0:02 You know, there's something absolutely
0:03 extraordinary that occurs when two
0:05 people who have genuinely awakened to
0:08 their true nature encounter each other.
0:09 It's not what the romantic novels tell
0:12 you. It's not what the spiritual
0:14 communities often describe. It's
0:16 something far more subtle, far more
0:19 profound, and in many ways far more
0:20 beautiful than anything we've been
0:22 conditioned to expect. Most
0:25 relationships, if we're honest, are
0:26 based on a kind of mutual incompleteness.
0:28 incompleteness.
0:30 Two people come together because each
0:31 feels that something is missing,
0:32 something is lacking, and the other
0:34 person seems to promise to fill that
0:36 void. This is what we usually call
0:39 falling in love. But it's really falling
0:41 into need. It's two halves trying to
0:43 make a hole. Two empty cups trying to
0:45 fill each other. Two drowning people
0:46 clinging to each other in the hope of
0:48 staying afloat. And there's nothing
0:51 wrong with this necessarily.
0:53 This is where most of humanity lives.
0:55 And these relationships can be perfectly
0:58 functional, even pleasant. But they're
1:00 based on a fundamental misunderstanding.
1:01 They're based on the belief that you are
1:03 incomplete, that happiness exists
1:05 outside of you, that another person can
1:07 give you what you lack within yourself.
1:10 But when two awakened souls meet,
1:12 something entirely different happens.
1:14 And the first thing you need to
1:16 understand is that awakened souls don't
1:18 need each other. Let me repeat that
1:21 because it's crucial. They don't need
1:24 each other. They're already complete.
1:26 They've already discovered that the
1:28 wholeness they were seeking was never
1:31 outside themselves. They've realized
1:33 that they are not separate limited
1:35 beings who need to be completed by
1:39 another. They are the universe itself
1:41 experiencing life through a particular
1:44 form. So when two such people encounter
1:45 each other, they're not coming together
1:48 to fill a void. They're coming together
1:50 because they want to, not because they
1:53 have to. And this simple distinction
1:55 changes absolutely everything. The
1:57 entire quality of the relationship is
1:59 transformed when it's based on choice
2:01 rather than need, on preference rather
2:03 than desperation, on celebration rather
2:05 than compensation. Think about it this
2:08 way. When you're hungry, really hungry,
2:10 you'll eat almost anything. You're not
2:12 tasting the food. You're just trying to
2:14 fill the emptiness. But when you're
2:16 already satisfied, when you're already
2:20 full, then if you choose to eat, it's
2:22 pure enjoyment. You're tasting every
2:25 flavor, appreciating every texture.
2:26 You're eating for the pleasure of
2:29 eating, not to fill a hole. This is what
2:31 happens when awakened souls come
2:34 together. They're not using each other.
2:35 They're not trying to extract something
2:37 from each other to fill their inner
2:39 emptiness. They're simply enjoying each
2:42 other, appreciating each other,
2:43 celebrating the mystery of
2:45 consciousness, recognizing itself in
2:47 another form. And here's what's
2:49 fascinating. Because neither person
2:51 needs the other, because neither is
2:53 clinging or grasping or demanding,
2:55 there's a kind of freedom in the
2:56 relationship that most people never experience.
2:58 experience.
3:00 Each person is completely free to be
3:04 themselves, to change, to grow, to move.
3:06 There's no sense of possession, no fear
3:09 of loss, no desperate attempt to control
3:11 or manipulate or make the other person
3:12 conform to some image of what they
3:15 should be. When an awakened person looks
3:18 at another awakened person, they're not
3:19 seeing someone they need to complete
3:21 them. They're seeing the universe
3:24 looking back at itself. They're
3:25 recognizing that the consciousness
3:27 looking out of those other eyes is the
3:28 same consciousness looking out of their
3:31 own eyes. It's one awareness
3:34 experiencing itself from two different
3:37 vantage points playing a kind of cosmic
3:40 game of hideand seek. This recognition
3:42 creates a very particular kind of
3:44 intimacy. It's not the desperate
3:46 clinging intimacy of two people who fear
3:49 being alone. It's not the melodramatic
3:51 intensity of two egos trying to merge
3:53 and losing themselves in the process.
