59 wanting to lose weight is when I lost it
5:01 and I couldn't I like now whatever I eat
5:02 I cannot gain it anymore which is
5:05 actually an opposite issue that's great
5:08 yeah but she I told her like because I
5:10 was in the same mindset of like putting
5:12 all my energy I couldn't even create
5:13 anything right so I couldn't create
5:15 business or anything because all my
5:17 energy was going towards food I wake up
5:19 I think about food I go to bed I think
5:22 about food because you know why why I
5:24 even feel like I got to eating disorder
5:27 because when you have a whole childhood
5:30 where you never felt in control
5:32 that eating disorder made me feel in
5:34 control of something I can control what
5:36 I eat or what I don't eat and somehow I
5:39 felt proud of myself right but it was
5:41 never about like the way I looked cuz it
5:43 was never skinny enough honestly I think
5:46 it's a form of like slowly taking your
5:50 own life I call it you know so when I
5:53 when I removed the energy from the
5:55 eating disorders and I was like you know
5:57 what cuz this went on for two years like
5:59 severe depression after my father father
6:03 left then I was like okay let's change
6:05 things how can I actually change because
6:08 I was so tired of blaming everyone or my
6:10 circumstances and I was like Liz you
6:12 need to start looking at yourself
6:13 because the reason why my life was like
6:16 that was because of me and no one else I
6:18 was abusing myself and it's like I don't
6:20 h i don't have anyone to blame look the
6:22 thing is like yeah I had an abusive
6:25 childhood but what do I do next do I
6:27 continue being a victim or take do I
6:30 take my power back because the more
6:33 energy I put into hating my father means
6:35 the more powerful he becomes and I want
6:37 that power I want to create you know
6:39 what I mean so I was like it's time for
6:41 me to pull all the energy back to myself
6:43 and the only way you do that is by
6:45 taking responsibility for your life
6:47 blame gives your power away and
6:49 responsibility gives it to
6:52 yourself oh my goodness that was so
6:53 powerful again I felt like I was just
6:54 watching your YouTube video I was I
6:56 forgot I forgot I had to ask you
6:59 questions I was like what I get so
7:02 passion when I love it okay one thing I
7:04 want to tell you is your energy is
7:06 infectious right and I think you know
7:07 that but I get to experience it in
7:09 person and it's beautiful as you said
7:12 that you know despite all the terrible
7:14 things that happened to you which you
7:16 didn't have a hand to play in but you've
7:18 turned that into something beautiful and
7:20 now you're helping everyone else around
7:21 you and that's incredible and you've
7:23 built such a beautiful life for yourself
7:25 so you should be very proud of yourself
7:26 you know what I'm trying to say I really
7:29 appreciate that but also now what would
7:31 you say say is any Mis misconception
7:34 that people still hold about you given
7:37 what they see online I think they see a
7:40 woman and um they think like oh she's a
7:42 narcissist that's what I hear often or
7:44 she's very toxic her mindset is very
7:47 toxic and it's like I think people they
7:48 don't know they don't understand what
7:51 narcissism actually is and an actual
7:53 narcissist wouldn't act like a
7:56 narcissist they act like the nicest
7:58 person that's why women stay in
7:59 relationships with narcissist for so
8:02 long cuz they don't understand what's
8:04 going on a narcissist is not someone
8:06 that comes on here and says I am amazing
8:08 I am mizing no that's just all like
8:11 that's too outward the narcissists are
8:13 more closeted and very manipulative in
8:16 the way they act you know and I feel
8:20 like once people see me for example and
8:22 I post let's say a Tik Tok yesterday I
8:24 post I always get what I want the reason
8:27 why I post this is because I want people
8:29 to look at the Tik Tok and read it in
8:32 their head for themselves but I know
8:35 what it looks like to others but at the
8:38 same time I think it's a good thing that
8:41 people even blame me or be be like she's
8:43 a narcissist she's too full of herself I
8:46 think it was a good impact because I
8:48 think there's people watching me and
8:50 thinking you know what she's so full of
8:52 herself and the way she talks if she can
8:55 talk like that about herself maybe I can
8:58 love myself a little they they become so
9:00 comfortable because I make them
9:02 uncomfortable in the way that I speak
9:03 you know what I mean yeah because they
9:06 see this as the extreme extreme but
9:07 somehow it make it can make them
9:10 confident because like she can be that
9:12 extreme maybe I can be like a little bit
9:15 of that like a 10% of what she's saying
9:17 you know what I mean no but I love what
9:19 you said about narcissistic people right
9:21 and I think that's again something that
9:23 a lot of people always ask me about I
9:26 have also experienced it but it's crazy
9:28 how however smart you are however
9:30 emotionally intelligent you are as a
9:33 woman especially how you get stuck in
9:35 that situation and what advice do you
9:37 have for people to even start to
9:40 recognize that this is a toxic situation
9:42 and this person might be
9:44 narcissistic so I've dealt with
9:49 narcissist in my life fair share um
9:52 first thing is a woman especially or
9:54 whoever needs to listen to their
9:58 intuition I feel like women have such
10:00 strong intuition it's almost like our
10:03 body and our soul knows that something
10:06 is wrong before it actually happens for
10:09 example me I see dreams about a person
10:10 that I'm not meant to be with I see
10:12 dreams about like leave or I see Visions
10:15 like leave and I don't listen because I
10:17 I think like I'm crazy I'm crazy but
10:19 then until something happens where I'm
10:22 like ooh but I knew that but I literally
10:23 knew that years ago I could have
10:25 prevented this but I didn't listen to
10:27 myself right so intuition is very very
10:29 important you're not supposed to feel
10:31 drained around a person you're not even
10:33 a friend you're not supposed to sit with
