0:02 most of us fail in life because we're
0:04 afraid of what everyone around you is
0:07 thinking that's a 100 truth
0:10 people one thing you have to learn early
0:12 in life i didn't learn this till later on
0:13 on
0:15 i don't give a mother
0:16 you can't care
0:17 care
0:20 what anybody thinks about you if i care
0:22 what people thought about me you think
0:24 i'll be yelling out here
0:26 doing 105 pound rock
0:28 talking [ __ ] this is who i
0:31 am find out who you are
0:34 and own that [ __ ]
0:36 and tell people to go themselves i think
0:38 i had to stop caring what people thought
0:40 about me i realized that everybody stopped
0:41 stopped
0:43 that's the one thing i realized i walked
0:45 around i put these people on a
0:47 [ __ ] pedestal everybody was better
0:50 than me so i can't tell you anything
0:51 about me because you're going to judge
0:52 me and i'm going to feel even worse than
0:53 what i am
0:55 what i realized once i calmed my mind
0:57 down and sat back and looked at how
0:59 jacked up this world is
1:02 once you realize that you are not alone
1:04 everybody that's talking to you about
1:06 how jacked up you are the only thing
1:08 they've done better than you
1:10 is they've hidden
1:12 their [ __ ] up world better than you have
1:13 have
1:14 that's all they've done
1:17 we live by the narrative
1:19 of other people
1:21 when i first called a recruiter to be a
1:23 navy seal and i was 297 pounds the first
1:25 recruiter looked at me and said
1:27 you're not going to be able to make this man
1:28 man
1:29 so what he was doing was he's projecting
1:31 his energy on me he knew he couldn't be
1:33 a [ __ ] navy seal
1:35 so god helped this black guy because i
1:37 was only the 36 african-american to make
1:39 it through in over 70 years
1:40 how's this black fat guy going to make
1:42 it through in my ass
1:44 you wouldn't even want to try so he's
1:46 projecting so a lot of us who are
1:49 negative people all we do is project how
1:51 we feel in other people
1:54 a lot of times i'll be in a 200 mile run
1:55 or something like that
1:58 and i'm all jacked up
2:00 body's broken mine's broken spirit's broken
2:01 broken
2:03 i start to say what if i can pull this
2:05 off when i first walked into the navy
2:07 seal recruiter's office he looked at me
2:09 and said there's only been 35 african
2:11 americans in 70 years make it through
2:13 you know i said to myself
2:16 what if i can be the 36th
2:17 it's the what if
2:20 i can pull off a [ __ ] miracle
2:23 what if i can become someone that no one
2:25 thinks i can be and just that just me
2:26 talking about that
2:28 i have the hair growing up on my arms
2:30 because it makes me just like
2:33 what if so what happens is there's a lot
2:34 of negative people walking around the
2:36 planet earth who are afraid to try
2:38 because everybody a lot of people are
2:40 very negative in this world
2:43 so we are afraid to fail why i told you
2:45 man shouldn't even try to dude
2:47 just chill out relax why are you so
2:49 crazy why you so obsessed
2:51 so all that stuff drives the uh quitting
2:53 mind i call it
2:55 the mind wants to quit the mind is tired
2:56 the mind thinks it's very deserving so
2:58 the biggest problem in this world is
3:00 other people not yourself there's other people
3:02 people
3:04 in your head they are puppet mastering
3:06 you pretty much on your life my next
3:08 door neighbor two months ago she just
3:10 killed herself tons of veterans i know
3:13 they killed themselves i got an email
3:16 two weeks ago from a family member that
3:19 an 11 year old boy killed himself from
3:20 people at school bullying him
3:23 one thing about life is that people in
3:25 life they are the ultimate puppet
3:28 masters they exploit your weakness and
3:30 they love to walk you around life and
3:32 own space in your head one of the
3:34 biggest ways to cut those strings and
3:36 walk on your own two [ __ ] feet to
3:38 your own destination in life
3:41 is to build self-respect self-esteem