3:56 It's something much more spacious, much
3:59 more relaxed. It's the intimacy of two
4:02 dancers who trust each other completely,
4:03 who don't need to hold on to each other
4:05 to stay balanced, who can move
4:07 independently while still being
4:09 perfectly synchronized. Let me tell you
4:11 what doesn't happen when two awakened
4:14 souls meet. There's no drama. Oh, there
4:16 might be passion, there might be
4:18 intensity, but there's no drama in the
4:21 neurotic sense. No games, no manipulation,
4:22 manipulation,
4:25 no power struggles, no desperate
4:27 attempts to change the other person
4:28 because both people have seen through
4:30 the game of ego. They're not playing it
4:33 with each other. There's no jealousy or
4:36 at least no clinging jealousy. An
4:37 awakened person might feel a momentary
4:39 flash of jealousy because they're still
4:42 human, but they don't identify with it.
4:44 They don't make it into a story. They
4:46 don't use it as a weapon. They see it
4:50 for what it is, a temporary emotion, a
4:52 wave on the surface of consciousness,
4:53 nothing more. There's no fear of
4:56 abandonment because the awakened person
4:58 knows they can never truly be abandoned.
5:00 They know that even if the other person
5:03 walks away, they're still complete,
5:05 still whole, still connected to the
5:07 universe itself. They might feel sadness
5:09 at the ending of a relationship, but
5:11 they don't experience that existential
5:13 terror that comes from believing you've
5:14 lost something essential to your
5:17 survival. And perhaps most importantly,
5:19 there's no attempt to possess the other
5:22 person. The awakened soul understands
5:23 that you cannot possess another human
5:25 being any more than you can possess the
5:28 wind or the ocean or the sky. The other
5:30 person is free, has always been free,
5:32 will always be free. And rather than
5:34 seeing this as a threat, the awakened
5:37 person sees it as beautiful. They're not
5:39 trying to cage a bird. They're marveling
5:41 at the bird's ability to fly. So what
5:43 does happen when two awakened souls
5:47 meet? First, there's recognition. It's
5:48 often instantaneous.
5:50 Not in the romantic sense of love at
5:53 first sight, but in a deeper sense of I
5:55 see who you really are and you see who I
5:57 really am. There's a kind of
6:00 transparency that occurs. All the usual
6:03 masks, all the social performances, all
6:05 the ego defenses, they become
6:08 unnecessary. Both people can relax into
6:10 their authentic nature. This recognition
6:12 creates a very particular quality of
6:15 communication. When awakened souls
6:17 communicate, they're not just exchanging
6:19 information or defending positions or
6:21 trying to impress each other. They're
6:23 playing. They're exploring. They're
6:26 dancing with ideas and perspectives.
6:27 They can disagree completely about
6:29 something without it threatening the
6:31 relationship because they're not
6:33 identified with their opinions. They're
6:35 not their thoughts. They are the
6:37 awareness in which thoughts arise.
6:40 There's also a profound respect,
6:42 not the superficial respect of
6:45 politeness, but a deep recognition of
6:47 the mystery that each person is. The
6:50 awakened soul knows that they cannot
6:52 fully understand another person, can
6:54 never completely know them, and they
6:56 don't try to. They allow the other
6:58 person to remain mysterious, to be
7:01 unpredictable, to surprise them. They're
7:02 not trying to figure the other person
7:04 out so they can control or manipulate
7:07 them. They're simply appreciating the
7:10 enigma. When two awakened souls are
7:12 together, there's often long stretches
7:14 of comfortable silence. They don't need
7:17 to fill every moment with words. They're
7:18 comfortable with just being in each
7:20 other's presence. The silence isn't
7:22 awkward or uncomfortable. It's full,
7:25 rich, alive. They're communing at a
7:27 level deeper than words. Consciousness,
7:30 resting in consciousness, awareness,
7:32 enjoying awareness. And when they do
7:35 speak, there's a quality of listening
7:37 that's quite rare. Each person is truly
7:40 hearing the other, not just waiting for
7:42 their turn to talk, not filtering
7:44 everything through their own agenda or
7:47 assumptions. They're open, curious,
7:49 genuinely interested in the other
7:51 person's perspective, even if it's
7:53 completely different from their own.