10:34 a friend and then come home and be like
10:37 oh my God like I feel so bad because a
10:40 negative energy exchange has just
10:43 happened right second thing is look at
10:46 their actions and not at their words and
10:49 I keep telling people this so I actually
10:51 had this thing with like uh a place that
10:52 I always go to for lunch okay and
10:55 there's like two waitresses that work
10:58 there and I absolutely love them okay so
11:00 they were telling me that the place is
11:02 closing down and a new owner is now
11:05 taking over and their previous owner
11:07 hasn't like uh given them a new contract
11:09 nothing so they are losing out on two
11:14 months of uh money like salary salary so
11:17 then what I did was I gave them that two
11:19 months of salary wow and then they were
11:21 like um and then they told me like I was
11:22 asking them because I want to help them
11:24 with their job and then they were
11:27 telling me like no but you know he's not
11:29 a bad guy Liz like our boss is not a bad
11:31 guy like he he's really like he says it
11:34 in such a way and I said uh-uh m- what
11:37 did he do he doesn't care about you guys
11:39 I care about them y yeah I care about
11:40 them and they're not they're not working
11:43 for me so it's like he should care about
11:44 you guys you take care of the people
11:46 that you work for or that are in your
11:48 life this is not normal so I'm like
11:51 don't listen to what he's saying look at
11:53 what he's doing and so many women
11:56 because we get so sensitive and we love
11:58 to hear things no look at the way he's
12:01 treat treating you if he's abusive but
12:03 tomorrow he tells you he loves you he's
12:06 abusive he doesn't love you someone that
12:09 loves you wouldn't abuse you you know
12:11 and I I think like once you start to
12:14 just look at people for who they are you
12:16 know when people become mesmerizing when
12:19 you put your energy into them so right
12:21 now if I look at you I find you amazing
12:23 okay I find you mesmerizing but it's
12:25 because we are exchanging our energy
12:28 right now but what if like for example I
12:30 had this actually with a previous
12:32 relationship of mine tell me so I would
12:35 think like look I've never been the
12:37 person to go for looks so I don't I
12:39 don't care okay the way you look I I
12:41 never really cared I care more about
12:43 intelligence and the way you are okay
12:46 but the more the relationship developed
12:48 I almost had like rosecolor glasses on
12:50 and I found that W this person can
12:52 manifest so well whoa this person is
12:55 becom so successful all these things and
12:57 I was like oh this this person is
13:00 amazing and even I thought like oh
13:02 because of him I must be amazing I
13:04 started giving him all the credit right
13:06 the minute I broke up with him and I was
13:08 like you know I'm done and I called all
13:10 my energy back to me and I was like this
13:14 is going to end I saw him again and I
13:16 was shocked I was like there is no way I
13:19 was with this person no I literally saw
13:21 him for the way he actually looked and
13:23 it's like my friends had been telling me
13:25 Liz there's no way cuz he was not a good
13:26 person either you know that's the main
13:29 problem but I was like I'm my energy
13:32 made him so magical to me and the same
13:34 way like all the things that I thought
13:36 like he's so successful he's so good at
13:38 manifesting it stopped when I removed my
13:41 energy so a lot of people are dating
13:43 people and they put them on a pedestal
13:45 but it's all because of your energy
13:47 there like a lot of women for example
13:49 men become more good-looking more
13:50 successful because they're with that
13:53 woman and then the woman starts to think
13:56 like oh he's too good for me oh he's the
13:59 uh-uh honey that's your energy I it you
14:02 know no you know I actually had the
14:03 exact same conversation with a friend of
14:05 mine where I was telling her that I'm
14:07 missing this guy who used to be in my
14:09 life and she was like but think about it
14:11 when you say he was funny it was you who
14:13 was actually funny all the things that
14:14 you think you miss about him was just
14:16 you being part of his life that made him
14:18 funny like that or make him interesting
14:21 make him U as you said dress better or
14:24 have more intellectual interest and
14:26 you're like that's so true like it it is
14:28 because of us together but without me he
14:30 doesn't doesn't have all the things that
14:32 I think he does yeah so it's crazy that
14:34 a lot of us you know this is what I love
14:36 about women talking to each other as
14:38 well right because I feel like we're all
14:40 so different and so unique but the same
14:42 time we have such similar life
14:45 experiences we do which is
14:47 crazy I I can't like the way you were
14:49 describing this whole scenario
14:51 especially that Moment of clarity when
14:53 you immed it switches once that Clarity
14:57 hits There's No Going Back the ick will
15:00 remain you're like there's no way like
15:02 seeing your ex partner the way your
15:05 friends saw him I never want to see that
15:07 again in my life the disappointment you
15:10 feel I was like there's no way you're
15:12 like wait who was it who liked this guy
15:13 I was like there must have been Magic on
15:17 me there's no way it wasn't me it wasn't
15:19 me that was that was not me it wasn't me
15:22 I was under a spell it's okay but okay
15:24 now going back to a little bit around
15:26 the same topic so another question we
15:28 got a lot of is now that we're on the
15:31 topic of of men and dating is you know
15:34 nowadays I don't know if it's the way
15:36 Society is evolving or the changes in
15:39 gender roles and traditional roles but
15:40 now you see a lot of women are very
15:42 successful right women are becoming more
15:44 and more independent and very
15:45 financially independent and therefore
15:48 successful and you get these women these
15:50 what you would term like high value
15:52 which I don't really like high value
15:53 women are the ones struggling to find a
15:57 partner why do you think that is I think
15:59 because um a lot of men are insec