3:44 self-discipline all those things stay
3:46 hard is not just about going to the
3:49 [ __ ] gym stay hard is about going
3:51 that extra step and you [ __ ] you can
3:52 that's what builds self-esteem and
3:54 self-respect stay hard because i
3:57 realized once i was talking to myself
3:58 the right way
4:02 and all this [ __ ] wasn't in my mind wow
4:04 i went from this piece of [ __ ]
4:06 kid who thought he was dumb not successful
4:07 successful
4:09 insecure who stuttered when i first saw somebody
4:10 somebody
4:12 to a person who can now do all these things
4:13 things
4:16 just because i now control my whole mind
4:18 when you get to the point where you
4:20 really [ __ ] don't care you're
4:24 dangerous you become very very dangerous
4:26 i'm not saying don't care like i don't
4:28 care if i do that no when you don't care
4:30 about other people
4:32 and how they view you about how you walk
4:34 how you talk how you dress where you
4:35 want to go with your life [Music]
4:36 [Music]
4:40 with success in life comes more haters
4:42 don't make them hurt your feelings
4:44 use them for fuel
4:45 use them for energy
4:47 in times of need
4:49 put them on the [ __ ] mental roller
4:50 decks in your mind
4:53 and when you don't want to do [ __ ]
4:55 roll through your brain
4:57 pull up that [ __ ] that you need
4:59 that person who said you couldn't do something
5:00 something
5:02 work fast enough good enough smart
5:03 enough where the [ __ ] it may be
5:05 use it for energy
5:08 instead of killing them with kindness
5:10 torture and success
5:12 in life we have to continue pushing past
5:13 the odds
5:15 use everything this world has to give
5:18 you for fuel stay hard you know growing
5:20 up i didn't want to tell anybody i want
5:22 to be in the military because why
5:24 some of my black friends i was afraid of
5:26 what they think i was afraid of what
5:28 other people thought about me so now
5:30 i'm not going to military i know you
5:31 [ __ ] join the military you ain't
5:34 telling as afraid what you thought
5:36 once again man you're allowing other
5:39 people to shackle your mind is the worst
5:40 thing in the world so when i saw the
5:43 military uniform when i was growing up i
5:44 thought to myself if i can get that
5:46 uniform on
5:48 i would find honor
5:49 honor
5:51 and wear the uniform
5:53 so not only do i want to be
5:55 in the military
5:57 i want to be in special ops
6:00 but i realized to be a special ops
6:02 you gotta know how to swim
6:05 so i got a how-to book on swimming
6:08 first page was easy float
6:10 so i went to the pool
6:11 tried to float
6:14 i sank right down to the bottom
6:17 i realized i was negative point as hell
6:19 the more i failed
6:21 the more my father's words
6:23 were creeping to my mind
6:26 about how i'm not good enough
6:28 all this other [ __ ] he said to
6:29 dehumanize me
6:31 as time went on
6:32 i started
6:35 realizing the more i didn't quit
6:38 the more self-respect
6:39 i gained
6:41 and the power
6:43 was all mine
6:46 in life it's important to do one thing
6:47 many people
6:50 were trying to humanize you
6:51 it's up to you
6:53 to find self-respect
6:55 and dignity
6:57 in yourself
6:59 you don't need a uniform
7:00 to have honor
7:03 you need to have pride in yourself dignity
7:04 dignity
7:05 stay hard
7:07 you have to first accept it before you
7:08 can fix it
7:10 a lot of people walk around oh man i'm good
7:11 good
7:14 i'm good i know you're not
7:16 you have to accept what you're not
7:18 you have to and people don't want to do that
7:19 that
7:22 that's the only way you can fix it
7:23 you have to accept it first before you
7:25 can go on the journey a lot of folks
7:27 never even start the journey man
7:28 they never start to join because they
7:31 live in this fake life
7:33 that who they want to be
7:34 they act like they are but they're not
7:36 because they haven't fixed all this
7:37 stuff yet
7:39 you got to fix this first before we can