7:55 There's also a kind of humor that
7:57 emerges when awakened souls meet. They
8:00 can laugh at the cosmic joke together.
8:02 They can see the absurdity of existence,
8:05 the improbability of consciousness, the
8:07 strange game that life is playing. They
8:10 don't take themselves too seriously.
8:12 They can laugh at their own egos, at
8:14 their own patterns, at the human comedy
8:16 of which they're both apart. Physical
8:19 intimacy, when it occurs between
8:21 awakened souls, takes on a completely
8:24 different quality. It's not about need
8:26 or conquest or validation. It's not
8:29 about using the other person's body to
8:31 distract yourself from your inner
8:35 emptiness. It's a celebration, a dance,
8:38 a form of play. It's consciousness,
8:39 exploring consciousness through physical
8:42 form. There's no performance anxiety
8:43 because neither person is trying to
8:46 prove anything. There's no disconnection
8:48 because both people are fully present,
8:50 fully aware, fully alive to the moment.
8:52 And here's something interesting.
8:55 Awakened souls can be together or apart
8:58 with equal ease. They don't cling to
9:01 constant togetherness. They understand
9:03 that closeness and distance are both
9:06 valuable, that separation can be as
9:08 nourishing as union. They can give each
9:10 other space without it meaning
9:12 rejection. They can come together
9:15 without it meaning possession. There's a
9:17 natural rhythm to the relationship like
9:19 breathing in and breathing out, coming
9:22 together and moving apart. And neither
9:24 phase is seen as better or worse than
9:26 the other. When conflicts arise, as they
9:28 inevitably do even between awakened
9:31 souls, they're handled very differently.
9:33 There's no need to be right. There's no
9:35 need to win. Both people are more
9:37 interested in understanding than in
9:39 being understood, more interested in
9:41 resolution than in victory. They can
9:42 admit when they're wrong without it
9:45 threatening their sense of self. They
9:47 can apologize without resentment. They
9:49 can forgive without keeping score.
9:51 There's also a profound generosity in
9:53 the relationship. Not the forced
9:55 generosity of someone who's trying to
9:58 earn love, but the natural generosity of
10:00 someone who's already full. The awakened
10:02 soul gives freely because it's a joy to
10:05 give, not because they expect something
10:07 in return. They support the other
10:10 person's growth even when that growth
10:11 takes the person in a different
10:13 direction. They want the other person to
10:15 be fully themselves, even if that means
10:18 growing beyond the relationship. And uh
10:19 this brings me to a crucial point. When
10:22 two awakened souls meet, they understand
10:23 that the relationship might not be
10:26 forever. And they're okay with that.
10:28 They're not trying to lock it down to
10:30 make it permanent to guarantee that it
10:33 will last until death do them part.
10:35 They're enjoying it now fully,
10:37 completely without projecting into the
10:40 future or comparing it to the past. And
10:43 paradoxically, this very lack of
10:45 clinging often makes the relationship
10:47 last longer and go deeper than
10:49 relationships based on need and fear.
10:51 There's also a quality of surrender in
10:53 the relationship. Not the surrender of
10:56 one person to another, but both people
10:57 surrendering to something larger than
11:00 themselves. They're allowing life to
11:02 move through them, to express itself
11:03 through their connection. They're not
11:05 forcing the relationship to be anything
11:07 in particular. They're letting it be
11:10 what it is, letting it evolve naturally,
11:13 trusting the process. When awakened
11:15 souls are together, they bring out the
11:17 best in each other, but not through
11:19 criticism or pressure or trying to fix
11:22 each other. They do it simply by being
11:24 themselves, by modeling what it looks
11:26 like to live authentically, by creating
11:29 a space where the other person feels
11:32 safe to drop their masks and defenses.