16:01 and a lot of men take their value from
16:04 being successful so when you take that
16:06 away and you have a woman that is more
16:09 successful for than you that becomes a
16:11 competition for them you know and I
16:13 think that's actually sad because I
16:17 think people don't teach men to like for
16:18 example be more in touch with their
16:20 emotions develop other skills than just
16:23 making money because then they can also
16:25 get their value from those things but
16:28 right now because they put men on such a
16:31 pedestal for so long and they just
16:34 poured into young men and whatever and
16:36 women were just the house makers right
16:38 because they made that such a big thing
16:40 now you're sitting with all these men
16:42 yeah they they just know okay I'll get
16:44 my value if I'm successful if I'm
16:46 successful I'm a good man no like look
16:49 at your morals who like who are you as a
16:50 person get to know yourself better and
16:52 that's how you build that confidence a
16:54 confident men will not get intimidated
16:56 by successful women never ever ever but
16:59 there's just not enough confident men no
17:01 and even you know when you look at
17:03 masculinity so that's one question we
17:05 got for you actually from my audience
17:06 which was you know there's kind of like
17:10 a rise in like soft masculinity now you
17:12 know where I don't know you must have
17:14 seen all of these funny reals where you
17:15 know it's like men want the princess
17:17 treatment now they they don't want to be
17:19 the first one to tax they don't want to
17:22 be the one to pay the whole 5050
17:24 situation that is coming up but do you
17:27 think that is also causing an issue with
17:30 men like understanding their role and
17:32 their position in society now I think
17:34 men have always gotten the princess
17:36 treatments always I think there has
17:38 never been another another time the
17:41 amount of Standards men have for women
17:44 is insane okay but the minute you have a
17:46 woman that says like hey provide you
17:48 know like take care of me it's like no
17:50 you're a goldigger how how dare you say
17:53 that but how many men would date an
17:56 unattractive woman exactly they wouldn't
17:58 they just simply wouldn't okay because
17:59 they have that standard if you're
18:01 unattractive I don't want to date you
18:02 but once a woman has a standard and it's
18:04 like if you're a broke guy and with
18:07 broke guys I don't mean men that are
18:10 poor no I mean men that don't know how
18:12 to create abundance and that the that's
18:15 a big big issue see for example for me a
18:18 broke man how I uh classifi it is like
18:21 my dad my dad refused to work he doesn't
18:23 want to work he doesn't want to figure
18:25 out how to work he made my mom work her
18:27 whole life and she was taking care of
18:29 him okay he didn't respect himself and
18:32 he didn't respect my mother it was just
18:33 not IM balance at all and my mom had to
18:36 be hyper masculine to make up for the
18:39 lack of masculine energy in the house
18:43 right now when you have that a person
18:45 that doesn't know how to be abundant
18:47 that's a broke guy okay it doesn't
18:49 matter how much money he makes as long
18:52 as he's trying that's an abundant man
18:54 because a lot of people they especially
18:55 women they think like oh I just need a
18:59 rich man I've dated a very guy probably
19:02 the wealthiest guy I've ever dated he
19:05 was not generous at all broke yeah so
19:07 that's a broke man cuz what what do I
19:08 have with you you're showing me every
19:10 day how much money you're making but
19:13 what do I have with it is it what what
19:14 do I care how much money you make you
19:18 know so it's like um that's like just
19:20 the difference like when a man doesn't
19:23 know how to be abundant that's the big
19:25 issue so men wanting the princess
19:27 reement I think they always had that
19:29 right so it's like they always had a
19:31 standard for women they always had like
19:33 you have to behave like this and blah
19:35 blah and even like before when women
19:37 were supposed to be hous makers there
19:39 were so many standards you're supposed
19:40 to cook you're supposed to clean you're
19:41 supposed to take care of the kids and
19:43 look good on top of that and if you
19:45 don't I'm going to cheat on you and if
19:46 you do I'm going to cheat on you so it's
19:48 like women had to accept that but then
19:50 you had women for example that have a
19:53 platform like me that came on and we're
19:56 like stop accepting it like let's have
19:58 standards you know let's have standards
19:59 as a Col
20:01 and because of that yeah you have what
20:03 you have right now which is very
20:04 successful woman because they started
20:07 believing in themselves instead of a man
20:10 and chasing what they want and being who
20:12 they want to be instead of chasing a man
20:15 and like taking their value from being
20:18 with a man because that's also a huge
20:20 issue that women are facing you know
20:21 they think like oh my God if I'm not
20:23 married by this age or if I don't have
20:26 children then I failed as a woman but
20:28 who said that Society your parents your
20:31 culture who said that who set that
20:33 standard for women who said that if a
20:36 woman has her period she's dirty she
20:37 that like that's dirty who said all
20:40 these things if men could get their
20:42 period and could get pregnant we would
20:44 not be able to meet their standards the
20:46 they would have standards through the
20:50 roof the like anything that even is like
20:52 um like tampons all these things it
20:54 would be free it would be free yeah free
20:55 and they would have made like U medic
20:57 medicine or something to Sol like crams and
20:59 and
21:03 to help them massage toools at work yeah
21:06 days off days off
21:09 paid yes no for sure women would not be
21:11 able to meet their standards no no and
21:13 that's the thing I I'm so glad you
21:16 touched on this because this this has
21:18 come up many times in conversations with
21:19 my guests on the podcast and even with
21:22 my friends I keep seeing this because
21:23 now that uh women are getting in their