7:41 start our journey in life so that's why
7:43 i haven't make this list you fix these
7:44 problems now your journey can begin
7:47 because you no longer care about how
7:49 people are judging you
7:50 when when you care more about how
7:52 someone's judging you you're going to
7:54 stay right there
7:56 there's no forward momentum do you think
7:57 you could go the other way and maybe
7:59 become a bit cold if you don't care what
8:01 anyone thinks your fiance your kids you
8:02 know those they're not the people around
8:04 do you not care what they think that's
8:06 the thing about it you have to have an
8:08 understanding of what not caring means
8:11 if your fiance and your kids don't
8:13 believe in you
8:15 you can't care what they think
8:17 that means you chose the wrong support staff
8:19 staff
8:20 so that's why a lot of people don't
8:22 understand one another your support
8:24 staff has to be like if i want to go out
8:25 and do
8:27 whatever it is
8:29 my support staff is
8:31 you know my fiance
8:32 and she's like you know what you know i
8:34 don't think that you should be doing
8:36 that i have to take it you know
8:38 why so i could be open minded so so why
8:40 are you saying this
8:42 but she's saying it because of her
8:44 you know that's not that's not the right thing
8:45 thing
8:46 because i need backing you know what i'm
8:49 gonna do open-mindedness i need support
8:51 so you gotta be very
8:53 clear thinking about all that stuff for
8:54 instance there's all these things that
8:56 are on tv and we have all these news
8:59 people judging people who up in life
9:01 yeah they made big mistakes
9:03 but that person who is judging you on tv
9:06 i guarantee you that that news person
9:08 and say i'm glad that my [ __ ] didn't
9:10 come out i know that about people so if
9:12 you want to sit back and judge how
9:13 jacked up i was and how messed up my
9:15 life was merry christmas go for it have
9:18 a good time but i'm smiling at you right
9:19 now knowing
9:20 you have a secret that you're not
9:23 willing to share it gives you a lot of
9:25 power when you're able to go on a
9:27 podcast this big and say hey
9:29 tell me i'll tell you anything you want
9:31 to know i no longer care there's a lot
9:33 of power in that
9:34 to be able to put your life on a
9:36 billboard for the whole world to see and
9:38 say judge it man
9:40 judge it like just me talking about it
9:42 makes me feel good
9:43 and that's another thing about it when
9:45 you are willing to talk about how jacked
9:47 up you are
9:49 the strength that big rock that you carry
9:50 carry
9:52 it just starts to come off you it just
9:54 starts to come off that's what i do as
9:55 often like hey man i'll tell you
9:57 anything you want to know i'm tired of
9:59 being afraid
10:00 i'm tired of not telling your [ __ ] tired
10:03 of lying about how good i'm not
10:05 i used to always want people
10:07 to accept me
10:09 and like me
10:11 so i became
10:13 who they were
10:15 if you liked something
10:17 and i didn't like it
10:19 i liked it because you liked it
10:22 become unapologetic
10:25 of who the [ __ ] you are in your life
10:26 you get after it you're a hard [ __ ]
10:28 [ __ ]
10:29 get after it
10:31 you gotta make yourself
10:34 better than what you think you are
10:36 and what that requires
10:38 is people not can understand you
10:40 not know you
10:42 not get you at all
10:44 look at you like you're off
10:46 look at you like you've a problem don't
10:48 worry about that [ __ ]
10:49 be unapologetic
10:52 get after it stay hard be who the [ __ ]
10:55 you are my circle is very small
10:57 i made sure i didn't hand pick these people
10:58 people
11:00 because i'm like so so you don't want
11:02 people in your corner they're like oh
11:04 let me pat you in the background you do
11:06 i don't want people pat in the [ __ ]
11:09 back because i woke up in the morning no
11:11 so you don't want that you want people
11:12 who are honest with you who are going to