11:34 Each person's awakening deepens the
11:36 other's awakening. It's a kind of
11:38 resonance like two tuning forks
11:40 vibrating at the same frequency
11:42 amplifying each other. There's also a
11:44 sense of sacred ordinariness in the
11:47 relationship. Everything becomes
11:50 meaningful. Even the mundane activities,
11:52 washing dishes together, sitting in
11:55 traffic, paying bills. These ordinary
11:58 moments become infused with presence,
12:00 with awareness, with the recognition
12:03 that this moment exactly as it is, is
12:06 the only moment there ever is. They're
12:07 not waiting for some special moment in
12:09 the future to be happy. They're finding
12:12 the extraordinary and the ordinary, the
12:14 sacred, and the mundane. And here's
12:16 something that might surprise you.
12:19 Awakened souls can feel all the emotions
12:22 that everyone else feels. They feel
12:25 attraction, affection, even jealousy and
12:28 anger and sadness. But they don't
12:31 identify with these emotions. They don't
12:33 make them into problems. They don't
12:35 build stories around them. They feel
12:38 them fully and completely and then let
12:41 them pass. It's like weather passing
12:43 through the sky. The sky doesn't cling
12:46 to the storm or push away the sunshine.
12:49 It allows both to come and go. When two
12:51 awakened souls meet, there's also a
12:53 recognition that the relationship is not
12:55 about personal fulfillment. It's not
12:57 about completing each other or finding
13:00 happiness together. It's about something
13:03 much larger. It's about consciousness
13:05 exploring itself, about the universe
13:07 experiencing itself in relationship,
13:09 about life expressing itself through the
13:11 dance of two beings who've remembered
13:13 who they really are. There's a famous
13:16 Zen saying, "Before enlightenment, chop
13:19 wood, carry water. After enlightenment,
13:22 chop wood, carry water." The same could
13:24 be said for relationships. Before
13:26 awakening, you relate to another person.
13:28 After awakening, you relate to another
13:30 person. The actions might look the same
13:33 from the outside. But the inner quality,
13:36 the inner experience is completely
13:38 transformed. The awakened relationship
13:41 is not free from challenges. There are
13:43 still practical matters to navigate,
13:45 differences to bridge, adjustments to
13:47 make. But these challenges are not seen
13:49 as problems. They are seen as
13:52 opportunities for deeper understanding,
13:54 for greater wisdom, for more complete
13:56 presence. Every difficulty becomes a
13:58 teacher. Every conflict becomes a
14:01 doorway to greater consciousness. And
14:03 perhaps most beautifully, when two
14:06 awakened souls meet, they create a field
14:08 of consciousness that affects everyone
14:10 around them. Their presence together has
14:12 a quality that others can feel even if
14:15 they can't articulate it. It's peaceful
14:17 but not passive. It's joyful but not
14:20 manic. It's loving but not needy. It
14:22 radiates outward, touching everyone it
14:25 encounters, inviting others to remember
14:27 their own true nature. This is what
14:30 happens when two awakened souls meet.
14:33 Not the fireworks and drama and
14:36 desperate clinging of neurotic love, but
14:38 something far more precious. A meeting
14:41 of two beings who've remembered what
14:43 they are, who see the divine in each
14:45 other, who can dance together without
14:48 stepping on each other's toes, who can
14:50 be completely together and completely
14:52 free at the same time. It's a
14:54 relationship not of need but of
14:56 celebration, not of possession but of
14:59 appreciation, not of fear but of trust,
15:01 not of becoming but of being. And in
15:03 this being together, in this mutual
15:05 recognition, in this dance of
15:07 consciousness with consciousness,
15:09 something profound is revealed. That
15:11 love is not something that happens
15:14 between two separate beings. But the
15:15 recognition that there are no two
15:18 separate beings. There never were and