21:26 mid-30s and late 30s they're starting to
21:28 worry and all of these friends that I
21:30 have or even guests that I've met one of
21:32 them even said on the podcast that you
21:35 know I feel like I have the Villa that I
21:37 always wanted I have my cars I have my
21:39 six figure business and I sit in my
21:42 house alone and now I'm thinking did I
21:44 go wrong should I have focused on
21:45 finding a husband should I have focused
21:48 on find having kids younger because
21:51 that's when you are at your Peak on the
21:53 sexual market value if you want to call
21:55 it that and now she's like now what do I
21:58 do and now I see this kind of like I
22:00 don't know how to explain it other than
22:02 passive depression that is rampant
22:04 around where you see all these
22:06 successful women who at the end of the
22:09 day come home to a to like a quiet
22:11 apartment and they're sad and they feel
22:13 like they went wrong somewhere what
22:15 would you say to these people I think
22:17 that the grass is always greener on the
22:20 other side I know that there's a lot of
22:22 married women that wish they could come
22:25 home to an empty house I swear like they
22:27 have glamorized having children and
22:30 married so much and people don't see the
22:32 behind the scenes they always like show
22:35 you the pretty picture but all the work
22:37 that is behind the scenes all the
22:39 arguments all the compromises all the
22:41 things that cheating that happens and
22:43 then you have to think oh my god do I
22:44 want to stay married because I don't
22:46 want to lose face in other know in front
22:48 of other people so I just stay married
22:50 with a cheating husband and I just look
22:52 nice in front of everyone and then
22:53 someone looks at them and think oh I
22:55 wish I had that no you don't you don't
22:57 know what's going on in someone's house
23:00 behind closed doors you know my parents
23:01 like everyone that knew them they would
23:04 thought like oh father's a great guy
23:07 such an amazing man such a religious man
23:08 they would say you know behind closed
23:10 doors that was literally the Devil
23:12 Himself you know you never know what is
23:14 going on so I would say never glamorize
23:17 something if I think right now right now
23:19 about having children and a husband
23:22 that's a huge responsibility huge I I
23:24 rather right now in this position of my
23:27 life have my business make my own money
23:29 and be independent
23:31 and whoever comes into my life they can
23:34 add to it but I'm not thinking like let
23:36 me right now start a family because I
23:39 know that will take so much of my time
23:42 and energy into the family you know if I
23:43 want to raise it in a way that I would
23:45 want which is with full attention and
23:49 everything so it all depends on like do
23:52 you really want that or do you want to
23:56 create a perfect picture for society mhm
23:58 cuz we have to really go back to the
24:00 belief that we have cuz why do we have
24:02 that cuz it's also it's not only women
24:04 it's same with men right if you don't
24:06 get married as a man oh you're not a man
24:08 you're not you have do you're not a
24:10 father oh my God you're already late 30s
24:12 you're not a father it's like why push
24:14 things upon people some people don't
24:17 want that that's okay some people do
24:20 then yeah you find a way you date around
24:21 you see does this match with me but
24:24 don't do it because you feel like you're
24:27 losing time cuz I feel like everything
24:29 in life comes at the right time at
24:31 Divine timing when it's when it's meant
24:34 for you when something is not meant for
24:37 you it will not happen no matter what
24:39 you do when something is meant for you
24:42 no one can take that from you ever it
24:44 will come in like in the most miraculous
24:47 ways it will come so just let it go
24:49 women need to start letting stuff go
24:52 that is the how it no that is the
24:54 biggest thing look right before this is
24:57 l a month ago like one and one and a
24:58 half month ago
25:01 I was so obsessed with the outcome I
25:04 became very masculine because I like I
25:06 didn't have like anyone supporting me so
25:07 I was like I felt like I was completely
25:09 alone okay so I was like oh my God I I
25:11 need to have this I need to have this
25:12 like I need to figure something out and
25:15 I was going crazy so I was like focused
25:17 so much on my career and I was just I
25:20 was literally losing it okay and then I
25:22 went back home CU mentally I was not
25:25 doing well so I went back home to my mom
25:27 and uh I went home and then the second
25:30 day I arrived I went to walk in nature
25:32 and I always tell people go walk in
25:36 nature cuz nature is healing right um
25:38 the trees the plants all these things
25:40 these are living beings I even tell
25:43 people like put your back or your hands
25:46 against a tree it will remove any energy
25:48 that's not serving you because that's
25:50 how how we work with each other but
25:51 people don't know these things or they
25:53 don't want to try these things so they
25:55 don't get like really further in life
25:58 anyway so I went and I walked in nature
26:00 and I started talking to God and I
26:02 always used to do this thing a lot like
26:03 especially in the beginning of my career
26:05 like talking to God and having
26:07 conversations like he's my best friend
26:09 oh my God I say the same thing you know
26:10 we're going to talk about yeah keep
26:12 going sorry so then I was like I was
26:14 walking in nature and I started talking
26:17 to him and I said um God like uh I can't
26:19 take this anymore like not like this I
26:21 I'm like I want to do what I have to do
26:23 on this Earth and complete my mission
26:25 but not like this not on my own and I
26:28 feel very bad and I I said like I don't
26:30 want to live anymore and that was really
26:32 my mental state like I don't want to be
26:33 here anymore but I'm not gonna do it
26:36 myself so you do it okay you handle it
26:39 you please take my life so I was like um
26:40 I said that and then all of a sudden
26:43 while I was walking I heard like wanting