11:15 tell you what the [ __ ] is honest honest
11:17 and truthful people so someone who's
11:19 honest and truthful
11:20 who has lived
11:22 is accountable for their own personal life
11:23 life
11:24 that's what you want in your court said
11:27 hey man you're pretty [ __ ] dumb
11:30 like this is not smart or you're beating
11:32 you know you're being deterred today
11:34 you're not getting after it that's when
11:36 you want your core so you don't want a
11:37 lot of people
11:39 hand pick people to be in their corner
11:41 who kiss their [ __ ] ass
11:42 you don't want that the most important
11:45 step we'll ever take in life
11:46 is our next one
11:48 but a lot of us get our feet stuck in concrete
11:50 concrete
11:51 we get our feet stuck in concrete
11:53 because we're afraid
11:54 to make enemies
11:55 one thing in life you're gonna always
11:58 have haters embrace them
12:01 if you can walk on [ __ ] water
12:03 trust me your haters are safe
12:05 you can walk on water because you can't
12:07 [ __ ] swim
12:09 shut the [ __ ] noise out
12:11 embrace the fact that people don't like
12:13 you means you're doing something right
12:15 stay hard
12:16 stay in the fight
12:18 but i don't respect a lot of people
12:20 because how am i going to respect you
12:23 if you're not [ __ ] grinding every day
12:26 and i mean working out getting the gym
12:29 really going out there and grinding
12:31 so if you don't know how i'm living my life
12:33 life
12:35 how am i gonna respect you
12:37 so you have to be a hard worker period
12:39 thought you gotta work your [ __ ] ass
12:41 off that's where i gain respect for you
12:43 so if you're working hard every day
12:46 now you have an opinion in my eyes but
12:49 if you're just a guy who talks [ __ ]
12:51 and you live this [ __ ] life of
12:53 talking [ __ ]
12:55 come on dude i understand one thing
12:57 you're just talking [ __ ]
12:59 but if i see you every day of your life
13:01 trying to be better
13:03 every day going through all the wickets
13:04 to be better
13:07 you got my attention i respect you now
13:10 so we first have to face the real you
13:12 the real me is david goddess the real me
13:14 is the guy looking at you right now
13:15 saying i don't want to be on this show
13:17 right now because i used to stutter as a kid
13:18 kid
13:20 and i'm afraid of that i'm afraid that
13:22 here in a second i'm going to start
13:23 [ __ ] stammering and stuttering and
13:25 the whole world's gonna know that i have
13:27 all these issues
13:29 but that's when i see right now okay
13:31 goggins you gotta go on this [ __ ] show
13:32 show
13:35 that's god's goggins is saying okay
13:37 david goggins you're a punk
13:40 life made you this way we can't live
13:41 like this we can't live in fear we can't
13:43 live in judgment
13:45 you can't be afraid of what the [ __ ]
13:46 people right now are looking at me
13:48 saying about me we cannot be afraid of that
13:49 that
13:51 that's goggins
13:53 god is saying [ __ ] all of you who don't
13:55 like me who don't want it and that
13:57 person then comes in
13:59 but you have to be david goggins and say
14:01 man i'm afraid of this i'm [ __ ] up
14:04 here life made me this way here i
14:06 stutter i i have these issues with the
14:08 reading and writing and i'm fat and i'm insecure
14:10 insecure
14:13 you have to face that in that dark room
14:16 in that dark room is who you are but in
14:18 that dark room is where you have to create
14:19 create
14:22 another human being that walks out of
14:23 that garden
14:25 to face who you are
14:27 that's the only way you're going to get over
14:27 over
14:29 all those things you have to create
14:31 someone else
14:32 not like you have two different
14:34 personalities it is you
14:36 but you have to find strength and that
14:38 visualization of almost me
14:40 cracking out goggles like almost like
14:43 that superman cave like i'm coming out a
14:44 different person a person that doesn't
14:46 give a [ __ ] about anything
