0:03 Hey, bro. Yeah, you. Let's talk about
0:06 something nobody really prepares you
0:08 for. Getting over someone you never even
0:12 dated. No relationship, no closure. But
0:17 still, it hurts. It lingers. You replay
0:19 every conversation, every text, every
0:22 almost. You imagine what it could have
0:25 been because you felt something real,
0:28 but reality never caught up. And that's
0:31 what makes it worse, right? There's no
0:35 breakup, no final argument, no reason to
0:38 cry. So people don't understand why it
0:41 messes with you so much. But I do
0:44 because I've been there. So tonight, no
0:48 distractions, no visuals, just you and
0:50 me. Let's figure out how to let go of
0:54 the person you never really had. You
0:57 fell for the idea, not the person.
0:59 Here's the first truth. You didn't fall
1:02 in love with them. You fell in love with
1:05 the idea of them, with the way they made
1:09 you feel. When they smiled, when they
1:12 texted back fast, when they gave you
1:15 just enough to hope. You built a version
1:17 of them in your mind. Not who they
1:20 actually were, but who you hoped they
1:24 could be. And that version, that version
1:27 loved you back. But real connection
1:29 doesn't live in potential. It lives in
1:32 action. And if they weren't showing up
1:35 for you, if they weren't making you feel
1:38 seen, chosen, or safe,
1:41 then you weren't in love. You were in
1:45 fantasy. And that's okay. We all do it.
1:47 But you can't move on from someone you
1:51 never saw clearly. Start there. Separate
1:53 who they were, from who you made them in
1:57 your mind. They gave you crumbs and you
2:00 called it a meal. Let's be honest, they
2:03 didn't give you much. But you held on to
2:05 every little thing, a like on your
2:08 story, a your funny during a late night
2:12 chat, a smile across the room, and you
2:16 twisted it into hope, into meaning, into
2:18 maybe this time it's different. You
2:22 overanalyzed. You waited. You gave
2:24 energy to someone who never gave it
2:27 back. And that's not on them. That's on
2:31 you. Because deep down, you knew. You
2:34 just didn't want to admit it. You
2:37 deserved more. You still do. But when
2:39 you're starving emotionally, even crumbs
2:42 feel like love. So, stop chasing
2:45 validation. Stop making excuses for
2:48 their inconsistency. You're not crazy.
2:51 You were just hungry for something real.
2:53 Next time, wait for someone who serves a
2:56 full meal. You were available. They were
2:59 not. This part stings, but it's the
3:04 truth. You were ready. You showed up.
3:06 You were emotionally present and they
3:10 weren't. Maybe they liked the attention.
3:13 Maybe they flirted when they were bored.
3:15 Maybe they didn't even realize the
3:18 weight of what they were doing. But they
3:22 were never allin. And you felt it. You
3:24 hoped they'd wake up one day and finally
3:27 see you. But that day never came. And
3:29 every time they pulled away, you felt it
3:33 in your chest. That imbalance, it eats
3:36 at your confidence. Makes you question
3:40 if you're enough. But hear this. You
3:43 are. They just weren't capable of
3:45 showing up for the version of love you
3:48 were ready to give. So stop waiting for
3:51 someone who was never meant to stay.
3:53 Closure isn't something they give you.
3:56 It's something you choose. You keep
3:58 thinking if they just explained why they
4:02 pulled away. You could move on. If they
4:06 just said, "Sorry, I led you on." You'd
4:09 be fine. But that's a trap. Closure
4:12 doesn't come from them. It comes from
4:15 you. You close the chapter when you stop
4:18 rereading the old pages. You move on
4:20 when you stop needing answers from
4:22 someone who never gave them in the first
4:25 place. You don't need an apology to
4:27 heal. You don't need them to admit
4:31 anything. You just need to say enough.
4:35 Enough waiting. Enough hoping. Enough
4:37 carrying their silence like it means
4:40 something. Because silence is your
4:43 answer. And your peace begins. The
4:45 moment you stop looking back, you'll
4:49 miss them. But one day it won't hurt.
4:52 Some days will still sting. A song, a
4:56 smell, a memory. You'll wonder if they
4:58 ever think about you. You'll feel the
5:01 old ache come back. That's okay. Healing
5:04 isn't linear. You're allowed to feel it.
5:07 But don't stay there. Don't text them.
5:11 Don't spiral. Instead, breathe. Come
5:14 back to yourself. Remind yourself that
5:17 just because it didn't work doesn't mean
5:18 you weren't worthy of something that
5:22 will. You gave your heart even when you
5:24 didn't have a title. You loved in
5:28 silence. And that kind of love, it's
5:32 rare. It's powerful. And it deserves to
5:35 be returned. So, keep walking, keep growing.
5:37 growing.
5:39 The person meant for you won't leave you
5:43 wondering. You're healing already. Hey,
5:45 you made it this far and that means something.
5:47 something.
5:50 This wasn't about forgetting them. It
5:52 was about remembering yourself. You
5:55 don't need their love to feel whole.
5:58 You've got your own. You've got clarity
6:00 and you've got a future that's bigger
6:04 than one person who never chose you. If
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