26:45 nothing gives you everything I heard
26:48 that sentence in my head and then I kept
26:50 walking and I started repeating it out
26:51 loud I was like onean thing nothing
26:53 gives you everything and then I
26:57 understood one thing nothing gives you
27:00 everything I I was too focused on I need
27:03 to have this I need to have F I need to
27:05 have work I need to have this I need to
27:07 be bigger and bigger and I was too
27:09 focused on them so what I realized was
27:11 if I just let go of I don't want
27:13 anything anymore like you handle it here
27:16 give it to God you handle it you know
27:19 when I did that everything I've ever
27:22 wanted came and it came so fast like
27:25 these past one and a half months my life
27:27 has changed 360 I've probably never been
27:30 happier than I am right now yeah which
27:32 is crazy but it was the minute I just
27:35 let it go I was like I don't care
27:37 anymore and you know this is you can see
27:39 it for example and you know why this is
27:42 also the thing when you let something go
27:44 you take your power back you take your
27:46 energy from that thing back now when you
27:48 are too focused on things for example
27:50 let's say you're obsessing over an ex
27:53 okay the minute you stop wanting that ex
27:55 all of a sudden he texts you all of a
27:56 sudden he calls you he's now obsessed
27:58 with you why you took your energy back
28:01 MH the minute you take back your energy
28:03 from all these things and you are now
28:06 whole by yourself those things become
28:09 attracted to you and they want to be
28:10 with you instead of you wanting to be
28:13 with them cuz nothing likes desperation
28:16 desperation is a repulsive energy when
28:18 you are desperate you have a lack
28:20 mindset you don't believe that this
28:22 Earth is abundant and this Earth is very
28:24 abundant God gave us everything this is
28:26 another thing that people always tell me
28:28 like oh how dare you you're asking for
28:29 for too much oh why do you want these
28:31 things blah but there's billionaires on
28:34 this earth like multiple multiple
28:37 billionaires why can I not have even 10%
28:38 of what they have what does it matter
28:40 money is is a is an abundant source as
28:42 well you know money gives you Freedom
28:44 that's the only reason why every want a
28:46 money for Freedom CU I can go where I
28:48 want I can do what I want I can help
28:52 people in a way that I want right so if
28:55 that is on Earth why can I not have it
28:58 if Earth God made this Earth so abundant
29:00 anything that is on this Earth I can
29:03 have and I will get whenever I think to
29:05 myself okay I want that but I just want
29:07 it and I don't focus on it like in a
29:10 desperate way but I know I have a goal
29:11 in the back of my mind but I'm not
29:14 desperate for it right that's when it
29:18 comes oh wow okay I love that also you
29:20 know what you said about um what is
29:22 meant for you cannot miss you and what
29:24 if it's not meant for you however hard
29:27 you try you can't get it I remember um I
29:28 go by this
29:31 thing that I saw some some time ago and
29:33 it's really hard to remind myself of it
29:34 but I try you know when they tell you
29:37 that um God will never say no to you God
29:41 only has three answers either it's yes
29:44 not now or I have something better so it
29:45 it's kind of like remembering that
29:47 whatever you're not getting in life is
29:49 because that's not the right thing and
29:51 again it's a very freeing thought right
29:53 it's like there's a bigger picture
29:54 there's divine intervention there's no
29:56 need to worry whatever is meant for you
29:59 will find you um but I like what you
30:00 talked about in terms of Letting Go and
30:03 I think overthinking is a huge thing
30:05 that our generation does we carry it
30:07 with us everywhere we keep trying to
30:09 plan everything and I think we didn't
30:11 even learn from Co how overnight we were
30:14 all in our houses nobody planned that
30:17 everyone's life turned upside down and I
30:20 think we still try to overthink and that
30:22 overthinking kind of like takes away the
30:24 joy of the present takes away the joy of
30:26 you being grateful and I think gratitude
30:28 is also something we don't practice ice
30:30 a lot of but now that we're on this
30:32 topic I want to ask you I feel like all
30:34 of this the overthinking the
30:37 overanalyzing holding on to things comes
30:39 a lot of times from a place of lack of
30:42 confidence of self-love because people
30:43 don't really understand the difference
30:46 between self-love and being selfish they
30:48 we always assume that we should not take
30:50 up space we should not talk about
30:53 ourselves about our successes so what
30:56 like magical tip do you have for people
30:58 in terms of how to build that confidence
31:01 muscle so basically I like I wanted to
31:03 touch on the thing where you said like
31:05 uh they call self love selfish yeah
31:09 exactly so in terms of that if you look
31:12 at the way children have been raised
31:14 it's always care for others do things
31:16 for others then you're a good person no
31:18 one ever tells you to take care of
31:21 yourself look after yourself oh you can
31:22 tell yourself you're beautiful who tells
31:24 you that no one tells you that because
31:26 then you're vain then you're then you're
31:29 selfish right now now if you look at it
31:31 in a in a broader picture who does this
31:34 benefit the people in power it benefits
31:37 them that you don't believe in yourself
31:38 right because if we have all these
31:40 people that believe in themselves how
31:43 can you control them you cannot control
31:45 people if I was let's say a person in
31:47 power and I was like a bad person or I
31:48 thought like I just want to control
31:51 people I would make them fear everything
31:53 I would tell them like if you do
31:54 anything you'll go straight to hell I
31:56 would tell that I would tell them like
31:58 um care for others if you care about
32:00 yourself oh you're a bad person I would
32:02 tell these things these are very smart
32:04 and manipulative things but you also
32:05 have to realize it's manipulative you
32:08 know you a lot of people also raise
32:10 their children to not believe in
32:11 themselves they don't even realize they
32:13 do it but they do it because they
32:15 thought like oh if you did something for
32:18 your sister oh then you're a good boy
32:20 good girl you did a good job if you did
32:21 something for your classmate or friend
32:23 then you're a good person if you did
32:24 something for yourself no one no one
32:26 applauds you for that no one says like
32:28 oh wow so that's
32:29 the confidence you build it by
32:33 applauding yourself for yourself looking
32:35 yourself in the mirror and say wow oh my
32:37 God you got that new job oh you're
32:40 amazing oh my God you're such a goddess
32:42 talk to yourself that way because it's
32:44 so easy for everyone to talk about their
32:46 friends like that to talk about the
32:48 people that we love but then we neglect
32:51 ourselves the most which you are
32:53 supposed to love yourself the most cuz
32:56 when you love yourself you are love and
32:58 you create love around around you a
33:00 person that doesn't love themselves
33:02 doesn't go out and is is happy with
33:04 everyone else that just not doesn't
33:07 happen you know so misery creates more
33:10 misery so you have to take care first of
33:12 like okay how do I feel how do I want to
33:15 feel how can I do that and I think a big
33:16 thing with confidence is as well like
33:19 create skills become good at something
33:21 because a lot of people they don't know
33:22 how to do anything they don't want to
33:24 learn anything and they're just blaming
33:28 like oh I'm just insecure if you're just
33:30 insecure create
33:32 something then you can be confident
33:35 about something and then that translates
33:37 to your inner confidence and the same
33:39 way people say like oh yeah but I'm just
33:41 ugly look at ways to become more
33:43 beautiful no but you can change yourself
33:45 no like and but a lot of times they say
33:48 like oh you should also just accept
33:51 yourself I don't feel like that's that's
33:53 most the case if I just accepted myself
33:55 I would still be in my bedroom with my
33:57 mom sitting there crying if I just
33:59 accept myself no I had to change things
34:01 and you have to be honest with yourself
34:03 sometimes you are the devil that you're
34:05 trying to blame cuz everyone wants to
34:07 say oh my life is bad because of this I
34:09 there must have been some magic in my
34:12 life that someone did no honey how are
34:14 you acting how who are you allowing
34:16 around you cuz that is also a big thing
34:18 for confidence CU it's like you have bad
34:21 friends you have like a bad partner that
34:23 you're constantly allowing to abuse you
34:25 to talk down on you you're abusing
34:27 yourself and you have to be honest with yourself
34:28 yourself
34:29 once you set that boundary of like
34:31 you're not going to treat me like that
34:33 and you actually walk away watch how
34:36 your confidence will Skyrocket cuz you
34:38 made that decision to walk away when
34:40 someone tells you like no you shouldn't
34:42 be saying anything like for example I
34:44 grew up with like my father saying um a
34:46 woman should never speak a woman should
34:48 never have a voice I feel my most
34:51 confident now when I speak I love them
34:53 because I made that decision that my
34:55 voice needs to be heard right and that's
34:58 a thing to be proud of so create things
35:00 for yourself that you can be proud of
35:03 even helping someone out like giving
35:04 them something that's something to be
35:06 proud of you did something good and then
35:08 applaud yourself for it you studied you
35:10 had a great you had a great test or
35:13 whatever result that you had amazing be
35:15 proud of yourself you know don't wait
35:17 for other people to to sit there and
35:22 clap for you clap for yourself first I
35:25 love that and you know um I agree with
35:26 you I think is the worst advice we can
35:29 give to people is just be who you are
35:30 because I think we can be a better
35:32 version of who we are and that's just
35:34 the starting point and who we are is as
35:37 you said beautifully is a result of what
35:39 we grew up with what we absorbed growing
35:42 up the society everything and we need to
35:44 shed these weights they're dead weight
35:46 we need to shed them so we can become
35:49 truly who we are meant to be and also I
35:50 just want to touch on you talked about
35:52 self-love and how if we don't love
35:54 ourselves we can't love people around us
35:56 which is so true because you know even
35:58 in the ads in the airplane PLS where
35:59 they show you that you need to put your
36:02 mask first and then help people around
36:03 because what's the point if you just
36:05 help everyone around and then that's it
36:07 you're gone that's not how it works and
36:09 again you've touched on that super super
36:12 nicely but um another thing I want to
36:15 ask you you know so this is a term I
36:16 don't like as well which is called
36:18 imposter syndrome you know a lot of
36:21 people blame whatever they feel or the
36:23 fact that they're not trying new things
36:24 not stepping out of their comfort zone
36:27 on feeling like an impostor and that
36:29 they don't belong and they can't do it
36:32 what do you think about that you know I
36:36 think in life you just have to do things
36:38 and then it becomes so it's like this
36:41 glass right here someone imagined it and
36:44 then they created it right so if you
36:46 imagine yourself as a version that you
36:48 want to be and you start acting like it
36:50 that's when it comes into the Physical
36:53 Realm but it all starts here so no
36:56 matter who you are right now is who you
36:57 are telling yourself that you are are
37:00 yeah is who your parents told you that
37:02 you are is who Society told you how you
37:05 have to act and how you have to be so
37:08 who you are or like just be who you are
37:09 doesn't make sense cuz who are we at the
37:11 end of the day I think we are just All
37:13 Souls on Earth and we don't know how to
37:16 behave as humans we're just waiting till
37:17 return back home but we're here like
37:20 okay what is this guys you know but it's
37:23 nice then I see Life as a video game I
37:25 see Life as like okay I can be whoever I
37:26 want to be because it doesn't matter at
37:28 the end of the day I will never be who I
37:30 fully am because it will always be
37:32 constructed by things around me or
37:34 people around me because that's how we
37:37 just are we're a soul not a human okay
37:39 we're just here experiencing life on
37:42 Earth so once you accept that and you
37:43 think like what does feel most
37:45 comfortable for me who would I like to
37:48 be who would I be happy if I was this
37:50 person then you start acting like it you
37:52 start acting like that person how would
37:54 they act how would they dress what would
37:56 they accept what would they not accept
37:58 what are their daily habits bits and
38:01 once you do something long enough it
38:04 becomes your life right you do it
38:05 something over if you're used to like
38:07 going to the gym every morning you wake
38:09 up you'll have a Fed body because you're
38:11 just always at the gym and it's not like
38:15 a practice that you always do right so
38:17 you just start to you cannot be an
38:18 impostor when you understand that
38:21 everything starts in your mind first
38:24 that's just how life is even diseases
38:25 that we have physical diseases that we
38:28 create start first in the mind a lot of
38:30 people they get like crazy illnesses
38:33 because trauma is stuck a lot of stress
38:34 and all these things but these are
38:37 emotions it's all emotions before it
38:39 comes into the physical so once you
38:40 understand that how can you be an
38:43 impostor cuz it just it starts here you
38:45 know it everything you know they they
38:46 say the same thing about being
38:48 delusional they say oh no you should not
38:50 be delusional we're delusional every
38:54 single day every day we're delusional we
38:56 wake up thinking we will not die no one
38:58 is waking up to today I'm going to die
39:01 today I will die no no one everyone
39:03 believes that they will live on until
39:04 it's your time of course you know what I
39:07 mean so you can so you can be delusional
39:09 every day in life but not about the
39:12 thing that you want that's like too far
39:14 right no like once you understand this
39:17 mind creates your whole whole life whole
39:19 life once you change the mind and once
39:21 you change the things that you think or
39:24 or you set a goal for yourself in like
39:26 this is the person that I want to be
39:28 this is who I want to show up as in this
39:31 human body yeah cuz it's like a game
39:34 then that's who you become that's who
39:36 you become that's how people will treat
39:39 you that's how your surroundings will
39:40 change that's how you will enter rooms
39:42 that before you couldn't enter because
39:44 now you're just unlocking a new
39:47 character of yourself it's fun oh my God
39:49 yeah it's like a new level yeah it's
39:52 like a new level oh I like that analogy
39:54 but okay you also touched on this and
39:56 before I forget because your brain is
39:58 moving so fast and I'm trying to keep up
40:00 I was like it's too fast every time you
40:02 say something I make a mental note I
40:04 want to ask her this and then we we
40:07 reach 10 later but you know you talked
40:09 about how even your surroundings right
40:11 and the people around you make a big
40:13 difference um there's this whole saying
40:15 that you are the average of The Five
40:17 People You spend most time with but one
40:19 thing I have experienced and I'm sure
40:22 you have given how how quickly your life
40:25 changed as well is that a lot of people
40:27 you outgrew friends especially who were
40:29 there in very good times and I've been
40:32 very surprised to see the how some
40:34 friendships evolved and some of them
40:37 stayed very true with me throughout but
40:38 some people who were there in the
40:40 trenches kind of like rooting for me
40:42 hoping it will happen but then when it
40:44 happens they're not that happy about it
40:45 and they don't celebrate your wins how
40:47 do you deal with
40:49 that well you know it's very logical
40:51 that that happens because you're
40:53 uncomfortable now yeah they don't want
40:54 to be around you it becomes
40:58 uncomfortable because now it's like you
41:00 were in the same position as them once
41:03 right and you made it out so now that
41:05 means these people have to look at
41:07 themselves and only can blame themselves
41:09 now they cannot blame society they
41:11 cannot blame the per the place they grew
41:13 up in or whatever they cannot blame
41:15 outside forces because you did it so
41:18 it's like oh so I could do it too but I
41:20 didn't and that eats away at them and
41:22 then jealousy gots created you know I
41:25 think jealousy is a good emotion why
41:27 because it shows you what you want if
41:29 someone is jealous of me they just want
41:32 what I have or they what they think I
41:34 have right what the glamorized version
41:36 of that is but that's good so now you
41:38 have a goal take that jealousy transmute
41:42 that jealous energy into creating that
41:43 because I'm not sitting here telling I'm
41:45 better than you I'm sitting here you can
41:47 do the same thing you know I posted
41:50 something yesterday on my Tik Tok and um
41:52 it said like uh it was like I I get
41:54 anything I want you know like an
41:56 affirmation and someone commented like
41:58 yeah because you're millionaire and I'm
42:00 like but I came from nothing though a
42:02 few years a few years ago I came from
42:05 nothing and I I took care of my family's
42:08 financial situation I built everyone and
42:10 I made even because I like uh became
42:12 successful my family believes in
42:14 themselves now and they think like oh we
42:17 can do whatever we want cuz Liz did it
42:20 right so it's like don't look at my
42:22 success and be like Oh but you're here
42:24 now three years ago I was just like you
42:27 girl just like you literally yeah so
42:29 it's like yeah it's the same thing like
42:32 take that jealousy and start to look at
42:33 okay how can I actually get what they
42:35 want if you're jealous of beauty if
42:36 you're jealous of whatever that's just
42:38 what you want it's an indicator of what
42:41 you want cuz it's not about that person
42:44 it's every everything in life what we
42:46 experience is about ourselves we're
42:48 thinking from our perspective always so
42:50 anything even someone says to you it's
42:53 like a projection of how they feel right
42:55 it's not about you so when you realize
42:57 like you know what it's not really about
42:59 me but I hope you get what you want if
43:02 someone is jealous of me I I I send them
43:04 like love and I say I hope you get there
43:06 cuz that's what you want right otherwise
43:09 why are you jealous I'm not jealous of
43:10 um what's it called the people that
43:12 climb the mountains cuz I don't want to
43:15 climb that mountain but I bet there's
43:17 some people jealous that someone climbed
43:20 that mountain that's what they want it's
43:22 good once you take that energy instead
43:24 of making it something negative
43:27 transmute it people create the biggest
43:30 art when they're sad when they're angry
43:32 when they're jealous they create crazy
43:36 art music everything like uh art pieces
43:38 they create everything out of it do it
43:41 do the same thing oh uh yeah definitely
43:43 I think the main message is being
43:45 inspired instead of like being jealous
43:47 right see it as a don't demonize the
43:50 emotion cuz everyone this is the issue
43:52 with jealousy people think I'm jealous
43:55 I'm a bad person now you're not you just
43:57 want what they want then okay figure out
43:59 how can I get there if your friends were
44:01 in the same situation and you could get
44:03 there they can get there too 100% they
44:05 can get there too but just have to think
44:07 okay how can I do what she did you know
44:10 mhm no absolutely but you know what I
44:13 like about you Liz is how you are so
44:16 disconnected from whatever is petty you
44:18 know you're you're just you you've risen
44:20 above and you're just like H this is I I
44:23 get the human nature behind it I see
44:25 where it comes from you are very good at
44:27 recognizing what matters and what
44:29 doesn't and you you're good at choosing
44:31 your battles how did you get to that
44:33 level of being like you know what I'm
44:36 not going to sweat the small stuff you
44:38 know uh thank you by the way and then
44:40 also I feel like ever since I was young
44:42 I had that quality so I didn't have time
44:45 to be a child I had to grow up very fast
44:46 so I was like an adult since I was young
44:49 I was like a mother to my mother okay so
44:51 because of that whenever I would like
44:53 speak or anything my mom used to call me
44:55 like a lawyer she's like you defend
44:57 anyone you see their perspective from
45:00 any person you see a perspective okay
45:02 which is not always a good thing but I
45:04 do I understand why someone did what
45:07 they did I can get into their shoes and
45:09 I can almost feel what they felt when
45:12 they did that do I accept certain
45:15 behaviors even though I understand no I
45:17 can understand that what you did was
45:19 wrong but you also have to understand
45:21 that I will put my boundary here and be
45:23 like you won't do that to me ever again
45:26 right so that's how I operate I'm like I
45:28 can understand I can have empathy with
45:30 you I can feel bad for you and think
45:32 like I'm I'm happy I'm not in your
45:34 position I'm happy I don't wake up a
45:36 hater I'm happy that I think God the
45:39 biggest curse he gave was that making
45:42 someone a hater like imagine waking up
45:44 thinking about how many people you hate
45:45 or thinking about let's make him
45:48 miserable her miserable that's sad so
45:50 I'm like thank God that I'm not that
45:53 person but I can have empathy for you
45:55 but doesn't mean that you have to be in
45:57 my life though doesn't mean that I to
45:59 and I feel like giving them attention or
46:02 feeding into it or let's say reacting to
46:05 these things puts them in my life in my
46:07 reality but it's like you don't exist in
46:10 my world if I don't let you exist in it
46:12 and that's it I have that power so I
46:14 don't let you exist if I don't like you
46:16 you know what I mean absolutely
46:18 boundaries right yeah very important
46:21 very important but I mean I could speak
46:22 to you for hours but we're running out
46:24 of time I speak to you for hours thank
46:27 you so what would you say is a parting
46:29 message or any advice that you would
46:31 want to give to anyone listening to you
46:34 today I would say like really start
46:36 believing in yourself and start
46:38 believing in God I think to believe in
46:40 God is to believe in yourself I think we
46:42 don't ask God for enough things and we
46:45 don't ask for big enough things you have
46:46 to ask for the small stuff and the big
46:49 stuff and I feel like once you have like
46:51 lately I've been even closer to God and
46:54 I feel like the closer you are to God
46:57 the higher your vibration raises
46:59 and that's how also the negative things
47:01 and the lower vibrational things cannot
47:03 affect you CU you're not on that Vibe
47:06 you know what I mean so I think believe
47:07 in yourself believe that anything you
47:10 want can happen and will happen no
47:12 matter how long it takes it will happen
47:14 it just will and you have to have that
47:17 belief but don't become obsessed with it
47:18 don't become obsessed when you know when
47:20 people become obsessed with certain
47:22 things that's when they start to lose
47:24 the connection to themselves when you
47:25 become obsessed with money you become
47:27 obsessed with Fame you become obsessed
47:29 with relationships you start to lose
47:31 yourself always keep that connection
47:33 with yourself and I think one of the
47:35 truest way of keeping that connection
47:36 with yourself is keeping a connection
47:39 with God I love that thank you so much
47:41 Liz for being here today so much for
47:43 having me no this was incredible and I
47:45 wish you only the best and I can't wait
47:47 to see how many more Leaps and Bounds
47:49 you take online and with everything you
47:51 do thank you for helping all of us and
47:54 thank you for this therapy session thank
47:55 you so much for having me I really
